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Is Mumsnet an English forum?

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Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 11:16

Seems like pretty much every poster and responder assumes everyone on here is from England.

When asking questions regarding schools, health care, tenancy etc surely it would be useful to say what country you live in since the rules and laws are different all over the UK/world.

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Laiste · 09/05/2025 12:10

Or everyone could just state where they are from so they get the correct answers.

So do that then!
Why start a thread like this rather than one saying:

''It would be helpful if everyone could state where they're from when they start a thread please.''

MadeleineAllbright · 09/05/2025 12:09

The UK is 85% English, and more to the point, a lot of English people aren’t aware that school systems/laws/buying houses/tenancies etc work differently in Scotland. It’s not that they’re assuming everyone is English - it’s that they don’t know that it matters which part of the UK someone is from when asking for advice on certain matters.

StrawberrySquash · 09/05/2025 12:08

It's a British website so if someone asks a question that might vary if they are in , say Scotland I might answer with a 'In England X applies, but the rules are different in Y'. Because there's a good chance that the answer is relevant to them given that England makes up the majority of users. If I ask them where they live, wait for an answer, then have to come back and reply about Scotland; well, that's probably not going to happen on a casual forum. I'll likely preface my answer with 'If you're in England' if I know it varies, but there are limits to my mind reading powers. So let us know in your post! I often comment on American fora and will say I'm in the UK when relevant. Otherwise some of what I say won't make sense to the majority of users.

Laiste · 09/05/2025 12:07

Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 11:56

Who?

Not who.
The 'i hate the English threads'.

We need a separate board for them.

HeartyOchreHelper · 09/05/2025 12:07

Goditsmemargaret · 09/05/2025 11:54

I agree with you OP but still think YABU for being surprised as presumably you have met English people before and should know what they are like.

🤣🤣

Reminds me of the time someone on here (English, who had by their own admission never even visited Scotland!) tried to tell me how poor my local area is, that unemployment rates must be so high, nobody can afford expensive property. When in reality it’s the opposite. But that sums it up really.

Yellowhammer09 · 09/05/2025 12:06

Fun fact: the .com domain doesn't mean it's international or American, it means commercial. It doesn't have to be .co.uk to be a UK based website.

Also - .tv is for Tuvalu, not television ;)

Thegodfatherreturns · 09/05/2025 12:05

I assume UK unless someone states otherwise.

MollyButton · 09/05/2025 12:04

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 09/05/2025 12:00

Surely we just assume London unless otherwise stated (I'm joking... don't kill me...)

Sometimes it does feel like this. Especially in posts like this”Is XYZ school better than HAB?” Even more if you point out those letters could refer to two (or more - RGS) schools.
Most people are covered by similar laws, England and most law in Wales. So if legal you should name Scotland etc. But some posters do not read the post nevermind thread.

Purplebunnie · 09/05/2025 12:04

Laiste · 09/05/2025 11:51

Ah - so it is an 'I hate the English because' thread.

Yeah we haven't had one for a while

SoSoLong · 09/05/2025 12:04

Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 11:34

So it's a British Website but everyone should assume we are talking about England unless stated otherwise? 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣

Well, yes, since the probability of the poster being from England is about 84%. What would be more sensible to assume if there's no additional information in the post? I'm in Scotland, if I have a question where location is relevant I know to include it.

AngelicKaty · 09/05/2025 12:04

Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 11:49

Most people on this forum do assume people are English 100% of the time.

How do you know what most people on this forum assume?
I'm English, living in England, but think of MN as a UK website and I'm well aware there are posters from other countries (so far I've read posts from Scotland, Wales, N. Ireland, Ireland, France and Denmark).
If you think MN should make it a rule that people declare upfront which home country they're posting from, why don't you message MNHQ about it instead of starting this thread?

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 09/05/2025 12:00

Surely we just assume London unless otherwise stated (I'm joking... don't kill me...)

Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 11:59

Yellowhammer09 · 09/05/2025 11:54

I'm so terrible sorry to exclude the 3.something million population from Wales and 1.9ish million in NI 😉 What about IoM, or the Channel Islands?

If you're in Scotland, NI or Wales then just say so in your OP, it'll help you get the correct answers.

Or everyone could just state where they are from so they get the correct answers.

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FloraBotticelli · 09/05/2025 11:58

I would have thought with Mumsnet HQ being in London and Mumsnet’s model aimed at an English/UK based audience (in the advertising, politicians interviewed, lobbying activity, advice articles), it’s only natural for it to be a majority English/UK audience attracted to the forum. 84% of people who live in the UK live in England.

RockaLock · 09/05/2025 11:58

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 09/05/2025 11:39

The population of London is more than that of Wales and Scotland put together. The vast majority of the UK population lives in England. It's not an unreasonable assumption to make in the absence of information to the contrary.

This exactly. Population of UK 68m, population of England 57.6m.

So it is high likely that the majority of posters will be English rather than Scottish, Welsh or Northern Irish.

It’s like saying that every poster should specify that they have 2 legs when posting asking for shoe recommendations, because there are some people that only have 1 leg through accident or genetics.

DarcyProudman · 09/05/2025 11:58

Oh, we’re having a we hate the English thread, are we? I’ll get my Anything but England t-shirt out….

Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 11:56

Laiste · 09/05/2025 11:52

I think it's time we had a separate board for them.

Who?

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youcannaecallherfanny · 09/05/2025 11:56

The only time it really annoys me is when someone talks about their kids year class, because I can never work out what age they should be. It would be easier if people said, my 10 year old in p6.

bluesatin · 09/05/2025 11:55

@MauraLabingi Sadly the English aren't blessed with as many islands as Scotland, though I suspect if he'd gone to Bryher instead it too would have had to be qualified for many British people.

Hollyhobbi · 09/05/2025 11:55

I’m Irish and we have our own board too😁. But sure we’re all going through the same things really, illnesses, child birth, buying/renting houses, raising kids etc. but I agree that it would be helpful if people stated where they are from so they can get advice related to their specific country in the original post.

Goditsmemargaret · 09/05/2025 11:54

I agree with you OP but still think YABU for being surprised as presumably you have met English people before and should know what they are like.

Purpleturtle43 · 09/05/2025 11:54

Tillow4ever · 09/05/2025 11:46

What exactly is your issue? It doesn’t matter whether the site is British, Turkish, Australian, Chinese or whatever - it’s the bulk of the users on a forum that is the crucial information.

And as it appears that the vast majority of active posters are English, generally speaking everyone will assume the OP is English/living in England unless they declare otherwise.

Should they have to? Yes and no. Yes because it’s very clear the majority are making that assumption. So if you wanted useful responses then include it. No because people shouldn’t make assumptions. That said, if you turned up to a mum’s and toddlers group in a town, people would assume you are from that general area unless you tell them you’re actually visiting your parents for the whole summer and are actually from x. People make assumptions all the time like this.

It would be helpful if all posters started a post (OP not every commentator) with some basic information - country they are located in when asking for advice that would have different answers in different countries being one of them. If the advice is the same worldwide, then it isn’t needed unless you want to provide it if you want to know about local support or something (eg if a woman is escaping Donestic violence).

So what is it you want? Are you trying to say Ah ha! To all the English posters? Caught them out because this is a British site and they are all terrible because they didn’t consider you might be from somewhere else?

I wasn't sure if it was a British website as it's .com not .co.uk. Assuming people are correct and it is a UK or British website I would think it would make sense for people to state which country they live in in the UK or Britain if the answers to the question will be influenced by it e.g. schooling, tenancy etc.

I am on a few Facebook forums for tenancy/landlords and posts are only approved if they state the country which makes sense to me.

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Yellowhammer09 · 09/05/2025 11:54

Banmooo · 09/05/2025 11:34

What about the rest of the UK?

I'm so terrible sorry to exclude the 3.something million population from Wales and 1.9ish million in NI 😉 What about IoM, or the Channel Islands?

If you're in Scotland, NI or Wales then just say so in your OP, it'll help you get the correct answers.

Laiste · 09/05/2025 11:52

I think it's time we had a separate board for them.

Laiste · 09/05/2025 11:51

Ah - so it is an 'I hate the English because' thread.

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