To ask for things that happen on MN that you’ve never seen happen IRL

No male i know wees anywhere other than in tje toilet but when my child was little i can count atleast 5 times a random dog jumped on my child, twice in the push chair

And a dog on alead walked past my husband and bit him we were chatting to each other, no damage thankfully

None of us was interacting with any of the dogs at the times but my child is now scared of them, some times we didn't ever realise there was one around till it happened

And no 'they are being friendly' doest male a difference

@gannett

I've never seen any dog leap up at random strangers in a park and slobber over them. From the dog-hating threads you'd think this was an everyday occurrence. I've regularly run and walked in parks up and down the UK, I love dogs so I notice every time I see one, and 95% of them are way too fixated on their own business and all the exciting smells around to pay humans who aren't their owner any heed. Sometimes you get an extra friendly one, which is lovely, but they're the minority.

Me neither on our daily dog walks. Dogs are usually more interested in other dogs or sniffing around, strange humans are just not interesting to them. Never been in dirty dog friendly pubs/cafes covered in dog hair and/or smelling of dog (or in dog friendly accommodation).

The belief that benefits are a lot of money and easy to get is what astounds me.

I am very unwell. DH is my registered carer. He has had a lot of time off over my frequent life threatening events and ambulance trips to hospital. Now, his employer is making noises about getting rid of him. I can't work. I can't even stand up without falling over. My heart is clapped out. I can barely eat. Do little but sleep. I've been looking into universal credit just in case the inevitable happens because we couldn't survive on my pip of £150ish a week. It's terrifying. The hoops to jump through. The bad actors who work for the system, who you could randomly run into along the way. The rules you can't comply with because of lack 9f funds, ability or being housebound. I'm pressuring myself so bad to sit there and shut up while he gets in work that it's making my heart conditions worse through stress. Whenever you try to access the assistance which is claimed to be there waiting from council, dwp, advice organisations or the NHS, what you find is that nobody is available to pick up the phone and if they finally do, they just say, "I'm too busy to help". I only got PIP because a care worker from the council who the GP referred me to pushed me to try and helped fill in the forms. I feel like I must be the only person in this country who just can't grasp any of these benefit rules and the systems in place.

I've always been told I was quite intelligent but I must be totally intellectually inept because I just don't understand it all. If DH loses his work, I'm going to very quickly end up dead.

Also a dogless dog-lover and I try to give off this body language every time! It rarely works - the dogs care more about squirrels, sadly.

This. We are on an anonymous forum where speak more candidly about what they really think and do in the privacy of their own homes and lives, and theres enormous, fascinating beauty and learning in sharing that with one another! It’s absolutely what I love about MN. Yes you get posters who are not genuine but that’s a minority and even that’s a fascinating reflection of what goes on for people.

@Twiglets1

On Mumsnet it seems to be considered awful if you let your off lead dog go up to another off lead dog.

We always check with the owners of unknown dogs though just in case (if they are heading for each other). I would assume a dog with any aggressive tendencies would be on a lead, but you never know.

Never heard anyone express concern about someone wearing black or white to a wedding nor have seen it be an issue at any of the many weddings I have been to, including my own. Never experienced anyone being a bridezilla or having a ridiculously expensive hen do.

I've never seen any dog leap up at random strangers in a park and slobber over them.

It’s happened to me a few times, not necessarily in a park, mind.

The thing is, I’m dogless with dogs on the brain so it’s possible I give off doggy-loving pheromones or they sense something in my body language that says, come at me, doggos! 😍

An adult use the work yuk.
A tinkly laugh
Head tilt on anything other than a dog.
I’ve never seen anyone in a dress that looks like a homeless person, a cake topper etc like the dresses that are regularly suggested in S&B.

The opposite of this must be all the posters who don't know of any friendships between men and women in their lives, and for whom socialising with anyone of the opposite sex who isn't your partner one-on-one is basically an emotional affair. Just absolutely bizarre stuff, given literally everyone I've met in my adult life has friendships with someone of the opposite sex.

I've never seen any dog leap up at random strangers in a park and slobber over them. From the dog-hating threads you'd think this was an everyday occurrence. I've regularly run and walked in parks up and down the UK, I love dogs so I notice every time I see one, and 95% of them are way too fixated on their own business and all the exciting smells around to pay humans who aren't their owner any heed. Sometimes you get an extra friendly one, which is lovely, but they're the minority.

I have lived with 18 different men in my life across family, houseshares and my partner, and none of them ever left piss around the toilet. (Apart from one in the student houseshare as a one-off drunken accident - the piss was the least of it - and he was mortified.)

On Mumsnet it seems to be considered awful if you let your off lead dog go up to another off lead dog.

In my local park everyone does this and it’s all fine. Dogs that don’t like other dogs just growl at them or tell them off & we all get on with our day.

I read plenty of posts which is why I know you’re exaggerating.

And you weren’t the first to raise it? You were the one that caught my attention given the way I have threads set up.

Never heard anyone slaughter step mums like they do on here .Also never heard anyone be as callous about the children of step parents in real life . Like where posters said the step mum deserved no support with her critically ill baby in hospital , because she was a step mum and ‘ should have known’ he had other children . It was a hideous thread . Wouldn’t fly in real life .

People absolutely ripping their knitting over a youngish (or older) adult woman being referred to as a ‘girl’.

They may be feelin’ it, but they sure ain’t sayin’ it, in my experience.

I’ve never seen anyone asleep on a bench. I once saw a woman asleep in a field though

if you’d been in the British Museum about 2 weeks ago you’d have seen a very jet lagged me fast asleep whilst half sitting up/half slumped forward on a bench right next to the huge statue of Amenhotep. I was there for over an hour and recall wakening up every so often just to check my things from the gift shop were still on the bench beside me.

Meanwhile my elderly dad and step mum were sitting outside having ice creams and working on their tans given how beautiful a day it was and it never crossed their mind once to be worried about me or that I could have been in a hospital or perhaps even a police station. Instead, they decided I’d probably got carried away in the Greek and Roman section and ordered another ice cream.

Im at peace with the distinct possibility that one day there will be videos of me on internet having my snooze that will have been taken by some of the hundreds of tourists who were also there that day.

I've heard many people refer to abusive behaviour as 'completely normal' ...

And I got a speeding ticket last year. 24 in a 20. Bloody ridiculous , but turns out that’s the law.

You obviously don't read many MN posts! I wasn't the first person to raise it.

240000 people have sepsis each year. I’ve seen people with it through work and daily life outside of work.

I have managed to get to my 60th year without having a male medical professional ever examine my 'nether regions'. Generally I have had no complaints except for one horrible nurse who was the 'smear nurse' when I was in my 30s. I hate the term 'battleaxe' but she really was one plus a bit rough (below) and belittling.

I try to go to the same one when she’s good, but sometimes they change practices or go away for maternity leave themselves… almost enough to give me abandonment issues!

I’ve seen 1 and 3 on your list.

I’ve never seen anyone asleep on a bench. I once saw a woman asleep in a field though.

my midwife was female but I have seen both male and female nurses and doctors for smear tests and lots of different things including pregnancy, 2 female nurses have caused me the most pain with their rough handling

I make appointments with who meets my requirements at the time I really don't care if male or female regardless of what I am having done

I’ve never heard anyone refer to completely normal human behaviour as “abusive”.