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Lost weight but husband hasn’t tried

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BoldAmberDuck · 08/05/2025 11:15

Tell me if I’m being awful. I have lost a stone recently but my husband is significantly much more overweight and it really annoys me to see him still eating crisps, sweets etc and not caring. It’s been really hard going and I feel like I need some support and encouragement. I’m making healthy meals but he just snacks afterwards. He laid on the sofa with his belly out and it physically repulsed me. Feels like he’s being deliberately unpleasant and unsupportive. Or should I just think it’s up to him if he wants to carry on being obese?

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MadeleineAllbright · 08/05/2025 11:26

He doesn’t have to diet and try to lose weight just because you’re doing that.

Also, you’ve only lost a stone so far and this is clearly quite a recent thing - how do you know it’s going to stick?

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BoldAmberDuck · 08/05/2025 11:24

ForOliveMember · 08/05/2025 11:20

I mean you can't force someone to lose weight who doesn't want too. It's a mental and emotional battle to lose weight, and you have to be ready and actually want to do it.

Did you plan to do it together? If not, maybe hes okay with it at the moment.

The belly comment is abit harsh. I assume your hardly super model level yourself OP.

No im definitely not super model. I just hoped he would want to do it too

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BoldAmberDuck · 08/05/2025 11:23

ScrewedByFunding · 08/05/2025 11:19

Why have you been losing weight recently? Have you just realised you're overweight and want to lose some? So a little while you were like your DH, not bothered and suddenly because you are, he has to be too otherwise he's repulsive.

You don't sound like you like him at all.

We are both diabetic and doctors advice to both lose weight. Yes I guess I am being harsh. Think I was hoping he would join in and lose too. Sticking to a diet is so difficult. I’m no oli painting I know. One more stone to go.

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loropianalover · 08/05/2025 11:22

Why do you think he’s being deliberately unpleasant? Had you both spoken about losing weight and decided you wanted to do it, and now he’s pulled out?

Do you feel him eating crisps etc. around you is unsupportive? Or is it something else?

Stressybetty · 08/05/2025 11:21

Me and DH have tried dieting together before and it's never worked. Just focus on your own goals and leave him to it. If he's not in the right frame of mind to diet you can't force it.

ForOliveMember · 08/05/2025 11:20

I mean you can't force someone to lose weight who doesn't want too. It's a mental and emotional battle to lose weight, and you have to be ready and actually want to do it.

Did you plan to do it together? If not, maybe hes okay with it at the moment.

The belly comment is abit harsh. I assume your hardly super model level yourself OP.

ScrewedByFunding · 08/05/2025 11:19

Why have you been losing weight recently? Have you just realised you're overweight and want to lose some? So a little while you were like your DH, not bothered and suddenly because you are, he has to be too otherwise he's repulsive.

You don't sound like you like him at all.

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