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WWYD - Husband I’m well and I’m due to go on holiday

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AmIEnough · 08/05/2025 07:36

Hi all! I’m posting for a bit of advice here as I really don’t know what to do. My DH has been on Mounjaro for a period of time and about a month ago became very unwell with an upset tummy. He wasn’t replacing fluids as much as he should and ended up incredibly dehydrated and after three days of continually getting worse he finally collapsed. Long story short I ended up calling an ambulance and they took him into hospital where they gave him bags and bags of fluid and IV antibiotics. He was there overnight and it transpires that they were incredibly worried about him because he has heart disease and his haemoglobin levels were so high that his blood was really thick and they were concerned that he was going to have a heart attack. They actually told him that had I not called the ambulance when I did they would be looking at a very different situation.

Fast forward to today and he’s now got an upset tummy again. I think self-inflicted because he’s gone up to the next dose having only been on the lower dose for one week which is not the norm.

He’s managing it better as he’s drinking a lot and I’ve bought him isotonic drinks to help replace the salts and electrolytes but my dilemma is that my 18-year-old daughter and I are due to go on holiday on Saturday for the first girls only holiday we’ve ever had. It’s taken me a year to save up for it and we’ve booked ourselves a couple of trips.

My question is do we go or do I cancel it or try and rearrange it? I think I’ll probably end up losing all my money and my daughter will be devastated, as will I of course but I just can’t predict how my husband is going to be this time round and whether he will manage things better knowing that his fluid intake was nowhere near sufficient last time.

Just looking for advice really.

To add, his 21-year-old son also lives here and will be around.

OP posts:
Digdongdoo · 08/05/2025 07:54

Of course you go. He's a grown up who can take responsibility for his own health. He really shouldn't have upped his dose, that was really stupid and selfish. Almost like he's done it on purpose...

Radionowhere · 08/05/2025 07:53

Go. Absolutely 💯 go.
Is he okay with you going? Upping his dose with no regard for the problems he's had sounds awfully like he's trying to manipulate you into not going.

hopeishere · 08/05/2025 07:52

Messing about with the dose is extremely irresponsible given he has underlying health issues. Go on the holiday but I doubt you will be able to relax.

InSpainTheRain · 08/05/2025 07:50

You should go. He has a 21 year old with him and he needs to manage his condition better. Otherwise you'll always be in a state of "I couldn't do X because of DH". Enjoy your hard earned time with you DD.

Winter2020 · 08/05/2025 07:48

You should go but make sure his adult son knows when to seek medical help.

I would be raging at my husband for increasing his dose again- risking his health and no regard for your plans.

Go and have a great time. Tell your husband no more Mounjaro until after you are back at least.

EggnogNoggin · 08/05/2025 07:48

He's an adult living with another adult, of course you go on holiday.

Does he normally get ill when you're due to go away or out with friends?

Not saying he faked the first incident but possible he is playing up to a possible second one if its convenient for him.

SelinaPlace · 08/05/2025 07:48

Go on the holiday. Your DH’s irresponsibility in managing his own health should not deprive you and your daughter of a long-anticipated holiday together.

Flipslop · 08/05/2025 07:47

He’s messing with his health very irresponsibly, go on your holiday. For your peace of mind is there someone who can check on him?

Sunbline · 08/05/2025 07:46

You should go, he will have his son around in case he's poorly again. Wild he's still taking it and still being a bit foolish on it by the sound of it seen as though he was so poorly.

Dozer · 08/05/2025 07:44

Go on holiday.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 08/05/2025 07:42

His bahaviour is causing him problems. He seems quite content to play dice with his health, despite being so ill, he's happily fucking around with dosage, etc.
He's a grown man. If he gets ill again, hexand his adult son can sort it.
Don't deny your daughter and you a booked holiday. He's a fuckwit, and you are not his mother

Pomegranatecarnage · 08/05/2025 07:40

You should go. And your husband needs to take the correct dosage or stop taking it for a while. He needs to be on each dose for four weeks minimum.