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Is Mumsnet an English forum?

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Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 11:16

Seems like pretty much every poster and responder assumes everyone on here is from England.

When asking questions regarding schools, health care, tenancy etc surely it would be useful to say what country you live in since the rules and laws are different all over the UK/world.

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OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 09/05/2025 12:34

I haven't read all the replies,
but this from Wikipedia says:

Mumsnet is a London-based internet forum, created in 2000 by Justine Roberts for discussion among people with child- or teen-aged offspring.

History and finances

Mumsnet was created in 2000 by Justine Roberts, who came up with the idea of a website to help parents pool information and advice, following a disastrous first family holiday with her one-year-old twins. Roberts persuaded friends Carrie Longton and Steven Cassidy to help her build the site.

The website grew to become one of the most influential online forums for parents; in November 2009, then–Prime Minister Gordon Brown, opposition leader David Cameron and many other leading UK government ministers took part in live webchats with Mumsnet users.

In March 2010 Mumsnet's 10th birthday party was hosted by Google UK at their London headquarters. Guests included Ed Miliband and Steve Hilton, and both then-Prime Minister Gordon Brown and his wife Sarah Brown gave speeches. Gordon Brown referred to Mumsnet as a "great British institution".
In May 2011, Roberts founded Gransnet, a sister site to Mumsnet for users over 50.

Roberts, the CEO, was named in The Guardian's 2010 Power 100. In February 2013, Roberts and co-founder Longton were assessed as the 7th most powerful women in the United Kingdom by Woman's Hour on BBC Radio 4. Roberts was appointed Commander of the Order of the British Empire (CBE) in the 2017 New Year Honours, for services to the economy.

In 2018, Mumsnet had 1.3 billion page views from 119 million unique users, and a revenue of £8.6 million.
In April 2020, Mumsnet announced a premium membership option.

so based on the above, it was initially London, England based and has grown...

Madcatdudette · 09/05/2025 12:34

@Purpleturtle43 so where are you from?

latetothefisting · 09/05/2025 12:34

Laiste · 09/05/2025 11:32

Why ignorant?

I agree, why is it ignorant OP? It's just a numbers thing, not a superiority thing. I'm from one of the other uk nations but it doesn't bother me that the majority of posters on MN are most likely going to be speaking from an english pov, it's just statistically more likely.

The problem with expecting people to clarify that they are talking about a situation different to the norm/majority experience is that they would need to be aware themselves that the situation is different elsewhere first! e.g. I'm vaguely aware that funding for under 3s is different in the different nations but couldn't tell you the exact details.

It would be nice if the bargain basement sherlock holmes' didn't focus on the unnecessary details that aren't actually relevant to what is being asked by the OP because they think it's evidence they've caught a troll. e.g. if someone is asking about their child being bullied on their first day back in school it's irrelevant to jump on them because your child isn't back for another few weeks - just assume they are somewhere where schools have slightly different term dates rather than going straight to 'they must be lying!'

there was a thread on here a few years ago about a guest being asked to pay for a plate her dc broke at a wedding that got completely derailed because she mentioned she had given a £50 note for a wedding present, you could practically see the steam from the posters panting to inform her they didn't exist!
Even if you didn't know they were a thing in Scotland, it wasn't relevant to the actual post, so no need to query in the first place, let alone jump on it as proof the poster was clearly trolling!

Goldenbear · 09/05/2025 12:33

Arina22 · 09/05/2025 12:23

It's a worldwide forum.

I never understand why English posters on here, assume that everyone on mumsnet is English. Its bizarre!

Mumsmet the website, was made in the UK, but it was launched on the WORLD wide web, like all websites are. And it has users from all over the world.

Amazon the website was made in USA, the website doesnt just have visitors from the USA , does it?

It is a British based forum from Inception, very much London centric based forum in the olden days!

BassesAreBest · 09/05/2025 12:27

TBF most of the legal advice on here is appalling regardless of the country

Seagullsandsausagerolls · 09/05/2025 12:27

I'm in.Northern Ireland but only four miles from Scotland. Only time I had any issues here was around the upcoming death (expected in hours) of a relative and me completely stressing about getting clothes for the body asap. I had several brutal responses including I'd weeks to get it sorted, well no, I didn't she was buried four days later. When it's a cultural thing it's easy to forget our normal is not the same for anyone especially when we are a few miles apart.

Arina22 · 09/05/2025 12:26

I've name changed for this thread.

I wrote about something on another thread. A poster came on and wrote "that doesn't happen in the UK".

I had to reply, "i'm not in the UK"

AngelicKaty · 09/05/2025 12:26

Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 12:11

Who said they hate the English? I have lots of English friends and family. In general, and especially on this forum, English people tend to forget the UK is not just England, unless maybe they have a connection to Scotland, Ireland or Wales.

This thread only goes to prove my theory is correct when all the English people seem to think they shouldn't have to state their country but everyone else in the UK should.

Utter nonsense. I don't have any familial connections to the three other nations and never forget the UK is a union of four nations - the clue's in the name! I value the over 300 year old union between England and Scotland and was devastated after the Brexit vote that it could lead to the break-up of the over 200 year old UK union, given that Scotland and NI voted predominantly to remain (as I did).
I would be perfectly happy to state my home country on MN as England (so not "all the English people you claim!) and I'm sure it wouldn't be a difficult technical change for MN to implement, but it's MNHQ you should be messaging with your request - of course, then you wouldn't be able to have a go at "the English". 🙄

Arina22 · 09/05/2025 12:23

It's a worldwide forum.

I never understand why English posters on here, assume that everyone on mumsnet is English. Its bizarre!

Mumsmet the website, was made in the UK, but it was launched on the WORLD wide web, like all websites are. And it has users from all over the world.

Amazon the website was made in USA, the website doesnt just have visitors from the USA , does it?

Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 12:23

Laiste · 09/05/2025 12:17

I said: Ignorance would be to assume it's 100% English all the time.

OP replied: Most people on this forum do assume people are English 100% of the time.

Therefore OP is saying most people on this forum are ignorant.

Having agreed that the majority of posters on here are English it means OP is implying the English are ignorant.

Yawn. It's nothing new.
Like i say, lets just have a separate board for it.

I'm not saying English people are ignorant, I think the behaviour I have outlined specifically is ignorant. Those are 2 different things.

E.g. If saying to someone, that was a bit selfish isn't the same as saying you are a selfish person.

You are twisting what I am saying to turn it into an English bashing thread.

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InMyOpenOnion · 09/05/2025 12:22

The overwhelming majority of users are in England so that tends to be the default setting. After England, it probably the rest of the UK, Ireland and then other native English speaking nations. I don't really think there is anything wrong in having a default that serves the majority of users, and it would be rather tedious if every thread had to reference all other options until we find out where the OP is.

ReacherOMGyes · 09/05/2025 12:22

B1indEye · 09/05/2025 11:39

The PP said British, I extended to the wider whole UK, I'm not stupid

The UK isn't the wider whole of Britain. I'm British and live on a British Island in the British Isles but we are not part of the UK

The amount of times I've had this argued to me (usually by and English person) is quite staggering

Marooney · 09/05/2025 12:22

Banmooo · 09/05/2025 11:35

You said British, now you're saying UK.

Do you think they're the same thing?

"British" means "from the UK", what do you think the difference is?!

Great Britain is the main island (so not NI), but British refers to all of the UK.

Xenia · 09/05/2025 12:21

Anyone can post. On the law threads lawyers are very careful to ask if it is Scotland or not particularly divorce threads as the law is very different so I don't think everyone assumes people are in England but post posters are. in the UK there are about 67m people but only 5.5m are in Scotland. There are about 58m in England (plus about 1m illegals but they are hard to count). So it would not be surprising if there were more from England than Scotland posting.

MoistVonL · 09/05/2025 12:20

It’s a British site but the English users are the strong majority.

Scotsnet, Craicnet etc shows that there are sections dedicated to posts specific to other countries (I think Craicnet is the whole island of Ireland, not just the republic). So if it’s something about Scottish highers or their house buying system, for example, users often find it more useful to post there than the more generic boards.

When you’ve got around 58 million English, 5 1/2 million Scots, 3 million Welsh and 2 million Northern Irish, assuming England as a starting point isn’t a huge reach. It’s just the sheer weight of numbers.

Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 12:19

PuppiesProzacProsecco · 09/05/2025 12:15

I'm from NI and I honestly can't get het up about this. As PPs have said, the majority of the UK is English so it's no surprise it's the default.

I don't mind qualifying my posts with "I'm in Northern Ireland" when it's relevant - for example, school entry criteria or public transport threads. I think it would be a bit daft if I posted a thread about DH being a dick but qualified it with "I'm from NI though, so maybe that's relevant to me marrying a twat".

Plus I'm proud of where I come from so quite happy to tell people!

Yes, I'm only referring to posts where the answer would be different depending on the country.

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Laiste · 09/05/2025 12:17

I said: Ignorance would be to assume it's 100% English all the time.

OP replied: Most people on this forum do assume people are English 100% of the time.

Therefore OP is saying most people on this forum are ignorant.

Having agreed that the majority of posters on here are English it means OP is implying the English are ignorant.

Yawn. It's nothing new.
Like i say, lets just have a separate board for it.

JumpingPumpkin · 09/05/2025 12:16

This does remind me of a QI question about a history book “The History of England” which was of the U.K. (and presumably the British Empire) all included in the word England.

I am beginning to think the U.K. should split up into separate countries so we can just have one system to live under. Although then the Cornish and other counties would probably want to separate too!

PuppiesProzacProsecco · 09/05/2025 12:15

I'm from NI and I honestly can't get het up about this. As PPs have said, the majority of the UK is English so it's no surprise it's the default.

I don't mind qualifying my posts with "I'm in Northern Ireland" when it's relevant - for example, school entry criteria or public transport threads. I think it would be a bit daft if I posted a thread about DH being a dick but qualified it with "I'm from NI though, so maybe that's relevant to me marrying a twat".

Plus I'm proud of where I come from so quite happy to tell people!

Laiste · 09/05/2025 12:12

She's implied we're ignorant.

Honestly if i started a thread implying most posters from Scotland are ignorant it'd be deleted.

BrassyPalm · 09/05/2025 12:11

Goditsmemargaret · 09/05/2025 11:54

I agree with you OP but still think YABU for being surprised as presumably you have met English people before and should know what they are like.

Wow 😆
I was born and bred half way round the world. Only came here in my 20’s. I’m technically British though. I do find the inter-country chips on shoulders to be quite hilarious.

England has the largest population, I think it’s quite natural that many people on the forum assume that the majority of users are English.

Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 12:11

Laiste · 09/05/2025 12:07

Not who.
The 'i hate the English threads'.

We need a separate board for them.

Who said they hate the English? I have lots of English friends and family. In general, and especially on this forum, English people tend to forget the UK is not just England, unless maybe they have a connection to Scotland, Ireland or Wales.

This thread only goes to prove my theory is correct when all the English people seem to think they shouldn't have to state their country but everyone else in the UK should.

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Banmooo · 09/05/2025 12:10

DarcyProudman · 09/05/2025 11:58

Oh, we’re having a we hate the English thread, are we? I’ll get my Anything but England t-shirt out….

Can you point out where anyone has said, implied or even vaguely hinted that anyone hates the English?

SwanOfThoseThings · 09/05/2025 12:10

I always think it is worth specifying where you are based if it is relevant to the question - e.g. anything legal, conveyancing, hospital-related, as laws and practice differ even sometimes between different counties in the UK, let alone amongst the different countries of the UK, and internationally.

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