Ohh I’m in this situation now. Living away from my grown children and grandkids. This is my partners hometown. He’s not lived here from been 21 until moving back in 2019 aged 45 when leaving the army.
In 2023 my daughter had gone through domestic abuse literally every kind. I never knew even when visited this never occurred. When it all come out I went to help out with the children for a few months . Partner could see how much I missed the kids and we spoke whilst I was at my daughter and agreed 2026 was the move year. Im just reflecting and I do believe he only said about move 2026 to get me back. In the last couple of years he’s said won’t move until parents pass. He spends a hour a week with his parents so that’s not a be all and end all reason. He could come visit spend weekend with them have quality time. Not sell house down here and I need a £20k deposit before he will move. I earn a quarter of what he earns. Everything now seems to be on his terms.
He works 12-15 hour days said moving he could cut days and hours down as better job opportunity and pay. We’d get to enjoy work family life balance. Just Easter we visited my daughter was cooking Sunday toast and his words were this will be great when moved just getting together doing this. And then on way back home later that week told me won’t move. I’m stuck advice is needed so badly. I’m lonely and miserable here yet so happy when visiting family.