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Sick of vile, rude teenagers

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Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 18:36

DD was learning about VE Day at school and got wine a few of her friends would be going down to the war memorial this afternoon for the remembrance event. She asked if we could go so I said I would walk her there for 20 minutes so she could quietly see what was going on before bedtime (it’s just round the corner).

We arrived but there was a group of about 8 teenagers sat in the middle of the square making an absolute scene of themselves. Shouting obscenities, vaping, running around, showing off to each other and rolling about on the floor. After 10 minutes of this, having seen the exasperation on the faces of some very elderly people who clearly felt too vulnerable to call them out, I went over and told them to stop embarrassing themselves and to go if they were just there to make a scene. Of course they carried on (although a few seemed to back down). They actually looked shocked like they’d never been told off in their lives. They probably hadn’t.

I’m just so sick of it. These types are everywhere. They’re absolute losers who will likely do nothing with their lives and cost us all a fortune. I know it’s not PC to say it but it’s true - I feel like these types are everywhere, bullying people who are unlikely to respond while leeching off the state.

I absolutely accept teenagers act out and fully expect that (in a secretive and limited way), but this was just so disrespectful and it was so disheartening to see yet another event ruined by yobbos.

I expect I’ll be told IABU.

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Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:48

5128gap · 08/05/2025 20:47

I doubt I'd learn much to disprove my observations in a court room. As far as I'm aware being 'rude and vile' it's not a matter for the courts.

We weren’t discussing whether they should be arrested. You said background isn’t a factor in bad behaviour or crime. It absolutely is. You know this. You’re pretending not to understand.

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Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:47

RJ2023 · 08/05/2025 20:46

You should watch the film "Eden Lake" - one of the best horror films I have ever seen.

I’ve heard about it, but couldn’t bring myself to watch! It sounds horrific. Harry Brown was amazing however, but very upsetting in parts.

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unsync · 08/05/2025 20:47

Pair this thread with the one about not having a 3 and a 5 year old under control and them running rings around the mother. It's not hard to see where some of this behaviour comes from is it?

5128gap · 08/05/2025 20:47

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:42

I’m working class (lorry driver dad). This is absolute rubbish. Pop into a local court room and then report back on the backgrounds.

I doubt I'd learn much to disprove my observations in a court room. As far as I'm aware being 'rude and vile' it's not a matter for the courts.

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:46

Smallmercies · 08/05/2025 20:45

Are you just looking for a row? Are you really bored?

No just sick of being misquoted endlessly.

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itsgettingweird · 08/05/2025 20:46

I’m not sure it’s teens in general. I work with teens and ds is an athlete so trains with them and so I see many really good ones who are dedicated and support those who need a suitable role model.

But in life there are always a small minority with no respect for anything or anyone. I dont even think they notice they are ruining an event for everyone else because their world revolves around them.

Teens though can change with the right attitude and guidance and people not being afraid to point out the obvious to them.

Im more fronted by adults who behave in this way and don’t even have the good grace to accept no one wants them ruining the ambience or decorum of such an event - or worse still set out to deliberately ruin the event.

Those teens absolutely were behaving appallingly. But it’s sad they havent had the right guidance in life to make the right choices. Good on you for calling them out. I hope they do have a future and aren’t written off as “losers” as they have plenty of future ahead of them to become decent members of society.

RJ2023 · 08/05/2025 20:46

You should watch the film "Eden Lake" - one of the best horror films I have ever seen.

Smallmercies · 08/05/2025 20:45

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:43

Did I say most people aren’t?

Are you just looking for a row? Are you really bored?

brighteyedandbushytailedone · 08/05/2025 20:45

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:43

A mix - the worst behaved were the girls, who seemed to be showing off to the boys. The girls carried on but the boys mostly shut up, interestingly. I was sure I would be ignored or in for a mouthful from them!

Ugh.

I do hate Klaus Schwab but am starting to agree with him about “useless eaters”.

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:43

Smallmercies · 08/05/2025 20:41

You're just looking for negatives. Most people, young and older, are decent and nice.

Did I say most people aren’t?

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Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:43

brighteyedandbushytailedone · 08/05/2025 20:42

Were they all males or a mix?

A mix - the worst behaved were the girls, who seemed to be showing off to the boys. The girls carried on but the boys mostly shut up, interestingly. I was sure I would be ignored or in for a mouthful from them!

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Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:42

5128gap · 08/05/2025 20:41

YABVU to frame this as a problem with working class teenagers. Because that's what you mean, isn't it? When you call them losers? You believe they are children from lower socio economic backgrounds whose parents may be on benefits. I can tell you from experience, parental 'respectability' isn't a barometer for the behaviour of teens. In my village the kids hanging around making a nuisance of themselves are from good homes, drunk on alcohol pinched from the wine rack, with parents who either naively believe they are studying at a friends, or who know, but are the types who waffle on about undeveloped brains to excuse their child ruling the roost and doing as they please. The working class kids are often being raised strictly by traditional means.

I’m working class (lorry driver dad). This is absolute rubbish. Pop into a local court room and then report back on the backgrounds.

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brighteyedandbushytailedone · 08/05/2025 20:42

Were they all males or a mix?

Smallmercies · 08/05/2025 20:41

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:39

Me included. These weren’t that though. If most grow out of it then why do we have so many scummy adults?

You're just looking for negatives. Most people, young and older, are decent and nice.

5128gap · 08/05/2025 20:41

YABVU to frame this as a problem with working class teenagers. Because that's what you mean, isn't it? When you call them losers? You believe they are children from lower socio economic backgrounds whose parents may be on benefits. I can tell you from experience, parental 'respectability' isn't a barometer for the behaviour of teens. In my village the kids hanging around making a nuisance of themselves are from good homes, drunk on alcohol pinched from the wine rack, with parents who either naively believe they are studying at a friends, or who know, but are the types who waffle on about undeveloped brains to excuse their child ruling the roost and doing as they please. The working class kids are often being raised strictly by traditional means.

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:40

Cel77 · 08/05/2025 20:39

A teenager is perfectly able to understand when they need to behave themselves. When they don't,it's out of choice and to annoy adults. I don't have a problem with her saying that.

Thank you. My 6 year old sits quietly for an hour in church once a week.

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Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:39

Smallmercies · 08/05/2025 20:38

Plenty of successful adults were rebellious teenagers - most of them grow out of it. There's no need to be so judgmental and pessimistic.

Me included. These weren’t that though. If most grow out of it then why do we have so many scummy adults?

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Cel77 · 08/05/2025 20:39

Suszieq · 08/05/2025 18:39

Interesting that you bemoan the attitudes of teenagers and then say they’re “losers” who will do “nothing” with their lives.

You’re the adult here and to have that attitude is pathetic.

A teenager is perfectly able to understand when they need to behave themselves. When they don't,it's out of choice and to annoy adults. I don't have a problem with her saying that.

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:39

MadamePeriwinkle · 08/05/2025 20:38

I'm not disputing the behaviour you witnessed was disgusting (I hadn't seen the post specifying what they said), but to tar all (or a large number of) teenagers with the same brush and describe them as a 'lost cause' is pretty appalling imho.

Where did I tar ‘all or a large number’? Can you quote?

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Smallmercies · 08/05/2025 20:38

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:36

If they prove me wrong I will be delighted.

They won’t.

Plenty of successful adults were rebellious teenagers - most of them grow out of it. There's no need to be so judgmental and pessimistic.

MadamePeriwinkle · 08/05/2025 20:38

I'm not disputing the behaviour you witnessed was disgusting (I hadn't seen the post specifying what they said), but to tar all (or a large number of) teenagers with the same brush and describe them as a 'lost cause' is pretty appalling imho.

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:36

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 08/05/2025 20:34

Shame on you. The kids you're supposed to protect might not be perfect but they don't deserve to be labelled losers and have you assume that they will end up on benefits.

Do better and if you hate the financial status of the community you serve so much, do something else

If they prove me wrong I will be delighted.

They won’t.

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Smallmercies · 08/05/2025 20:35

I never see local teenagers being other than respectful and considerate. The last yob I saw was middle-aged.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 08/05/2025 20:34

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:22

No that isn’t ’just kids’. Screaming ‘you fucking cunts’ in front of what looked to be 90-100 year olds isn’t ’just kids’. It’s absolutely disgusting, bratty and offensive. Shame on you

Shame on you. The kids you're supposed to protect might not be perfect but they don't deserve to be labelled losers and have you assume that they will end up on benefits.

Do better and if you hate the financial status of the community you serve so much, do something else

ruethewhirl · 08/05/2025 20:33

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:28

They weren’t smoking on street corners or having a crafty drink in the park, they were screaming ‘YOU FUCKING CUNT’ to interrupt a large VA gathering. Amazed the distinction isn’t being made

So am I, that’s disgusting behaviour. There are some like that round here, zero respect for others.