Should my boyfriend help out when he stays over

Too selfish. The OP's needs won't even get a feature ☹️

He is enjoying have a maid and sex-bot and is no longer making any effort to keep you. No, I don't think it gets better. He is a lazy git and you let him get away with it. If he'd told me to wash up whilst he headed for the bathroom I'd have laughed and tolk him he must be bloody kidding! I certainly wouldn't have serviced him after that.

If you must try and keep him then you need to have some incredibly stern words but he'll just try and turn it round on you and you'll be back asking if YABU. Probably better just to kick him to the curb.

Eewwwww!!!

You do the woman’s work & I’ll be mastrubating in the bedroom waiting for sex when you’ve done in the kitchen.

Ewww ewww ewww ewww ewww!!!! 🤢

Exactly. Grim. My friend said something last week, which was great. Ladies come first, always. Hadn’t heard that before. This Neanderthal hasn’t even learned the concept.

Raise your standards. He’s used you for food and sex so blatantly. You are allowing this.

I cooked, and he basically said ‘you sort that (washing up) out and I’ll be waiting for you in there (bedroom)’.

God with an offer like that how could a girl refuse. The only thing missing from this exchange was him throwing a £20 your way and telling you to treat yourself ffs.
Jesus it's grim the amount of man-children that get to hook up with women who could do so much better than settling for this shite.

It's not 'helping' it's being a responsible, decent adult. He obviously isn't.

Yes. He’s staying with you half the week, so definitely should be helping with washing up. Maybe not cleaning etc but definitely co tributingvto meals.

Full on Peaky Blinders mantra. A hundred years out of date!

JTLYK you replied to the wrong thread.

Argh. Have just lost a long post.

in essence - I get why they might want the whole family together, especially if it means they get photo op and memories of golden brother and golden chanced together.

could you invite brother - solo - for the last couple of days of the holiday. Then you get your room to yourself for most of the time during the week and you only have to deal with bro for a short time. Say you’d just like to see him on his own for a change as you haven’t seen him for so long and if he says anything about sis having her boyfriend there, just reply that it’s different as you know him much better/he makes an effort to join in/be nice to everyone/or whatever convenient excuse would work.

have you spoken to your sister about brother wanting to come - what does she think? Any way she can help manipulate/explain things to your parents to get your desired result?

@Saira90 , he's comfortable now. This is where you get a real glimpse into your future.
Take heed woman - your job is to keep him tummy full, the house clean and his sack empty.

Grim!

This is the shit that makes people grow up useless.

My daughter's friends help her cook, wash up amd straighten my living room when they visit. They're 15/16.

You need to decide if this is what you want for yourself? He's looking for a Bed Breakfast and Evening Meal service with a shag thrown in a couple of times a week. If that sounds like you then carry on as you are, but prepare for things to get worse as time goes on. This is as good as he's got. Don't waste your breath trying to explain, or cajole him into doing better, he won't. All he will do is steal your time and your energy and your self esteem. Don't let him.

Come on OP. You deserve much better than this, he sounds foul. Stop wasting your time with this piece of trash.

Oh that is grim. How long have you been seeing him and how old is he?

Grim.

Seriously unappealing. It shows you what he thinks of you, "do the chores and then come service me in the bedroom". I would consider throwing this one back, seems like his view of women is that they are there to serve him.

Eew. You need to worry about this one beyond his lack of help when he visits you. Do you plan on having a serious, long-term future with him? If so, you must know that this disgustingness an laziness will just be the start.

Ewwww... No, no, no and nope.

Showing himself to be a wanker in every way

You are unhappy

Life is too short to be unhappy

End this & spend some time on yourself

You do not need a man

In the future, find a real man who loves & respects you

I cooked, and he basically said ‘you sort that (washing up) out and I’ll be waiting for you in there (bedroom)’.

WTF? Come on, OP, you should have stopped him in his tracks right there! And then he cleared off immediately afterwards - ugh what a prince he is.

You need some space to work on yourself.

Learn to say no when you aren’t in the mood.

Far too comfortable for him.

it says a lot about him that he thinks any of this is acceptable.

Throw him back, he’s not fixable.