To ask for things that happen on MN that you’ve never seen happen IRL

I’d even go as far as to say it’s a word that’s used daily by many.

I was at the births of all 8 of my grandchildren. It started with my daughter and she said it was so good to have me there that my other daughter and my daughters in law all asked me to be there as well. In one of the births it was me and my co granny which made it very special and to this day we have a wonderful relationship. And with the other births the babies fathers were all there or there aboot as we say in Scotland for most of the labors as well. But none of the dads were in jobs where being there on the day could be guaranteed so we did what we could at all was well.

Same here. I ended up sectioned and spent a long time in hospital.

Not true, it’s used in Scots a lot verbally. Very common word where I am.

I'm surprised you've never seen anyone asleep on a park bench! In the town near where I live,I've even occasionally seen someone asleep on the pavement! I haven't ever heard anyone calling their child 'sexy' though. That would be plain weird.

I’m so sorry. I meant other people in real life don’t seem to react at all when they hear of an affair, whereas on here it is treated as a terrible thing and everyone openly says how awful it it.

Never seen a teacher organise a gigantic party in their garden while their kids hang around and doing drugs and openly talking about it to anyone who listens.

I've never know anyone to get a lodger or take ironing in because they are skint.

Actually never really known anyone who works at Heron foods retrain in coding and become a six figure earner.

All solutions to money problems on Mumsnet.

So sorry this happened to you. I know several people, not in MN, who equally fell to pieces when an affair was discovered and divorce followed. One climbed over the OW’s garden wall to spy on her and exH in the garden, police called. She was in bits. 7 years later she still isn’t fully over it but is slowly moving on.

I do also know a few who’ve got mad, got even, and kicked the guy into touch and never given him another thought. How people respond is so varied.

Do you mean in real-life no-one you know cares about their own spouse having an affair?

I don't have strong feelings if Mrs McClatchie 3 doors down is cheating on her husband with the Royal Mail man, but I imagine I'd probably feel differently if it were my own (non-existent) spouse.

My husband's affair caused me to have a complete mental breakdown, I was psychotic and even 15 months on I'm still on Prozac, lorazepm, quetiapine, propranolol and zopiclone. It has completely ruined my life.

I've never met any step parents/grandparents who treat step children so badly, exclude them from weddings and don't buy them Christmas presents. Thankfully.

I have never seen anyone react so badly to someone having an affair. Anyone I have heard about doing it, in real life, people don’t seem to care at all. Here, even having a dream about it is like a murder.

I'm currently in hospital with sepsis so I can assure you it's a real thing. I was unconscious for four days, just starting to recover now with the help of lots of IV drips.

Not something I'd recommend but very much a real thing!

Boak is very common in Northern Ireland.

But far too many are unaware of what constitutes abuse. There was a thread a week or so ago where the OP’s husband, who had a history of explosive temper, balled up and threw some tissues at her, landing in her eye and causing some discomfort. Her offence ? He was driving and asked for tissues, so she placed them on his knee while she dealt with their child and they slipped onto the floor, so he felt justified in retrieving them and throwing them at her in temper, in front of their children. There followed the most ridiculous discussion about how tissues wouldn’t hurt, the lack of anger management and escalation was completely overlooked and she was basically told to stop being a drama queen.

There is also a current thread where OP divorced her ex because of DV. She moved away with their son and he’s still trying to control her with gaslighting about his ‘rights’ and weaponising contact arrangements with their son. She was asking for advice on minimising the risks of him absconding with the child and two posters told her that she was just as controlling as her ex and as bad as he was !! Beggars belief.

My brother went at 16. Turned 17 in the January. He was in 5th year when he was accepted for Uni.

I need to see the thread about the bridesmaid, please link!

I know people who have delivered their grandchildren

I know plenty of those

I've never met anyone who loses their shit over a tiny scratch on their car

It's very French

@AffIt - I know a few people who have had it. Two fatally.

Both things are very standard

Plenty of people in Scotland go to uni after 6th year and are already 18 or about to turn it.

I think only a minority go after 5th year, hence 17 or about to turn 17.