WWYD - Husband I’m well and I’m due to go on holiday

He is either very very stupid or a manipulative bully. Or possibly both.

Whatever the truth of this is, do NOT change your plans to accommodate him.

You should absolutely go. He needs to learn the consequences of his choices and can’t rely on you to run around after him after his own stupid behaviour like not drinking water.

You should go but first, notify everyone he wouldn't want to know that he could be ill and needs checking in on. That way he might be determined in future to show everyone there was absolutely no need and behave like a responsible adult.

Fast forward to today and he’s now got an upset tummy again. I think self-inflicted because he’s gone up to the next dose having only been on the lower dose for one week which is not the norm

Wtf?

Go on your holiday and tell yogr dh to act like an adult. Hydrate properly and stop dicking about with his medication.

You absolutely go.

He should not be playing around with these weight loss injections. He should be following the correct dose and doing the necessary to keep hydrated. He really is being an idiot.

I mirror everyone else. He is an adult, and there is another adult around too. He can take care of his own health. You are not his babysitter.

Please don't deprive yourself of this holiday with your DD when he is more than capable of taking responsibility for himself.

Yes you might worry but you can call him everyday if you want, or Facetime him, and stay in contact if it helps you feel better.

Go and have a wonderful holiday making memories with your DD ❤

Go on the holiday

This is a grown man you're talking about right? You are his partner, not his mummy. If he wants to fuck about with his dosage whilst fully aware of the potential consequences, then that's entirely on him. It is in no way your responsibility to save him from himself.

Is he deliberately sabotaging your hard-earned holiday plans or just a thick, selfish tosser?

I had one like that (past tense), who would engineer personal 'emergencies' to prevent me from doing things without him or that didn't centre him.

He seems headed that way anyway, so she might as well enjoy the time she has before then ☹️.

Your husband is a grown adult. He does not need babysitting. Go on the holiday.

Does he have form for sabotaging events that don't include him? Go on holiday and enjoy yourself, he's a grown adult and makes his own choices.

100% go

You should go, of course. He is an adult, and can - and should - take responsibility for his own choices and actions,

Probably because she'll end up as his carer if he carries on being so irresponsible.

I'd go. He can contact you in an emergency or call an ambulance.

Go.

Have a great time.

He's an adult, and assuming he doesn't have a learning disability, should be taking responsibility for his own health and wellbeing.
You need to go on holiday with your daughter. He and his son can manage at home together.
My view is that, if he has changed his dose without supervision, he's an idiot, and shouldn't be able to access the drug. You'd have thought he'd have gotten enough of a fright with his recent hospital experience.

I understand your worry. I'd worry too but I think you should go.

Ask your son to keep an eye - is there anyone else around as back up for your son? Friends close by you could explain the situation to so they can also keep an eye on them both?

Hope you do go and have a fantastic girls break 😘

He’s a. An adult and b. An idiot. Why are you giving this a second thought?!

OP I do hope he stops taking them, I'm a nurse and in the last month have already had 3 admissions due to complications from taking mounjaro (all male patients actually) one of them is still in hospital and on IV fluids because the diarrhoea is relentless and his bloods are all deranged. This particular patient took 2 paracetamol and passed them in the same form, so stuff is literally going straight through him. No one talks about the complications, just how brilliant they are for easy weight loss!

If you’re worried enough to consider cancelling a holiday, you should get this checked out medically.

I know in the UK it’s considered unacceptable to seek medical treatment for anything less than imminent death, but set aside the politics of a failing healthcare system for a minute.

For whatever reason, your dh isn’t making good decisions and there could be a dangerous consequence. If you think it’s manipulation call his bluff, but if he’s cognitively compromised for some reason, I’d follow it up. We tend to be very judgemental about people who put their health at risk but it’s important to take into account that there can be reasons for poor decision making.

I haven’t been lucky to live in a world of sensible, balanced, component adults - I’ve been dealing with nd, dementia, anorexia, suicidal ideation and phobia, and the fact that stupid decisions are taken is a reason to help, not to condemn.

Don’t cancel your holiday. But I would definitely seek medical help urgently. If it’s nothing, you’ll be able to go with an easy mind, and if it’s something you’ll be able to go knowing he’s being dealt with.

Why do you care about his health more than he does? Go on your holiday and leave the adult to manage his medication.

I agree with everyone else -you should go. I don't blame you for being worried though.

I do wonder if he has form for this? Being irresponsible so that you have to swoop in and save the day, often to your own detriment? It's very self destructive behaviour to be mismanaging weight loss drugs, especially with a heart condition.

I would go, I had an awful time with the 5mg with stomach problems. Not as bad as your DH granted but he's a grown up, he can stop taking it or be more aware this time if the effects of dehydration. How long are you away? He can presumably call you if he's feeling terrible and you could get him help. Or he can call for help himself. Surely he'll be doing everything he can to avoid that situation again.

You are absolutely right. I am just speaking from personal experience, bitter experience.