Ðaughter had £280 took off her from her Dad

Yep update them but do it factually so that they can avoid a repeat

what does your ex say about it and how will he replace the cash

Yes I would definitely tell them.

They need to know what he’s like so they don’t lose their money again.

Ugh. That's horrible. When I was a kid, my dad would ask to borrow money (that I got from birthdays/christmas) and spend it on weed. My dad didn't live with us and I'd always agree to give him the money because it would be the only time I'd see him.

100% agree.The GPs need to know DD came home without £280. That's likely all the OP knows to be fact. It's up to GPs what they do with that information. My spider sense tells me they will draw the same conclusion as the OP.

Disgusting person, tell the gp. But what a valuable lesson for your dd - I never had anything like that happen to me at 7 so when a student and working in a bar, at 20, the manager said 'all tips collected should be put in a common jar and I am keeping them and putting them every week in an envelope in my office with every member of staff name on it, and you will get it at the end of the month'. At the end of the month I got 4 pounds.

It's appalling but in my sorry experience of a gambler this is what they are like. Ask her DGP to set up a savings account for her age to put the money in there where only you and DD have access

Absolutely agree with the other posters you need to tell them what’s happened so they don’t think your DD has just spent the money. Also, they can keep track for future money they decide to give her. Hopefully they’ll tackle the son and encourage him to give the money back to her

He’s a disgusting lowlife. Absolutely tell the Grandparents. They deserve to know what thieving scum their son is.
Poor DD

Tell them, they put that money away for your daughter so she could have some money to enjoy herself. Not only has it gone, it has been stolen and used in a despicable way and by her own father. It is shocking and upsetting and while they are going to feel those emotions they really need to know what has happened.

I think if the little girl said 'Nanny gave me money but daddy took it to look after and didn't give it back' then if you know your ex is the kind of twat who'd steal from his own child so he can gamble and get pissed, I guess it's probably a fair assumption to make that that's what he's done.

But if it's a suspicion/assumption based on past experience then just say that. Don't talk as though it's a cast iron fact when you know no such thing thing. Otherwise you risk making the whole thing look like mad up fairy tale. A seven year old simply wouldn't work out that all of the money had been blown on booze and gambling. It's highly improbable.

Is this another 'Bored Panda' thread?

thats really sad for your DD. I would tell them, simply because , they need to know that if they want to give DD money, it needs to come to you and not to him.

They might not believe you, but they do need to know that he just took it and spent it.

Always report everything. The police will note it and that might be useful in the future.

We had a mini crime wave in our area. It fell on me to chase up why no action had been taken. Turned out not one single event had been reported.

The squeaky wheel gets the oil in Policing terms. Rightly or wrongly, 200 reports gets more action than 5.

What an absolutely terrible man. So disgusting!

You still report it, then there is a record. And they usually would actually come out since it is a child involved.

Oh come in, the police will do nothing.

@NimbleBee i wish the 1% who say the op is unreasonable would own up¬!!

what an absolutely shitty thing to do to a young child!! I know that if i find any money on the floor in their rooms then it goes into a bowl in their rooms. same goes for the odd fiver in the washing machine. if it looks like it has come out of their trackies then it goes into their room. different if it comes out of dh's jeans, then it is mine!

Yes tell the grandparents not so they feel they have to replace the money but so in future they give the money to you and not their Dad. And hopefully so they make their son replace the money.

All the above obvious affirmations aren't helping. The OP needs good solid advice.

Tell the grandparents and everyone that could possibly deal with your ex and money/gifts for your daughter.

Your ex has a serious problem and can't be trusted with money or property that isn't his.

Simply put, he has problems. I'd talk with him if that's possible, but he needs help.

Don't not assume anything anyone will do, it's not fair on others. You stay straight as an arrow and focused. Don't not concern yourself with other people's opinions or responses. Make yourself clear and move on.

Don't tell the grandparents that their son stole the money they had saved?

How do you know that’s what he did - was DD with him , is she sure ?
Id ring the DGP to check that she did actually have £280 in her purse and to check that they have definitely given it to their DS to bring home to you before accusing anyone .
If he has done it I’d challenge him directly and threaten to report him for theft unless he replaces the money immediately. I’d also think twice about leaving DD in his care if he spends his time with her gambling & drinking

Also why do some posters have to have ‘ suspicions’ a post is fake? It’s like any experience/ way of thinking other than their own is invalid and so must be fake. It’s such an odd take.

Have a plan B ready for when he says "What? Never! I gave it to her Mum! She's always lying about me, and now she's getting our daughter to lie about me too!". They're his parents, they want to think the best of him, they might even start to believe it.

Something similar happened with me about 20 years ago.Great grandparent on dad’s side gave my son, then aged 2 £4.5k for his future. My partner at the time, his dad, gambled it all. I told his mother ( my son’s grandparent). She didn’t react well. Blamed it on me for having a PC in the house he could gamble on!

Be prepared for the mother to make excuses for her son, but absolutely tell her.

I think she means the post seems fake.

I have suspicions too. Why would someone need to ask if stealing from a 7yo DD was wrong?

I don't agree with your point and I do have experience here on the subject. The child wouldn't make a detailed assumption like that. It's too detailed for a child and alot of adults smoke for example that's not out of the ordinary as such. And to pinpoint the name of the betting office... unlikely.