Page 13 | To ask for things that happen on MN that you’ve never seen happen IRL

JandamiHash · 2025-05-08T22:35:23+00:00

I’ve never seen or heard a parent refer to their child as “sexy” I’ve never seen anyone having a nap on a public bench. I’ve never seen someone cajole their daughter into the aisle at a wedding so they can be a stealth bridesmaid All the above is what I’ve read about on MN recently that people do and have seen before done, regularly.

FagsMagsandBags · 09/05/2025 07:05

AubernFable · 09/05/2025 06:57

Saw someone else mention it on another thread like this but all these men with nondescript ‘hobbies’, like DH is off at/doing his hobby. With no indication of what it might be. Most men I know might do something like go to the gym, game, play with broken cars, fish or whatever but it’s never this big deal that they schedule like it seems to be here.

People often say it will be outing but also that it's common/realtively common so I get bored of "trying to guess" because I can't be arsed. He runs/cycles/makes models/plays football/plays golf*/goes to a million pub quizzes a year. Just tell us because it can make a difference or you know, annoy everyone with their top secret hobby that without your actual postal address!

*This has always been the worst hobbie I've seen in real life. Golf widows.

cannaecookrisotto · 09/05/2025 07:02

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 09/05/2025 00:54

I had sepsis when I caught the flu and the virus attacked my heart. Developed endocarditis and sepsis and spent three days in an induced coma on life support.

I was diagnosed then with a genetic heart condition which I never knew I had, and the additional damage to my heart left me in heart failure.

This was a few years ago and now that all treatments have failed I am currently in hospital on the urgent transplant list.

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Sending you all the best and fingers crossed a suitable donor heart will be inbound ASAP!

Gymnopediegivesmethewillies · 09/05/2025 07:02

I had sepsis (peritonitis) caused by an ovarian cyst which ruptured and perforated my bowel. Half an hour away from death the consultant told me afterwards. My SIL had it following an awful birth during lockdown, her birth story is horrendous, I didn’t think they allowed women to suffer like that, it went on for days.

I have always been too polite and agreed to do things I really didn’t want to do but same SIL above invited me to her no frills, all girls together, week long communal yurt camping hen do I discovered I too can say “no” as a complete sentence. Actually I think I said “dear God, no!”. Does that count? I must have looked horrified too because she fell about laughing.

BlondiePortz · 09/05/2025 07:00

gannett · 09/05/2025 06:52

Re: "no is a complete sentence" - I always thought that was a bit of an exaggerated phrase but the essence of it is that you don't have to explain yourself in some situations. I've never heard anyone just flat-out say "No" but very very often "No, that doesn't work for me" or "Sorry, no, can't do that" with no further reason given and the conversation ended.

The only time I remember using ''no'' is if my slighly nicer ''no thank you'' or 'no sorry I can't" or ''sorry that won't work" does nothing

but maybe a few times only in my life like of someone is trying to sell me something as in door knocking

I am very good at saying I cant or wont do something though so I am poilte but no means no however it is worded so I have no issue using that

FagsMagsandBags · 09/05/2025 07:00

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 09/05/2025 00:54

I had sepsis when I caught the flu and the virus attacked my heart. Developed endocarditis and sepsis and spent three days in an induced coma on life support.

I was diagnosed then with a genetic heart condition which I never knew I had, and the additional damage to my heart left me in heart failure.

This was a few years ago and now that all treatments have failed I am currently in hospital on the urgent transplant list.

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Sending love your way and I hope the transplant comes up very, very soon. What a horrible bloody time you've had of it.

And sepsis is pretty common especially in terminal patients where it's often the thing that takes them away on top of whatever their terminal diagnosis was.

Smallmercies · 09/05/2025 06:58

monktasmic · 09/05/2025 00:43

I’ve seen all those three listed in the OP.
i have also, in the past 2 months, had people in receipt of benefits tell me what they are getting - and what it’s for whilst thinking ‘you are exactly why the changes proposed are being brought in’. One had been ill some 20? years ago and the other has a child, no longer resident - about to complete their third year of a degree at a RG uni - he apparently needs her - she’s furious that a recent 6 figure inheritance means her benefits will stop. I was genuinely agog that she received benefits for him at all (I’m quite bleeding heart but was thinking ‘good, get a fucking job’)

Yes, this is a great example of things that didn't really happen irl 😁

Butchyrestingface · 09/05/2025 06:58

anotherside · 09/05/2025 06:53

It seems that “vile” is among the most frequently used adjectives in English:

Good, bad, big, small, hot, cold, vile, easy, hard

In real-life I tend to use: bowfin', howfin', honkin', mingin' and pure raj.

I code switch on here though and vile, foul or rank seem to be sufficiently U for MN.

AubernFable · 09/05/2025 06:57

Saw someone else mention it on another thread like this but all these men with nondescript ‘hobbies’, like DH is off at/doing his hobby. With no indication of what it might be. Most men I know might do something like go to the gym, game, play with broken cars, fish or whatever but it’s never this big deal that they schedule like it seems to be here.

anotherside · 09/05/2025 06:53

It seems that “vile” is among the most frequently used adjectives in English:

Good, bad, big, small, hot, cold, vile, easy, hard

gannett · 09/05/2025 06:52

Re: "no is a complete sentence" - I always thought that was a bit of an exaggerated phrase but the essence of it is that you don't have to explain yourself in some situations. I've never heard anyone just flat-out say "No" but very very often "No, that doesn't work for me" or "Sorry, no, can't do that" with no further reason given and the conversation ended.

cannaecookrisotto · 09/05/2025 06:51

JackGrealishsCalves · 08/05/2025 23:38

I've never heard anyone say That doesn't work for me

Funnily enough I said this yesterday however in a business setting so may well not count 😂.

Burpcloth · 09/05/2025 06:50

Re. Sepsis: talk to enough women about their births (ie at a typical mum & baby group) and you'll easily hear a handful of cases.

Re. Dogs jumping up - I only experienced this a few times as a twice daily seasoned dog walker in the past. No dog anymore, and don't frequent dog heavy places as often but it's happened more times in the last 6 months alone towards my 3 year old!

Endofdaya · 09/05/2025 06:44

Twiglets1 · 09/05/2025 05:46

On Mumsnet it seems to be considered awful if you let your off lead dog go up to another off lead dog.

In my local park everyone does this and it’s all fine. Dogs that don’t like other dogs just growl at them or tell them off & we all get on with our day.

It’s off lead dogs that run up to dogs on a lead that’s the problem. My dog is on a lead for a reason

ThatWildMintSloth · 09/05/2025 06:22

Is it a case of it depends on where you live? As I live in Birmingham and have either done, seen for myself or heard people talking about of most if these things and theyre not uncommon🤔

BlondiePortz · 09/05/2025 06:21

Wanderdust · 09/05/2025 06:12

What a ridiculous thing to say RE sepsis! It's not a mythical disease but very serious. My sister nearly died after contracting it after childbirth, it was very traumatic. I also went to a first aid class where it was covered in detail as it can easily be missed.

I'm the bride who didn't invite kids because I wanted the adults to have fun 😊 I have kids now myself and still stand by it - it's the bride and groom's choice. What I have changed my mind about is having them at receptions. Another reason why I didn't want them is that I've been to a few ceremonies where I couldn't hear the vows for babies crying and kids being noisy. But no reason why they shouldn't be at the party and have fun! But again, bride and groom's choice.

I will happily go to a child free wedding and I am happy for a bride and groom to have any wedding they want, people should either go or not but I am not happy with brides having a tantrum because they chose a difficult wedding then have a tantrum as some people do not show up

This has not happened to me but I have heard it does, there are 3 events on the day and I get invited to 1 & 3 but not 2 I will no go to any again happy with any wedding set up but I dont get the part invite thing or destination weddings, seperate to people who marry where they live
with the word bride above I have known men to be involved in wedding planning but not known a groom have a tantrum over one, totally willing to stand corrected if they have done

MayMadness2025 · 09/05/2025 06:18

AffIt · 09/05/2025 00:23

I've never met anybody who's had sepsis (and I have a fairly broad and varied social circle), yet if half of the A&E threads on Mumsnet are to be believed, most people have had it at least four times.

I have, it can kill.

Hopefully people will remember it kills and ignore people like you that imply it's exaggerated. Very ignorant post, just because you in your social circle haven't seen it. Why do.you think campaigns are run to increase awareness 🤔

Wanderdust · 09/05/2025 06:12

What a ridiculous thing to say RE sepsis! It's not a mythical disease but very serious. My sister nearly died after contracting it after childbirth, it was very traumatic. I also went to a first aid class where it was covered in detail as it can easily be missed.

I'm the bride who didn't invite kids because I wanted the adults to have fun 😊 I have kids now myself and still stand by it - it's the bride and groom's choice. What I have changed my mind about is having them at receptions. Another reason why I didn't want them is that I've been to a few ceremonies where I couldn't hear the vows for babies crying and kids being noisy. But no reason why they shouldn't be at the party and have fun! But again, bride and groom's choice.

Wallywobbles · 09/05/2025 06:12

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 09/05/2025 00:57

I’ve never seen anyone butter a radish……

in France they are eaten with salted butter.

NormasArse · 09/05/2025 06:12

JessaWoo · 09/05/2025 01:55

Transwomen in the ladies’ toilets. So, so many of them!

All offering sanitary products to women who have been caught out…

LegalAlienated · 09/05/2025 06:11

XelaM · 09/05/2025 00:49

I must say I don't know anyone in real life who charges their young adult kids rent for living at home. This seems very common on MN, but I have never come across it in real life.

I have also never come across people who wouldn't invite their nieces/nephews to their weddings and insist on keeping them child-free at any cost. Again, a common occurrence on MN.

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I’d be surprised if it wasn’t true. My mother asked for quarter of my wages, same from my middle sister.
The youngest lived there for free until about 25.

ChampagneLassie · 09/05/2025 06:10

brettsalanger · 09/05/2025 00:57

I have never heard of anyone getting 30 mins free legal advice which most of MN suggests every firm offers.

A solicitor from a large firm told me most firms offer it but won’t advertise it. They’ll only offer it if they think you’re going to become a paying client and want to engage you, they’re not going to offer it if they think that’s all you want!

Mothership4two · 09/05/2025 06:10

That's Sod's Law @NetZeroZealot 😆

NetZeroZealot · 09/05/2025 06:09

Mothership4two · 09/05/2025 06:03

@gannett

I've never seen any dog leap up at random strangers in a park and slobber over them. From the dog-hating threads you'd think this was an everyday occurrence. I've regularly run and walked in parks up and down the UK, I love dogs so I notice every time I see one, and 95% of them are way too fixated on their own business and all the exciting smells around to pay humans who aren't their owner any heed. Sometimes you get an extra friendly one, which is lovely, but they're the minority.

Me neither on our daily dog walks. Dogs are usually more interested in other dogs or sniffing around, strange humans are just not interesting to them. Never been in dirty dog friendly pubs/cafes covered in dog hair and/or smelling of dog (or in dog friendly accommodation).

Many years ago I was walking our family dog on Christmas Day down a country lane . We met a young woman coming the other way wearing immaculate white jeans.
Yup, the dog jumped up and put his muddy paws all over her.

MayMadness2025 · 09/05/2025 06:08

Stichintime · 08/05/2025 23:37

I've seen the first 2 examples in real life, not the 3rd. Surprised you've never seen someone asleep on a park bench!

Me too.

OP needs to get out more

CurlewKate · 09/05/2025 06:07

All the extreme reactions to things-the gagging, the crying, the “losing it”. And the rudeness. And the petty point scoring and the refusal to put yourself out even slightly to help someone else.