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Ðaughter had £280 took off her from her Dad

162 replies

NimbleBee · 09/05/2025 14:55

Hi all, my 7yr old DD has been visiting her grandparents with my ex (her Dad) every Wednesday. Her Grandparents have been giving my DD £5 every week for a year so 52x5=£260 saved. DD saved it at grandparents house in a purse, hoping to spend it on her holiday.
Dd told me yesterday that grandparents had given her this money to bring home now with upcoming holiday.
Dds dad took the money from her and spent it in the Ladbrokes gambling and on alcohol and cigarettes.
I am absolutely fuming and will be having words with ex.
Aibu to tell grandparents what has happened?

OP posts:
pinkyredrose · 09/05/2025 16:06

Not another ai post? 'The Ladbrokes'?

Butchyrestingface · 09/05/2025 15:59

StupidBoy · 09/05/2025 15:08

I'm a bit confused about how a 7 year old knows for sure that he spent it on fags, booze and Ladbrokes bookies, though. Presumbly it was her who told ou this? She wouldn't have been allowed in there with him, so how would she know? I doubt he told her.

He may be so far gone that he told her himself.

The grandparents need to know so they can avoid throwing their money down a drain in future.

TonTonMacoute · 09/05/2025 15:57

Arlanymor · 09/05/2025 15:40

You have to tell them because you need a new arrangement and I don't think you should shy away from telling them exactly why a new arrangement is needed. This is not something to be kept under the rug. Hope your DD is ok.

I think is a good idea. Suggest that in future they might want to put it in a child's savings account for her instead.

However, tempting as it is to land the low life scum in the shit with the GPs, I wouldn't go too overboard with your explanation - he is still their son. They will be able to draw their own conclusions without you rubbing their noses in it.

WiddlinDiddlin · 09/05/2025 15:57

Fuck no, tell them straight away! And yes, give them whatever appropriate bank account/kid savings account etc details you have for her so this cannot happen again.

What a nasty fucker he is.

Starlight7080 · 09/05/2025 15:57

Definitely tell them .
What a awful thing to do

CantStopMoving · 09/05/2025 15:55

I would pretend you don’t know what he did and I would first as your ex to give you the money for safekeeping and see what he says

Thistooshallpass. · 09/05/2025 15:53

Tell them he stole their money from his own daughter and ask that they tell him to pay it back immediately.

TheCurious0range · 09/05/2025 15:51

Absolutely tell the grandparents and if she has a bank account give them the details do they can pay any further money into that for her.
He's absolutely awful

Blackdow · 09/05/2025 15:49

Tell them. They need to know what happened.
And i’d consider reporting him to the police. That wasnt his money; he stole it.

Muffinmam · 09/05/2025 15:43

Yes, absolutely tell your child’s grandparents. Tell them exactly how much your daughter saved, exactly how much their son stole, and exactly how much he spent gambling. You should also tell them how devastated their grandchild is that her own father stole from her and gambled the money and to please not give her any more money because her father - their son - will only steak it again.

Deckings · 09/05/2025 15:43

mummytoonetryingfortwo · 09/05/2025 15:34

Not only do you tell them, you make a police report.

That is theft. Plain and simple. Tell the police, then the grandparents.

Your poor, poor daughter

That's a police matter.
Pure theft.
What an unbelievable loser.

Bestwishes23 · 09/05/2025 15:43

I have a brother like this. Absolutely tell them - it's abhorrent behaviour. Your poor child :(

Arancia · 09/05/2025 15:41

Your poor daughter. Absolutely talk to her grandparents about what their disgusting pig of a son has done. Absolutely unacceptable and vile for a father to steal money from his 7 year old child to gamle and buy alcohol. How did you even find this guy?

Arlanymor · 09/05/2025 15:40

You have to tell them because you need a new arrangement and I don't think you should shy away from telling them exactly why a new arrangement is needed. This is not something to be kept under the rug. Hope your DD is ok.

CalicoPusscat · 09/05/2025 15:39

Taking money from his own child!! 😮

Gorden Bennett he's a piece of work. I assume this is why you split up, @NimbleBee? The drinking and gambling and theft?

Definitely say to the grandparents, poor child.

Hollietree · 09/05/2025 15:38

mummytoonetryingfortwo · 09/05/2025 15:34

Not only do you tell them, you make a police report.

That is theft. Plain and simple. Tell the police, then the grandparents.

Your poor, poor daughter

I agree. I would absolutely make a police report about this, alongside immediately telling his parents.

Vaxtable · 09/05/2025 15:35

I would tell them, and ask them that in future the money is given to you not your daughter so her stanky father gets hold of it

mummytoonetryingfortwo · 09/05/2025 15:34

Not only do you tell them, you make a police report.

That is theft. Plain and simple. Tell the police, then the grandparents.

Your poor, poor daughter

sprigatito · 09/05/2025 15:25

StupidBoy · 09/05/2025 15:08

I'm a bit confused about how a 7 year old knows for sure that he spent it on fags, booze and Ladbrokes bookies, though. Presumbly it was her who told ou this? She wouldn't have been allowed in there with him, so how would she know? I doubt he told her.

Did you grow up with a gambling/alcohol-dependent parent? She knows. 😞

Foreheadthing · 09/05/2025 15:25

Omg. Absolutely tell the GP. He needs to pay it back, and they need to know what an awful person he is!

Emilysmum90 · 09/05/2025 15:19

I'd tell them immediately so they stop the arrangement straightaway. Say it's very kind of them but in future please could they put any money in a savings account for her or give it to you directly for safe keeping, as their son is a bloody thief.

DottieMoon · 09/05/2025 15:16

Why on earth would you NOT tell them?! Absolutely tell!

jessycake · 09/05/2025 15:15

I would tell the grandparents then perhaps they could find another way of saving for her

Glohc · 09/05/2025 15:12

Of course tell them

historyrepeatz · 09/05/2025 15:11

What a vile man and father stealing from his child. Poor DC learning that she can’t trust her dad at 7.

I wouldn’t expect GP’s to replace it especially without knowing their financial circumstances but I would absolutely tell them so they know he will likely do it again and they can make arrangements accordingly.