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To ask if there are quiet places to live that dont involve having to be incredibly rich

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Newstartplease24 · 07/05/2025 20:59

I’m a single parent, not that high an earner, low professional salary.
I could move anywhere (sort of)
does anyone live in a sort of normal house (not a million quid mansion) that doesn’t have neighbour noise?
any tips for where to look?

YABU - no such thing suck it up buttercup
YANBU - there are ways of finding peaceful housing (and I will tell you them)

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Joystir59 · 08/05/2025 07:33

I live on the edge of Bridlington, NorthEast coast. Very quiet here. Property not expensive at all.

Chemenger · 08/05/2025 07:31

We used to live on the edge of a village, only one adjacent neighbour, over high hedges that absorbed any noise. Sheep on two sides and a road on the fourth. If that road had been quiet it would have been idyllic. I think you need to look at specific properties not try to find an area full of quiet people. Now I live up a footpath in a popular holiday spot where all my neighbours are second homes, it is literally silent here for 40 weeks of the year. All I can hear right now is my own tinnitus! Sometimes I can hear the sea.

librathroughandthrough · 08/05/2025 07:29

isle of Lewis

Popquorn · 08/05/2025 07:27

Budget?

FairyPoppins · 08/05/2025 07:27

I'm 10 miles from Lincoln in a village where 3 bed detached houses have sold for around £300,000. 10 miles in the other direction is Woodhall Spa, a bit more expensive and a nice place to visit/have coffee/meals.
Also Horncastle, Louth, Market Rasen have very reasonably priced houses - all less than an hours drive from Lincoln

Fearfulsaints · 08/05/2025 07:27

I actually think it's luck unless youcare the middle of a big bit of land you own.

I live in a quiet cul de sac and my house is detached so we don't get neighbour noise coming through the walls, but the houses are still close enough that if people play music, do car stuff or are anti social etc it carries and it only takes a change of neighbour to make everyone's life a misery.

piefacedClique · 08/05/2025 07:21

for that kind of budget you could buy a nice house on Gower. Beautiful, quiet, close to amenities. Heaven on earth

CaveMum · 08/05/2025 07:19

Unfortunately where you live it’s luck of the draw with regards to your neighbours, unless you buy a big house with massive gardens so you can’t see/hear anyone else!

We’re another family in rural-ish Cambridgeshire - well Cambs/Suffolk border. We’re in well served village which is a rarity with a couple of shops, a garage, garden centre and good primary school. We’re a 20 min drive from Cambridge and you can be in central London by train within 2 hours of leaving your front door as we’re 15 mins from a train station that has regular trains on the Kings Cross line.

It’s not perfect, nowhere is, but we’ve been here 15 years so it’s been good enough for us!

Dogaredabomb · 08/05/2025 07:19

Bear with me here 🤣 in between Sheffield and Rotherham there are some fantastic places and it's pretty rural whilst not being far from Sheffield. Cheap too.

HeyThereDelila · 08/05/2025 07:09

Don’t go somewhere too rural - you’ll be lonely and isolated, particularly with young children and if you’re an “out of towner”.

You don’t need seclusion- just a quiet road with a house with a garden and no passing traffic. Look for small market towns and then look at quiet, no through roads in their suburbs and nearby villages.

Please don’t take your DC somewhere extremely rural; there’ll be nothing for them to do as teens, no friends for miles and very lonely in the holidays. Or you’ll end up taxi-ing them
everywhere.

Look at the cathedral cities and their nearby villages. Ely, Winchester, Wells, Salisbury, Norwich etc all very quiet. But don’t cut yourself off.

Westfacing · 08/05/2025 06:55

Newstartplease24 · 08/05/2025 06:29

This is what I mean, really. Are there places less susceptible to general noisy selfish behaviour than others?

thanks for all your brilliant suggestions - lots of posters have suggested places where I could get a detached house probably, which would help.

but what about when your lovely old lady neighbour moves out into a flat and someone moves in who wants to play music in the garden all day, or out the front while he leans over his car bonnet, every day in summer? Are there any places where that kind of thing is just not considered to be acceptable or tolerable? Or is it just purely luck that if someone brings that vibe in, everyone else has to put up with it?

Are there any places where that kind of thing is just not considered to be acceptable or tolerable? Or is it just purely luck that if someone brings that vibe in, everyone else has to put up with it?

Rural, semi-rural, detached etc is more likely to give you peace and quiet but I doubt if there are any areas where noisy behaviour isn't known, unfortunately!

It's just the luck of the draw how your neighbours/future neighbours behave.

I live in a block of flats in inner London - there are traffic noises and sirens of course but my neighbours are quiet and considerate.

CatOnAHotRadiator · 08/05/2025 06:39

We live in rural County Durham, on the edge of weardale, about 20mins from the city. Two kids. One late primary one in high school. Very quiet, lots of garden, couple of neighbours. Most of our noise is tractors and animals.

Yes we run the kids around a lot, but we also have their friends here. A garden full of teenagers on a summer day is brilliant fun. They go out walking in the countryside too. I just act as a taxi and she doesn’t miss out. None of her friends live in the local village so they are all driven places and are in the same boat.

It’s beautiful here. Our living room looks over rolling hills and fields. We have deer, and otters, and owls, and bird of prey. We have our peaceful nook.

Newstartplease24 · 08/05/2025 06:38

Augustus40 · 08/05/2025 06:34

This is not practical as a parent when transport and lifts are needed the whole time plus teenagers need the stimulation of different amenities. It is not fair on them when they get
to this age. Plus they need to have friends to see not live hslf cut off from civilisation.

  1. I didn’t ask for extremely remote. I asked for quiet. I’m getting told I need to be extremely remote, for quiet ,which is a bit disappointing, but
  2. my children will not live with me for ever

but yeah it’s annoying that apparently you have to move to somewhere you need a ferry to get to. Some posters are suggesting not tho - places nearish to cities with buses.

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Augustus40 · 08/05/2025 06:34

This is not practical as a parent when transport and lifts are needed the whole time plus teenagers need the stimulation of different amenities. It is not fair on them when they get
to this age. Plus they need to have friends to see not live hslf cut off from civilisation.

Newstartplease24 · 08/05/2025 06:29

This is what I mean, really. Are there places less susceptible to general noisy selfish behaviour than others?

thanks for all your brilliant suggestions - lots of posters have suggested places where I could get a detached house probably, which would help.

but what about when your lovely old lady neighbour moves out into a flat and someone moves in who wants to play music in the garden all day, or out the front while he leans over his car bonnet, every day in summer? Are there any places where that kind of thing is just not considered to be acceptable or tolerable? Or is it just purely luck that if someone brings that vibe in, everyone else has to put up with it?

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4kids3pets · 08/05/2025 01:45

Northumberland beautiful and affordable

EauCaledonia · 08/05/2025 00:13

HistoryAndNature · 07/05/2025 21:04

We live on the edge of a peaceful village in Cambridgeshire. It is a small terraced cottage (2 bedrooms) with a huge garden but garden accessed down a shared path (but we have a courtyard and a fab patio right out the back of house). Neighbours are all single women, 50s - 80s. We paid 260k in 2021.

It’s quiet and friendly but also not too out in the sticks, very easy to get to shops, cities, airports etc. Absolutely love it here. The house would be too small for a lot of people I guess but it suits us well for now and we love the outdoor space.

But how quiet would that be when, say, a couple with a teenage son who plays the drums moves in next door, and the 30-something woman on the other side has a baby that cries day and night? That's what happened to me in my terraced house. Lovely and quiet until new neighbours arrived.

Brummumm · 08/05/2025 00:08

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 07/05/2025 21:52

I mean I live in a quiet part of london..

But what is your budget, and do you like the country or want to be on the edges of a town

Tell me more about quiet London - how quiet? Like, does traffic pass your door during the day, or is there a bus nearby?

Crikeyalmighty · 08/05/2025 00:01

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/157039514

absomutely lovely area on edge of Corsham - quick drive into Chippenham for train to London if needed or Bath ( 15 minutes drive) if it’s good enough for Dominic west!!

Check out this 3 bedroom terraced house for sale on Rightmove

3 bedroom terraced house for sale in Coppershell, Gastard, Corsham, Wiltshire, SN13 for £400,000. Marketed by Hunter French, Corsham

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Lovingthehamsterwheel · 07/05/2025 23:52

SixtySomething · 07/05/2025 22:57

Not good for someone on a restricted budget?

You can get a 3 bed there for 400k . Agree you can get something much bigger elsewhere though.

clareykb · 07/05/2025 23:45

North East so rural Northumberland or the nicer parts of County Durham... easy each of Newcastle and good transport links from there.

Littlejellyuk · 07/05/2025 23:39

Last one I promise! 😊 this is in Hightown, right on the coast!

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/160952360?utm_campaign=property-details&utm_content=buying&utm_medium=sharing&utm_source=whatsapp#/&channel=RES_BUY

EmmaWoodhouseOfHighbury · 07/05/2025 23:32

I'd look for a bungalow in a street with similar properties. You can easily get a detached property for that price and make sure they're not crowded or back onto houses with younger people. Maybe in a pretty village with amenities. It's not really about the wider area...I don't really think the whole of Wales or Northumberland is peaceful. But you could have a look at population density figures.

Anyway, this is my plan and my budget is only 280k. A semi detached bungalow with bedrooms away from the party wall is my plan.

Littlejellyuk · 07/05/2025 23:32

Littlejellyuk · 07/05/2025 23:17

Lunt (by Sefton Village /L29 postcode)
Hightown (on the coast/ L38 postcode) and Churchtown (by Southport/ PR9 postcode) are in Merseyside and are lovely places as well 😇

You would have decent transport links to Liverpool, Manchester and Preston also. 😉

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3 bedroom mews property for sale in Brickwall Lane, Liverpool, Merseyside, L29 for £360,000. Marketed by Kuavo Property Services Ltd, Liverpool

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