WWYD - Husband I’m well and I’m due to go on holiday

I wouldn't expect my husband to cancel his holiday!

Having another adult at home is a bonus, you don't even have to worry about him.

Go. It's not as if he is on his own. And check in with him or his son as often as you need to for your own sanity. They are grown adults and perfectly capable of sorting themselves out but if you are fretting you will spoil your own holiday. So do what you need to do on that front.

Absolutely go on the holiday. But make sure your husband’s Will is up to date. That’s it. He is being cavalier about his health. You can’t care more than he does about his health.

Some will say cancel.

Go. He's an adult.

You're not his mother. You're not responsible for him and his health. He is.

He's not taken care of himself properly. This should jolt him into doing so.

Some will say go and leave them to it, but this will be preying on your mind and will impact on how much you and your DD enjoy the holiday.

His son's an adult and can keep him company. Despite what I've just said, I'd be inclined to check with son that he will be there, and knows what to do in an emergency, and keep in contact.

Can you not grasp the concern in OP's original post? To the extent she's actually considering cancelling her and her DD's much saved up for and much looked forward to holiday? This is a suggested tactic which is as much about providing the reassurance OP needs to go ahead with her plans as it is about keeping her DH safe, and if regular reminders to him (and, hopefully, some feedback from him) give OP peace of mind to enjoy her holiday and enable her DH to "get on with" being a grown-uo while she's away, I really don't see anything wrong with it.

He's being an idiot, this is how own doing.
Go on your holiday. If he gets ill again, he has an adult son living with him.

I suffered the same effects for the first 4 months, especially the first 3 days after taking the injections and going up a dose.

He needs to be careful what he eats for those first few days, eat very little and drink lots of water.

It's horrible. But it can be controlled if he is careful and eventually those side effects stop.

Tell him to avoid anything that is hard to digest, especially pasta.

Edited to add that you should go - he needs to watch his symptoms and take himself to get medical attention if he needs it.

Well he needs to take the medication as directed and take some personal responsibility for ending up in hospital after he randomly increased his dose. Mounjaro isn’t particularly a dangerous drug but if you misuse it, you do become more susceptible to serious side effects. Hopefully the hospital spoke sense into him to not fuck around with it.

I don’t think you need to cancel your holiday. The hospital wouldn’t have sent him home if he is that unwell. Plus there’s another adult at home to monitor him.

He’s still taking it after all those complications? Is he under the supervision of a doctor?
He shouldn’t be touching that sort of medication unsupervised, and I don’t really see why you should cancel your holiday because of his failure to seek and follow medical advice.

Then they don't need texting do they?

Let them get on with it

Go on holiday. He s an adult. His son is an adult. He knows how to get help if he needs it. What he is doing is self inflicted and unnecessary. Do you think he's hijacking your holiday/peace of mind while you're away?

You have a mobile phone OP and you can manage this from abroad. Send messages to DH and his DS at regular intervals throughout the day, every day, to ensure your DS is managing his fluid intake and he's generally doing OK. Warn him in advance that you will be doing this because (a) you love him, (b) you don't want him to die, (c) you don't want to disappoint your DD, and (d) you don't want him to call you a "nag"! 😂
I understand why you're worried OP, but you and your DD should have your holiday and enjoy it, while "the men" act like grown-ups and take care of themselves properly. 🤗

@AmIEnough I’d go ! Now I have a soft heart but he is doing this to himself .
It his body and choice but while taking it he hasn’t been doing what’s he’s told ., and now again he’s upping the doze when he has been so unwell.
Id be annoyed at how selfish he is. .
Go your holiday and u see not circumstances come home early .

Read him the riot act and go on holiday; ask your son if he’d mind monitoring his foolish dad. His GP won’t discuss him with you but you can make them aware.

Or just use it as prescribed! There’s a reason for the staged increases. As I’ve gone up the stages I’ve felt less and less side effects. Now I don’t even have any. He also needs to eat foods that don’t trigger the sickness response - does he eat lots of fatty foods?

Go on the holiday and leave him with the isotonic drinks. Have a fab time!

It sounds like your husband should come off this drug to be honest, and try to maintain a healthier life style now some weight has hopefully come off.

I hope you and your daughter make your holiday

Go Op. How dare he jeopardise your holiday by being a fucking idiot. He might not think that's what he's doing, but he must know you well enough to realise that you are even considering it.
Jesus, even people not on MJ know you need to take a dose for a month before moving up a dose.
Give him a piece of your mind first though.

You absolutely go! It seems a strong coincidence to me that you are just about to go on a lovely break away and suddenly again he's unwell. If I wasn't a cynic I'd be thinking there might be a bit of sabotage going on here. If he's adult enough to use the Mounjaro he's adult enough to deal with the consequences of not taking it properly!

He is being incredibly stupid and putting his health at risk. I'm guessing he's self funded rather than getting the Mounjaro through the NHS? I don't know what dose he's on but he shouldn't be increasing the dose any quicker than after 4 weeks. The medication actually builds up in the body over the first three weeks, so you need to maintain the same dose. No NHS doctor would allow him to change doses so quickly as he's increasing the side effects and the chances of the severe side effects., some of them can be life altering.

It might be that he's not feeling the thirst as he should but still is dehydrated.
I and many others fine Mounjaro very dehydrating and at the start of treatment for at least 6 months, I feel an incredible thirst that felt like it was difficult to slake. It had a knock on effect of making me feel nauseous. Taking rehydration drinks twice a day and as much fluids as I could in between really helped. So did stopping eating as soon as I started to feel any sort of fullness in my stomach.

As far as you going on holiday, I would still go but make a schedule where he has to video call you so you can check how he is. I would also get him to reduce his dose back to the previous level when you are away. You can also get urine test strips that he can use, so he's got actual evidence of if he's drinking enough or not. It would put your mind at rest and would give him the indication of if he's feeling ill due to dehydration or it's something else.

The fact that they gave him both IV antibiotics and fluids means he must have had an infection which would have had a contribution to his collapse and now he doesn't have it, he should be less likely to collapse again.

I understand your anxiety though and I would also talk to his 21 year old son to see if he can keep an eye out.
Ultimately it's up to him to be sensible to act like a fully grown human and take precautions so you don't have to go away terrified the idiot is going to do himself serious harm, especially if he's able to reduce the chances!!

If he won't, I would consider telling his GP or who ever is responsible for prescribing the Mounjaro that he's being irresponsible with it.

Absolutely go.

I would recommend from personal experience with my DH, who also ended up in A&E from increasing the dose that your DH stops these jabs.

My DH ended up seriously ill twice. First time we had no idea why and in A&E for 24 hours on a drip.

Second time was two weeks later, I thought he'd stopped the jabs but only did for a while and then increased his dose ending up I'll again. Refused the ambulance because he knew better and what it was.

His were an online prescription. When he actually spoke to the GP the dose was too high and even questionable if he should have taken at all.

He lost 4 stone on the jabs.
1 stone being ill.
Now with healthier food choices and using a gym hes lost maybe another stone.

Tell him to stop, sort himself out and enjoy your holiday.

He's an adult and needs to make adult choices.

Perhaps I'm being ignorant but is Mounjaro used solely for weight loss? Or does it have another medical purpose?

Surely this is a prime example of how some medications are not a good substitute to alterations to diet and exercise. The first incident would have scared me off the medication and given me the drive to improve my health via a stricter diet and exercise regime. Although I appreciate it's not always that simple.

I would go on your holiday OP, but also pre-empt some other family members so the burden isn't soley on DS.

Hide the pills the day you go on holiday and enjoy your holiday!

Why isn't he taking the medication as prescribed? Is he mad?

Go on holiday. Let the responsible adults around him know that he's hurting himself on purpose and will likely need checking on. Ridiculous.

Absolutely go, he sounds like a twat

Go on holiday, your DH will have his adult son with him and he will also know this time what symptoms to look out for regarding whether he needs to go to hospital. He's also literally bringing this situation on himself by going up a dose way too early when the risks of doing so are well known - is there a possibility he's deliberately trying to sabotage your holiday?