We both moved in at the same time.
Firstly, Good fences make good neighbours - not everyone needs to love everyone else.
I’m bored and thinking what others might do with this.
Next door neighbour is prickly not with us but everyone and snappy to the point of rudeness.
DH and I are - nice and want our own space but nice to say good morning and leave each other alone the rest of the time etc
She was a bit difficult on the day we all moved in - told us she was upset at our dog being in the garden for 20 minutes alone whilst a sofa was delivered 🙄etc as she didn’t believe dogs should be left alone (dog was lying in the sun with other dogs and teenagers were sat out there) and asked us how long it was going to left alone. We said 10 minutes - front door open we need to get the sofa in. We put it down to moving in stresses.
She then shouted at someone else (another neighbour) for parking outside her house on the road instead of on their drive. They were loading and unloading etc
She snaps at everyone. Fine we leave her alone. She then got her removals van to park on the neighbours drive (!) to unload and the neighbours were gobsmacked!!
We have been living here a few months, at least once a week we get a delivery for her or her daughter. She never collects. When DH knocks and returns the parcel there is no thanks & she snaps at him ‘I’m in all day I don’t go out, I don’t know why they have left it with you’ DH works from home all day.
She’s having some outside building works done and doesn’t seem to care about the noise we have. But has told another neighbour off for ‘watering too loudly’ with the hose at 8pm 🤣on her own garden. We are not the only ones and I would say we’ve had one snappy comment a week. We don’t bother her at all. Get the picture?
I know she has downsized and moved in due to a divorce and lost her two dogs to the ex husband. So things may be raw. But hey I don’t know anything else about her.
DH - He’s getting fed up - doesn’t mind taking in packages but fed up of her attitude - never any thanks just the same comment. He is lovely and he thinks he can’t say anything as he wants to not upset her. She’s a very angry and snappy person and I feel she is projecting her own unhappiness on others.
Life’s too short for this and I’m not stressed but my options are
- refuse packages and say ‘she says she is in’
- ask her what her problem is
- kill with kindness
or other!
Part of my work role is all about disciplinaries and I’m known for taking no shit, but I try to do it factually with support and kindness and empathy but in this case I’m all for 3. Kill with kindness- Eg Are you ok Sally (not her name) when she is snappy, are you feeling ok, you seem very short on time. Sorry to hold you up, just dropping in your packages again. Or similar.
Regarding the packages ‘oh dear Sally you were in, and they dropped it off with us. How frustrating for you and how fortunate Dan was able to stop work and take them in for you. We are happy to help anytime. Have a nice evening now …., ‘ etc
I think the delivery drivers are actually a bit put by her - we have seen her shout at one who stopped at the end of her drive and her shout move your bloody van you are blocking the driveway. Errr it’s your driveway love and you aren’t going out.
what would you do?