WWYD - Husband I’m well and I’m due to go on holiday

Take the holiday. Your husband is a grown man and having had one warning, needs to accept responsibility for his own actions, which quite frankly, are ignorant and selfish.

Of course you go.

Why would you even consider not going. He's a grown adult who knows fine well he should be drinking enough, he's not a child!

Go on holiday, your son is there with DH.
Do you think if the situation was reversed he would change his plans?

Go! He’s a grown adult and he has his adult son there. Tell him to stop pissing around with his medication and grow up.

Go.

Go on your holiday. And consider extending it, unless he agrees to look after his own damn health.

He needs to go back to the correct dose, the absolute idiot.

Go.

Go.

You cannot spend your life hanging on to and being controlled by ‘what ifs’ around your DH.

Tell him he needs to take care and act within medical advice to avoid putting himself at risk, and giving unfair stress to your Ds.

Make sure your Ds knows what to do in an emergency but emphasise that he is not actually responsible for his Dad’s behaviour or health.

I hope your DH stabilises his health and improves.

Assuming he has mental capacity - you imo must go, or you will be forever in this situation. Also, I would not be ringing or messaging home, whilst you are away. You owe this to yourself and DD. I'd make it clear to DS that he is NOT responsible for his DF, but ensure he can contact you in an absolute emergency. I suspect, without you there, DH will do enough to stay alive. What an arse. Have a lovely holiday OP.

And maybes dig out some of the testimonies of people who have almost killed themselves and those who have had a loved one die

Your husband is a grown up and quite capable of looking after himself.....go and enjoy your holiday.

Oh good grief your poor thing

edit to Remove random billet point

he is being a total prat and you are naturally worried about it and he could kill himslef which would be totally his own fault - I can see your worry

be very very blunt with him but go on holiday - he’s an adult and his stupidity shouldn’t dictate your life

Go on holiday. He has another adult in the house if there are any issues, but he's being wreckless with the Mounjaro (and I say that as someone on it myself). Why on earth has a gone up a dose when he had issues at the last dosage? What did the doctors say about him remaining on it given it's given him serious complications?

Definitely go. If he’s going to start taking responsibility for his health this would be a great time to start.

Go go go !!!!

Do go.

Don't you even consider not going!

Tell him to drop the dose back, drink min 2l a day and if he wants to be dead go ahead and don’t bother following the doctors instructions, your going on holiday because if he can’t manage that you don’t know how you feel about him anyway. but if that’s his plan can he first write to his kids snd say it would have been easy to stay here for you but I just couldn’t be bothered. And then go on holiday.

I have zero attraction to stupid, can you tell? I came on this thread expecting to say of course you need to skip the holiday and stay with your dh, but I wasn’t expecting his ill health to be solely self inflicted.

Go on holiday.
Before I went thought I’d have a Serious Talk with him to say I know you’re keen but if you overdo it youve been told you’ll have a heart attack or stroke. That could mean permanent paralysis or death. It’s not worth the risk. And your son will end up mentally scarred if anything happens to you and he feels responsible (even though he’s 1000% not). The body can only process the fat and get rid of it at its own pace. You need to be careful. You can’t rush this or it won’t work properly. There are no shortcuts. There are rules and it’s expensive for a reason. If you break the rules you’ll be permanently damaged or dead. You need to take actually following the rules more seriously.

Then I’d go. I don’t think I could respect someone if he messed this up again after nearly dying. Stupid man.

Go, he's been really irresponsible upping his dose.
Could you encourage him to speak to a doctor though so at least he nips any problems in the bud this time

Go on holiday.

My answer would be different if he was seriously ill and it was outside his control, but his health problems are entirely of his own making - messing with dosages, failing to hydrate himself. It sounds like you feel you’re responsible for monitoring even his most basic needs. He’s a grown man, not a child, and you’re not his mother or his emotional support animal.

I understand you’re worried about him, but he can surely manage his own health for a few days - especially with another adult in the house who can make an emergency call in the unlikely event that it’s needed. Don’t cancel or ruin this holiday for yourself and DD, it’s not fair on either of you.

He got seriously ill because he's being daft, if you take medication you follow the rules for use. He's a grown man Op, you shouldn't have to miss out to stay at home and keep an eye on him, you're his DW not his DM

Your husband must take responsibility for himself

Go on your holiday.

if it makes you feel better, you can FaceTime him while away to check he is ok.

But he is a grown man playing silly buggars with strong meds. Do not sacrifice your time with your dd because of his recklessness. I say this as someone who is also on WLI.