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Sick of vile, rude teenagers

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Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 18:36

DD was learning about VE Day at school and got wine a few of her friends would be going down to the war memorial this afternoon for the remembrance event. She asked if we could go so I said I would walk her there for 20 minutes so she could quietly see what was going on before bedtime (it’s just round the corner).

We arrived but there was a group of about 8 teenagers sat in the middle of the square making an absolute scene of themselves. Shouting obscenities, vaping, running around, showing off to each other and rolling about on the floor. After 10 minutes of this, having seen the exasperation on the faces of some very elderly people who clearly felt too vulnerable to call them out, I went over and told them to stop embarrassing themselves and to go if they were just there to make a scene. Of course they carried on (although a few seemed to back down). They actually looked shocked like they’d never been told off in their lives. They probably hadn’t.

I’m just so sick of it. These types are everywhere. They’re absolute losers who will likely do nothing with their lives and cost us all a fortune. I know it’s not PC to say it but it’s true - I feel like these types are everywhere, bullying people who are unlikely to respond while leeching off the state.

I absolutely accept teenagers act out and fully expect that (in a secretive and limited way), but this was just so disrespectful and it was so disheartening to see yet another event ruined by yobbos.

I expect I’ll be told IABU.

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Miley23 · 17/06/2025 19:29

blushroses6 · 08/05/2025 21:16

I completely agree, it must be very area dependent judging from this thread. In our town, groups of teens keep using catapults to kill birds and other small animals. Incidents are posted almost daily into local fb groups, slightly different areas so lots of different kids involved too. Really worrying! The town centre is pretty much a no go zone after 3pm. Well aware it’s not every teen but it’s certainly getting worse where I live.

I was visiting my son at Uni in Lancaster last week and the town centre pedestrianized area was plagued by gangs of rowdy kids on bikes alongside the adult drunks and addicts. It was grim. Most still in school uniform , it was around 3.30.

Miley23 · 17/06/2025 19:26

Our area is currently plagued by teenage shoplifters and kids tearing round on stolen motorbikes. I challenged two trying to steal stuff last night and they did put the stuff back but I've no doubt they tried again once I'd gone. Staff can't do anything they are everywhere nicking stuff.

ruethewhirl · 17/06/2025 19:22

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 21:12

Oh absolutely not but that’s a niche area isn’t it? Generally people you see shouting obscenities in the street, stealing etc are from the underclass.

‘The underclass’? Nice.

x2boys · 17/06/2025 19:21

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 19:10

Then you’re very lucky, or live in a wealthy area (do you?)

I don't think that's fair there have always been badly behaved teens in all walks of life the majority are fine but when a few of the badly behaved ones get together they csn cause havoc.

x2boys · 17/06/2025 19:17

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 18:43

What’s pathetic is turning up to a war memorial event to ruin it in front of some people who looked in their late 90s and probably lost friends if they weren’t directly affected themselves. I don’t even care any more, these types need dealing with.

Tbf I can,t magine there are many adults still alive that fought in the 2nd world war they would have to be at least 98 to have just about seen active service.
But agree people shouldn't spoil thees events.

Dodgejam · 17/06/2025 18:59

I was on the thread you started about your pretty “vile” DH and how he responds to even a whiff of stress @Nunaluna

i Imagine he was a teen just like this

yoyo3 · 08/05/2025 21:41

YANBu

i live in a town with absolutely vile teenagers constantly causing trouble especially with the police! They’re awful, and the parents aren’t much better (I work in a shop and see them all)

ArtTheClown · 08/05/2025 21:26

@blushroses6 where I used to live, gangs of these wee scrotes would actually travel especially to go round booting doors, damaging cars and throwing bricks through windows for their evening's entertainment, then leg it to the station when they'd had their fun. Went on for months, police of course did fuck all. Probably still going on but I moved.

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 21:25

5128gap · 08/05/2025 21:22

Again, you are casually conflating two quite different things. Rowdy anti social behaviour and theft. You started this thread specifically about teens behaving badly, disrespectfully, drunk and swearing in the street. Whenever I give you examples to show that this is not restricted to the demographic you state, you move the goal posts.

You gave me 1 niche example - protests - which wasn’t what happened today. Nice try though

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5128gap · 08/05/2025 21:22

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 21:12

Oh absolutely not but that’s a niche area isn’t it? Generally people you see shouting obscenities in the street, stealing etc are from the underclass.

Again, you are casually conflating two quite different things. Rowdy anti social behaviour and theft. You started this thread specifically about teens behaving badly, disrespectfully, drunk and swearing in the street. Whenever I give you examples to show that this is not restricted to the demographic you state, you move the goal posts.

blushroses6 · 08/05/2025 21:16

I completely agree, it must be very area dependent judging from this thread. In our town, groups of teens keep using catapults to kill birds and other small animals. Incidents are posted almost daily into local fb groups, slightly different areas so lots of different kids involved too. Really worrying! The town centre is pretty much a no go zone after 3pm. Well aware it’s not every teen but it’s certainly getting worse where I live.

Nanny0gg · 08/05/2025 21:13

hupsie · 08/05/2025 19:03

I think you were officious and annoying.

She should have just ignored it?

Why?

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 21:13

Absolutely45 · 08/05/2025 21:09

Nr me, 7 or 8 13/14 yo's called a young man "gay" and other such names, they then went after him, forced him to the ground, held his arms behind his back and kicked him repeatedly in the head, they then ran off laughing, leaving him covered in blood.

The Police arrested some of them because of CCTV and eye witness cameras but what in reality will happen? nothing at all.

i wish we'd bring back the Birch for these scum, stop using short sentences and teach these thugs actions have consequences.

How absolutely awful and I agree with everything you said

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Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 21:12

5128gap · 08/05/2025 21:11

Then maybe you need to move in more affluent circles. Have you never seen university students protesting? Defacing monuments, urinating in the street, holding signs with disgusting threatening slogans? Do you think they all come from homes with parents on benefits?

Oh absolutely not but that’s a niche area isn’t it? Generally people you see shouting obscenities in the street, stealing etc are from the underclass.

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5128gap · 08/05/2025 21:11

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 21:01

Yet to hear a posho shout ‘you fucking cunt’ at a war memorial event.

Then maybe you need to move in more affluent circles. Have you never seen university students protesting? Defacing monuments, urinating in the street, holding signs with disgusting threatening slogans? Do you think they all come from homes with parents on benefits?

Absolutely45 · 08/05/2025 21:09

Roxietrees · 08/05/2025 18:53

I’d be blaming their parents not them, they’re just kids at the end of the day. And kids will be disrespectful little shits if they haven’t been taught not to be by their parents

Nr me, 7 or 8 13/14 yo's called a young man "gay" and other such names, they then went after him, forced him to the ground, held his arms behind his back and kicked him repeatedly in the head, they then ran off laughing, leaving him covered in blood.

The Police arrested some of them because of CCTV and eye witness cameras but what in reality will happen? nothing at all.

i wish we'd bring back the Birch for these scum, stop using short sentences and teach these thugs actions have consequences.

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 21:01

5128gap · 08/05/2025 20:57

I said that background is not the factor you a framing it as in the behaviour you are describing- specifically hanging around being rude and rowdy. It was you not I that moved that on to arrestable offences by suggesting my point would be disproved by a visit to court. Yes, underprivileged children are more likely to end up in court. But rude disrespectful behaviour is not the preserve of lower income children. So either stick to the point or make another one, rather than conflating two seperate things just to sound as though you're right when ime, you're not.

Yet to hear a posho shout ‘you fucking cunt’ at a war memorial event.

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 08/05/2025 20:58

JudgeJ · 08/05/2025 20:56

Another example of the need for a bollocks button!

Yes, for you!

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Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:57

ArtTheClown · 08/05/2025 20:56

YABVU to frame this as a problem with working class teenagers. Because that's what you mean, isn't it?

It's not a working class issue. It's what people refer to as the underclass - in not sure if there's a politer term for it.

Working class people are far less likely to handwring and make excuses for it than the well meaning middle class though.

Absolutely and DH just said exactly this. You’re right. It’s the underclass.

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5128gap · 08/05/2025 20:57

Nunaluna · 08/05/2025 20:48

We weren’t discussing whether they should be arrested. You said background isn’t a factor in bad behaviour or crime. It absolutely is. You know this. You’re pretending not to understand.

I said that background is not the factor you a framing it as in the behaviour you are describing- specifically hanging around being rude and rowdy. It was you not I that moved that on to arrestable offences by suggesting my point would be disproved by a visit to court. Yes, underprivileged children are more likely to end up in court. But rude disrespectful behaviour is not the preserve of lower income children. So either stick to the point or make another one, rather than conflating two seperate things just to sound as though you're right when ime, you're not.

JudgeJ · 08/05/2025 20:56

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 08/05/2025 20:34

Shame on you. The kids you're supposed to protect might not be perfect but they don't deserve to be labelled losers and have you assume that they will end up on benefits.

Do better and if you hate the financial status of the community you serve so much, do something else

Another example of the need for a bollocks button!

ArtTheClown · 08/05/2025 20:56

YABVU to frame this as a problem with working class teenagers. Because that's what you mean, isn't it?

It's not a working class issue. It's what people refer to as the underclass - in not sure if there's a politer term for it.

Working class people are far less likely to handwring and make excuses for it than the well meaning middle class though.

HellsBellsTrudy · 08/05/2025 20:53

I can’t help but agree, we’re moving house and one of the reasons is the amount of teenagers like this hanging around (admittedly we’re near a corner shop) but they’ve also taken to smoking weed and wearing balaclavas and I don’t want y family anywhere near it.

Kids will be kids but there is a difference in what you see a lot of these days, and OP is right that they thrive because people are too scared to say anything (I am!)

1dayatatime · 08/05/2025 20:50

Suszieq · 08/05/2025 18:39

Interesting that you bemoan the attitudes of teenagers and then say they’re “losers” who will do “nothing” with their lives.

You’re the adult here and to have that attitude is pathetic.

Statistically though she is probably correct that these disruptive people are more likely to be a dis benefit to society rather than a benefit, they are more likely to financially take from the country than they contribute and lastly will most likely provide worse parenting to their children than they received from their own parents.

Of course this is a broad generalisation and there will undoubtedly be exceptions but overall it's broadly correct.

MadamePeriwinkle · 08/05/2025 20:49

@Nunaluna

"These types are everywhere."

"I know it’s not PC to say it but it’s true - I feel like these types are everywhere,"

Admittedly you do back track later...

As for...

"They’re a lost cause. They don’t even look right, mentally"

How the actual fuck can you tell? Absolutely abhorrent.

You sound understandably disillusioned with your job and could clearly use a career change for your own sake and that of the people you work with.