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Ðaughter had £280 took off her from her Dad

162 replies

NimbleBee · 09/05/2025 14:55

Hi all, my 7yr old DD has been visiting her grandparents with my ex (her Dad) every Wednesday. Her Grandparents have been giving my DD £5 every week for a year so 52x5=£260 saved. DD saved it at grandparents house in a purse, hoping to spend it on her holiday.
Dd told me yesterday that grandparents had given her this money to bring home now with upcoming holiday.
Dds dad took the money from her and spent it in the Ladbrokes gambling and on alcohol and cigarettes.
I am absolutely fuming and will be having words with ex.
Aibu to tell grandparents what has happened?

OP posts:
lunar1 · 09/05/2025 15:09

I’d tell them!

lostinthesunshine · 09/05/2025 15:08

Yes, they need to know, even if it’s only so that if they want to give their DGD money they can make it more secure, like a bank account, so her father can’t steal from her

StupidBoy · 09/05/2025 15:08

I'm a bit confused about how a 7 year old knows for sure that he spent it on fags, booze and Ladbrokes bookies, though. Presumbly it was her who told ou this? She wouldn't have been allowed in there with him, so how would she know? I doubt he told her.

JohnMajorsChicken · 09/05/2025 15:07

Well, what do you think?
Of course not.

ERthree · 09/05/2025 15:07

You must tell them. They have saved that money for their Granddaughter and believe she is going on holiday and will have plenty of spending money. They need to know their son has stolen that money and gambled it away. If my son done that i would kick his arse and it would be a long time before i could even speak to him.

WaltzingWaters · 09/05/2025 15:06

How disgusting. Definitely let them know.

StupidBoy · 09/05/2025 15:05

God, what an absolute skank. Yes, absolutely tell his parents.

hattie43 · 09/05/2025 15:01

your ex is a vile scumbag and I hope the money is replaced for your DD

U53rn8m3ch8ng3 · 09/05/2025 15:01

That's awful, definitely tell the grandparents. What a scum bag

AnSolas · 09/05/2025 14:59

GP have the right to know as he stole the money from his child

Coconutter24 · 09/05/2025 14:57

I’d tell them so that they don’t hand over any of your DDs money to him again

CoastalCalm · 09/05/2025 14:57

What a disgusting thing to do - I would tell them so they know what kind of son they have