Dd was born late august, is the youngest in her year but instead of rest of her class being just under a year older than her , there’s 4 children who are nearly a year and a half older because they were born April -august the year above and deferred.
Somebody has to be the youngest and somebody the oldest but surely the fairest way is to keep the age difference within a year.
Dd is doing well academically and socially and only really struggling during playtime and PE as she is smaller. A boy in her class has early May birthday but because he was deferred instead of being 3+ months older than her is 15+ months older and the biggest and strongest in the class leading to several incidents where he has injured her.
A family member has a baby due in June and is already mentioned deferring them without knowing how advanced or behind they are going to be.
I definitely do think there are a few exceptions where it can be necessary but it seems to to be often done just because it can. Maybe there should be be stricter guidelines and some sort of test required?
AIBU? If so what am I missing?
I don’t hear people share this opinion often and haven’t shared it with family member