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WWYD - Husband I’m well and I’m due to go on holiday

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AmIEnough · 08/05/2025 07:36

Hi all! I’m posting for a bit of advice here as I really don’t know what to do. My DH has been on Mounjaro for a period of time and about a month ago became very unwell with an upset tummy. He wasn’t replacing fluids as much as he should and ended up incredibly dehydrated and after three days of continually getting worse he finally collapsed. Long story short I ended up calling an ambulance and they took him into hospital where they gave him bags and bags of fluid and IV antibiotics. He was there overnight and it transpires that they were incredibly worried about him because he has heart disease and his haemoglobin levels were so high that his blood was really thick and they were concerned that he was going to have a heart attack. They actually told him that had I not called the ambulance when I did they would be looking at a very different situation.

Fast forward to today and he’s now got an upset tummy again. I think self-inflicted because he’s gone up to the next dose having only been on the lower dose for one week which is not the norm.

He’s managing it better as he’s drinking a lot and I’ve bought him isotonic drinks to help replace the salts and electrolytes but my dilemma is that my 18-year-old daughter and I are due to go on holiday on Saturday for the first girls only holiday we’ve ever had. It’s taken me a year to save up for it and we’ve booked ourselves a couple of trips.

My question is do we go or do I cancel it or try and rearrange it? I think I’ll probably end up losing all my money and my daughter will be devastated, as will I of course but I just can’t predict how my husband is going to be this time round and whether he will manage things better knowing that his fluid intake was nowhere near sufficient last time.

Just looking for advice really.

To add, his 21-year-old son also lives here and will be around.

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Purpl · 09/05/2025 18:13

AmIEnough · 08/05/2025 07:36

Hi all! I’m posting for a bit of advice here as I really don’t know what to do. My DH has been on Mounjaro for a period of time and about a month ago became very unwell with an upset tummy. He wasn’t replacing fluids as much as he should and ended up incredibly dehydrated and after three days of continually getting worse he finally collapsed. Long story short I ended up calling an ambulance and they took him into hospital where they gave him bags and bags of fluid and IV antibiotics. He was there overnight and it transpires that they were incredibly worried about him because he has heart disease and his haemoglobin levels were so high that his blood was really thick and they were concerned that he was going to have a heart attack. They actually told him that had I not called the ambulance when I did they would be looking at a very different situation.

Fast forward to today and he’s now got an upset tummy again. I think self-inflicted because he’s gone up to the next dose having only been on the lower dose for one week which is not the norm.

He’s managing it better as he’s drinking a lot and I’ve bought him isotonic drinks to help replace the salts and electrolytes but my dilemma is that my 18-year-old daughter and I are due to go on holiday on Saturday for the first girls only holiday we’ve ever had. It’s taken me a year to save up for it and we’ve booked ourselves a couple of trips.

My question is do we go or do I cancel it or try and rearrange it? I think I’ll probably end up losing all my money and my daughter will be devastated, as will I of course but I just can’t predict how my husband is going to be this time round and whether he will manage things better knowing that his fluid intake was nowhere near sufficient last time.

Just looking for advice really.

To add, his 21-year-old son also lives here and will be around.

I think you should go. Why not buy him one of those water bottles that say 9am 10am throughout the day and tell him to set hourly phone reminders. This skinny jab is dangerous the last thing he should have done is go up a dosage to be honest but he’s an adult so it’s down to him. Ask your son to pop in too and message him often.

tinyspiny · 09/05/2025 18:07

Your husbands illness is self inflicted , go on your holiday and enjoy yourself .

Jumpers4goalposts · 09/05/2025 18:04

Go on holiday.

BellissimoGecko · 09/05/2025 11:50

Pomegranatecarnage · 08/05/2025 07:40

You should go. And your husband needs to take the correct dosage or stop taking it for a while. He needs to be on each dose for four weeks minimum.

This.

Bloody hell. He’s an adult and needs to take responsibility for himself.

BlueTitShark · 09/05/2025 11:41

AmIEnough · 09/05/2025 08:45

The doctors at the hospital told him to stop taking it but he’s purchasing it privately so hasn’t actually gone through his own GP so nobody knows that he’s actually been ill or been in hospital due to the complications with this drug.

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I thought they would have…
But I suspect that it’s now in his notes. The hospital will have made a report sent to his GP.
His GP won’t be chasing him up to check he has indeed stopped the medication though.

fwiw 5mg is still a low dose. So it’s pretty normal he still has sugar cravings. And he hasn’t had the building up effect of having several doses at 5mg too,

But I have to say, seeing his reaction to it, I’m wondering if he hasn’t gone up too quickly when he got ill the first time too….

Im not sure it’s a sign of the medication not being good enough/dangerous but rather a sign that you can’t leave the general population stupid people like your dh self medicating like this.

AngelicKaty · 09/05/2025 11:04

@AmIEnough To be honest OP, I'd be asking DH for evidence of where he's getting his "Mounjaro" from. There have been several reports of people becoming seriously ill from fake products bought online from unregulated vendors (like beauty therapists), including some where the product wasn't a weight-loss injection at all, but insulin instead. 😬 If your DH is stupid enough to not follow the dosage instructions, he's certainly stupid enough to not care about where he buys it from so long as it's cheap enough for him to afford.
onlinedoctor.lloydspharmacy.com/uk/lifestyle-advice/dangers-fake-weight-loss-injections

Changeyourlifes · 09/05/2025 10:52

To be honest you wouldn’t be unreasonable to report your concerns to his GP or the pharmacy that gives him the medication. Ultimately he’s been told to stop taking it by the hospital yet not only is he still on it, he’s not using it as directed so increasing his chances of ill health. If you make a call to his GP, they can’t tell him you called, so it would look like they’re contacting him as a result of the hospital visit.

Huhuhuhu39272 · 09/05/2025 10:46

Because the actual people who study aluminium have found a link with major neurological effects, such as Parkinson’s, Alzheimers, autism, adhd, all matter of bad 💩

But what do they know anyway? The pharma companies say it’s all good, so must be 🤷‍♀️

Huhuhuhu39272 · 09/05/2025 10:41

Where are the studies on the effects of aluminium on the brain? I’m looking for studies actually done by pharma too (not experts who are sounding alarms and being shut down)

Nanny0gg · 09/05/2025 10:36

Huhuhuhu39272 · 09/05/2025 10:36

Lawsuits incoming will be major. It’s crazy that people pay pharma to experiment on themselves with relatively new drugs

But can't take tried, tested and proved vaccines...😬

Huhuhuhu39272 · 09/05/2025 10:36

Lawsuits incoming will be major. It’s crazy that people pay pharma to experiment on themselves with relatively new drugs

pimplebum · 09/05/2025 10:35

Go

but tell him and son to have zero tolerance if any symptoms , don’t wait call ambulance and explain previous concerns

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AmIEnough · 09/05/2025 10:33

BangersAndGnash · 09/05/2025 10:05

How did he ruin your birthday OP?

Only that we had to cancel plans with friends as he wasn’t well enough to go

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Bumblebeestiltskin · 09/05/2025 10:27

AmIEnough · 09/05/2025 08:45

The doctors at the hospital told him to stop taking it but he’s purchasing it privately so hasn’t actually gone through his own GP so nobody knows that he’s actually been ill or been in hospital due to the complications with this drug.

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Oh my god, what an absolute idiot. Do you even want to stay married to him?

BangersAndGnash · 09/05/2025 10:05

How did he ruin your birthday OP?

Daleksatemyshed · 09/05/2025 09:59

Well if the hospital staff said you saved him he should be bloody grateful, not behaving like an arse! Sorry Op, your posts are really annoying me because he's being so stupid, his heart isn't healthy and he's seriously risking his health. Holiday or not it's time to read him the riot act, he's behaving like a child

NeverDropYourMooncup · 09/05/2025 09:14

AmIEnough · 09/05/2025 08:12

Yes, the staff at the hospital actually said to him that I saved his life! The more I read these posts the more I am beginning to resent his behaviour. He also ruined my birthday yesterday as a result of this!

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They didn't actually say it to you, though - did they? You're relying upon his account of what they said (which just so happens to encourage thinking that his survival hangs upon you being present, rather than having a lovely holiday with your daughter) when he's clearly not telling the truth about his medication choices to the prescribers or his GP, so is already proven to be a lying idiot.

atamlin · 09/05/2025 09:04

You poor thing. He’s being very selfish messing around with the medication. Go on holiday with your daughter and have the best time, don’t let him message you moaning. Tell him if he feels as bad to call his own ambulance.

dayslikethese1 · 09/05/2025 08:54

Why has he upped his dose so quick? That seems dangerous. If you go on the holiday the son can check on him.

CoastalCalm · 09/05/2025 08:51

isotonic drinks aren’t enough , order him a tub of electrolytes and get yourself away for a break - he is an adult and should be able to look after himself , he knows the risks and one would hope would react to the signs of dehydration earlier

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AmIEnough · 09/05/2025 08:48

@C8H10N4O2
He doesn’t have form for this kind of behaviour but he can be very selfish when it comes to what he wants to do or what he wants to get out of the situation on occasion.

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AmIEnough · 09/05/2025 08:45

edwinbear · 08/05/2025 08:45

Go on holiday. He has another adult in the house if there are any issues, but he's being wreckless with the Mounjaro (and I say that as someone on it myself). Why on earth has a gone up a dose when he had issues at the last dosage? What did the doctors say about him remaining on it given it's given him serious complications?

The doctors at the hospital told him to stop taking it but he’s purchasing it privately so hasn’t actually gone through his own GP so nobody knows that he’s actually been ill or been in hospital due to the complications with this drug.

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AmIEnough · 09/05/2025 08:37

Blackdow · 08/05/2025 09:44

Who prescribed him the next dose up after just one week? The pen lasts 4 weeks. Did he double dose or something?

Have you read him the riot act for his idiotic behaviour? Do not cancel your holiday. Sit him down and talk to him about what he is doing and how it is going to affect you and ask him what his plan is to take care of himself.

This was exactly my thought! He’s purchasing it privately and there doesn’t seem to be anyonemonitoring how soon he is ordering or requesting the next dose up! The whole thing sounds very unsupervised and very dangerous

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AmIEnough · 09/05/2025 08:25

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 08/05/2025 11:40

He is either very very stupid or a manipulative bully. Or possibly both.

Whatever the truth of this is, do NOT change your plans to accommodate him.

I think he is the former, just very stupid and utterly selfish actually. Love your username by the way!

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AmIEnough · 09/05/2025 08:23

BruhWhy · 08/05/2025 11:53

Why isn't he taking the medication as prescribed? Is he mad?

Go on holiday. Let the responsible adults around him know that he's hurting himself on purpose and will likely need checking on. Ridiculous.

This is why I’m so angry. He was on 5 mg for one week and then decided that because he started to get food cravings for sugary and carbohydrate rich foods that it wasn’t working well enough (and clearly he can’t exercise any self restraint) so he decided to increase the dose having still got three weeks of the lower dose left to use! And now here we are, he’s ill again! The more I ponder this, the more angry I’m becoming in fact, I’m can hardly look him in the eye at the moment!

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