DH embarrassing himself on local Facebook page

Jump the shark is a very well known phrase. Just because you don't know it doesn't mean it's not "normal English".

I have come across such remarks and attitudes, I certainly couldn't live with that.

I hope you challenge him when he says such things, find out what he really thinks, what he has to back up his opinions.

Facebook is rife at the moment with that sort of stuff, some folk revel in it but if you ask them why or dispute anything they say, they show their ignorance and are frequently quite defensive.

The other thing is obscenities. There was a man in a group I post on sometimes who posted the most unbelievably lewd things, really yeuch (he loves bodily functions and excretions), offensive to both sexes but particularly women for whom he appeared to have no respect,more or less saying they were slags. He also came up with really ignorant, and sometimes cruel, racist remarks. His defence was that he 'likes winding people up', I am not so sure. It is very much of note that his wife, of whom he has posted the odd photo, is not on FB. I would die if that was my husband. However I have to say he seems to have vanished.

If your husband is doing that, he is behaving worse than a child, Giraffe.

I always scout trades on our FB group and last week was looking for a plumber.

I genuinely click on a few profiles to see evidence of work etc and came across several that had the standard 'Reform' posts scattered on their profiles.

Easily sifted out

Ask him to explain exactly how his jokes are funny. This always trips them up.

If he makes racist jokes, he’s being racist. He is racist. Saying you don’t believe someone to be racist when they are actively choosing to say racist things is peak ignorance on your part. Call a spade a spade.

Farage had to be! I really hate this man!
Well, he is taking over. There are a good number of people who do agree with him.
I think he is nothing but a scam. He is there to make money for himself and has zero idea of how to run the country. Which can be said of many politicians. But I think in his case, he will be quite the same as Trump in US.
I really thought Farage followers here would change their mind when they see what is going on in US. But nope.
In the meantime our DHs do not turn into rabid racists, going out to burn people, like the riots in the summer. I think everyone is fully entitled to a political opinion and to express it. Within the law. And we should not ban anyone from talking about their thoughts, bar promoting violence. We will have to learn to live through these days. Hear all the Farage copy/ paste rubbish. Hopefully he will never ever be PM.

Ah, so he's a coward as well as a thick racist! Quite the catch!

This is urgh. Even if these aren't his real views, surely he realises these types of posts amplify and validate these beliefs?

Is this behaviour very out of character? if so, I'd be asking what's precipitated it.

There was an absolute clunge of this ilk calling a local mayor a woke commie Nazi under her perfectly innocuous post of her being mayoral at a local event the other day.

I clicked on his profile- because I'm always curious about these idiots- and it was full of nice selfies with his partner. I had to assume that she shares his views. In the light of this thread, I am seriously feeling for her if she doesn't.

He also used his real name and had his ex employer in his bio 🤦‍♀️. Guess he won't be having many future employers...

I know exactly the sort of Facebook bloke you're describing your husband to be and NGL, I'm finding this thread utterly hilarious

Obviously, OBVIOUSLY you shouldn't be married to this idiot

Oh God, one of my friends is married to a husband like this, and I used to absolutely cringe every time he posted some "edgy" shite on Facebook (I've muted him now).

She got married very young (18) and I think she just didn't realise that he wasn't very bright.

She is lovely, but I do judge her a tiny little bit for staying married to a twat. I think it would be a dealbreaker for me.

I'd make an all caps post on the local page saying something along the lines of "I HEREBY DISAVOW ANY/ALL POSTS OF A POLITICAL NATURE MADE BY <INSERT HIS NAME> AS I FIND THEM DEEPLY OFFENSIVE".

Jump the shark is a pretty well known phrase. It’s not a weirdly niche MN thing.

Many a true word spoken in jest

He sounds awful

I wouldn't want to be associated with him. Are you friends on Facebook? If so, I'd unfriend him

I would think it could still potentially affect his income though. I mean if the man who does my yard work, who is self-employed, started posting racist stuff on Facebook I would be canceling his contract and going with someone else.

He sounds really unpleasant.

It means this poster thinks they're circumnavigating MN's 'no troll hunting' rules.

'Jumping the shark' refers to a story or plot-line in tv/books etc, where it just gets too silly to be believable any more. In this context it suggest the other poster believes the OP is lying.

Whether he genuinely believes what he's posting or not (and I struggle to believe that anyone would post that sort of thing under an easily traceable profile if they weren't at least partly in agreement) - he sounds like a total bellend.

I'd genuinely be rethinking the relationship because I'd have the ick so badly my ovaries were shrivelling.

Sorry, OP.

I'm glad it’s all fun and games for him!
imagine being a POC in this present climate? But hey ho if he is having a giggle…..

"Stop acting the cunt online Jimmy and take in the washing like I asked you an hour ago. Don't make me turn off the internet again."

Simple 🤷🏽‍♀️

Since Meta revised their community guidelines in the light of Trump's victory, this kind of snidey low level racism has been all over Facebook, sadly. I doubt they'll care

Nobody wants their OP being a dick for all to see .

Can you sit him down and tell him he is not only embarrassing your whole family but actively failing your kids and you. How are you supposed to control/supervise/guide your kids learning to use the internet responsibly when their father is doing this. Are you supposed to be Mummy to all of them?

Well said.

I’m all for it too. But it doesn’t mean what you think it means, and it definitely doesn’t mean “freedom from consequences” which most racist think it does.