To ask for things that happen on MN that you’ve never seen happen IRL

People go to university after A-Levels aged 18. In Scotland, they go a year earlier at 17.

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Sorry i misread your post.

@Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould I do ! butter and crystal salt. Radis buerre in French and a very common part of an hors d'ouevre. And the radishes super crunchy and hot.....delicious !

I agree with this. I come from Eastern Europe where the vast majority of women never had the luxury of not working. It was/is completely the norm for both parents to work full time and run the household/childcare together. It was also the same for my grandparents' generation and those before them. All men in my family are normal responsible adults that can be asked to help out if needed.

She can,t be getting benefits for her adult child at university
All child related benefits stop at 20 or when they leave college /sixth form whichever comes first
Unless he's in receipt of disability benefits and she's his appointee,but if he's at university that's seems unlikely he wouldn't be able to manages own finances

Never seen a cheat shunned by their friends, colleagues and community in support of their betrayed spouse. Never been in 'literal agony' from being squeezed by an overweight person on a plane. Never failed to find clothing small enough for me due to vanity sizing. Never found women to be 'just as bad as men' when it comes to anti social behaviour, violence and sexual harassment. Never had an 'older lady' push me rudely out of the way. Never known anyone mortified by being asked if they 'mean to be so rude'. Never known a beautiful 20 something women pursue anyone's mediocre middle aged DH.

I do this, but only since perimenopause hit 😂

If it's someone close to me then of course they get an explanation/discussion, but if it's a CF, it's a simple 'no' and I don't feel uncomfortable leaving it there.

I don't know any mum who has drunkenly suggested in a parents whatsapp group that their friend should sit on the sexy teacher's face.

That's because you're clearly intelligent! I have a group of friends I liken to The Golden Girls, allocating each character toa friend, The Golden Women just doesn't sound right. Do the males still have a 'boys/lads night out'? I pity people's exhaustion constantly seeking things to be offended by.
When I got a major promotion my Headteacher hugged me after they'd offered it to me, the next morning he called me into his office 'to apologise', apparently one of the Governors had told him he had behaved badly. I told him the hug made all the prep for the interview worthwhile!

My Mum survived sepsis....just! She had a cancerous tumour in her bowel- which she didn't know that she had- and it burst. Took her to the GP, who didn't like the look of her, and sent us straight to hospital. The GP rang ahead to let them know we were coming. Mum was still walking and talking. Had a scan when we got there and then she was immediately pumped full of antibiotics because she had sepsis. The surgeon said if we hadn't gone in when we did then she wouldn't have lasted 24 hours. She was extremely poorly and was in hospital for 9 weeks.
11 years later she's 89 years old and is doing brilliantly.

I'm just here to say that I have seen a stunt pineapple in the wild - on/behind a fruit platter when some bigwigs visited DD1's school.

Too many people class 'abusive' as anything they don't like, thereby diminishing the experiences of those genuinely abused.

Hen dos abroad
Expecting friends to fork out 100s/1000s on trips

People who don’t like McDonalds

I've done this! With a kid who was working full time, not a student. Not a full rent, either, but a contribution to food/bills. It's not at all unusual. Different if the young adult is studying, I would say.

I'm quoting this again as forgot to say I also agree with the first point. So many women on here seem married to men who the minute they have a "big job" become completely incapable of any childcare or household task.

There was a thread last week where the OP was a stay at home mum with school age kids and her husband had made a reasonable request that she get a job to help with household finances.

There wasn't any suggestion anywhere that the OPs husband didn't contribute towards childcare or household tasks but some posters became absolutely hysterical at the thought of the OP going back to work, that she needed to make a detailed spreadsheet of all the tasks she did, how long it took her to do and then present this to her husband. Insinuations that her husband couldn't possibly keep up his career if she went back to work as he would need to gasp help out with housework, the children would be neglected and the house would fall into some sort of derelict fleapit state as both parents would simply not be able to manage housework and work as well.

Whereas in the real life myself and my husband and most other couples I know manage to work and run a house jointly as a couple without it being some major drama or both collapsing for exhaustion. The division of labour can be solved by two adults having a simple mature conversation such as "do you want to do the kids bedtime or the hoovering" without the need for complex, detailed spreadsheets detailing the time and task.

I must say I don't know anyone in real life who charges their young adult kids rent for living at home. This seems very common on MN, but I have never come across it in real life.

It's fairly normal here but then I live in a very high poverty area.

Lots of parents simply couldn't afford to feed and clothe more adults so it makes sense, at least until they can afford to move out.

I can’t tell either..
There are probably more fake posts than real. Of course people lie. There are a lot of fantasists, mentally ill people, creative writers, people paid to get traction on forums etc

And people will talk more about the extra ordinary

I have often seen people napping on benches especially in stations

I can't decide if you're being ironic or are a "sweet summer child," as they say on here.

I know at least 5. 2 didn’t make it. One of my friends campaigns to raise awareness of the signs and symptoms after her husband died.

I’d check the stats for sepsis, it’s quite surprising and scary. And many sepsis cases may be logged as a different cause of death too as often it’s not recognised in time.

I’m Scottish and use boak a lot. Something disgusting “gives me the boak” is a common phrase here.

I have never, in real life, seen a grown woman (usually a MIL) throw themselves to the ground screaming and crying, yet it seems to happen a lot on here.

The only other place it comes up seems to be on the Dateline podcasts where it is practically mandatory.

@NattyTurtle59 one person dies every 12 minutes in the uk from sepsis. Many others get it and thankfully survive. It is extremely common and entirely treatable but easily missed. Those of us that have experienced it or have loved one who did know how quickly things can go wrong so encourage others to ask the question of medical professionals in relevant circumstances or seek medical attention is understandable. Sepsis is more dangerous if you are older or have other health issues but anyone who has any type of infection can develop it and the symptoms are not obvious.

My job means I’m in contact with a lot of parents and know many through various schools my kids have attended, also from talking to friends and family. I don’t doubt it happens! Just not as widespread as MN would have us believe

Sorry, I meant to quote @AffIt. @JandamiHash hope your recovery continues