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To ask if there are quiet places to live that dont involve having to be incredibly rich

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Newstartplease24 · 07/05/2025 20:59

I’m a single parent, not that high an earner, low professional salary.
I could move anywhere (sort of)
does anyone live in a sort of normal house (not a million quid mansion) that doesn’t have neighbour noise?
any tips for where to look?

YABU - no such thing suck it up buttercup
YANBU - there are ways of finding peaceful housing (and I will tell you them)

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Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 08/05/2025 08:49

I live in Teesdale, in the middle of a town, across from a school. It’s moderately busy(not city busy) at school times and during the day traffic wise, but it is very quiet otherwise. After 4 we rarely hear any noise. My son has moved to a coastal town, on a big estate, he says it’s really peaceful and quiet.

Popquorn · 08/05/2025 08:44

What about something like this?

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/161206163

BoudiccaRuled · 08/05/2025 08:33

Worcestershire/Herefordshire area is beautiful and affordable but a car is realistically a necessity - and you'd have to taxi your children around and open up to their mates to avoid them getting bored and drunk/pregnant/arrested up to mischief.

Seeyousoonboo · 08/05/2025 08:21

Shropshire. Good links to Brum, Manchester and Liverpool. Lots of lovely houses for your budget.

Ultravox · 08/05/2025 08:20

Killearn is a lovely quiet village just outside Glasgow. It veers towards the posh and I don’t think any antisocial behabiour would be tolerated! Right in the country, but has a bus every hour to Stirling or Glasgow:

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/160708904#/?channel=RES_BUY

Check out this 4 bedroom detached house for sale on Rightmove

4 bedroom detached house for sale in Allan Road, Killearn, Glasgow, G63 for £365,000. Marketed by West Homes, Killearn

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/160708904#/?channel=RES_BUY

Dappy777 · 08/05/2025 08:17

I know how you feel. I yearn to live somewhere quiet. And I yearn for a bit of space. I'm in rural Essex, and it's driving me insane. The building never stops. My local woods have been hacked down to make way for a new estate, a second huge estate has been built at the other end of the village, and now the fields in the centre of the village are going to be built on as well. But no matter how many of these disgusting rabbit hutches they jam on top of one another, we always need more, more, more. When I first moved here, I was woken by bird song. Now I'm woken by the screeching and exploding of souped up boy racer cars.

If I didn't have family commitments, I'd move to rural Scotland. That is the only place on this island where you can have peace and quiet – for now anyway.

finallyskinny · 08/05/2025 08:12

Newstartplease24 · 07/05/2025 21:28

Say 400k 3 bedrooms

3 beds in our rural village are around 250! 45 minutes from two major cities as well

IHateRain76 · 08/05/2025 08:11

A rural village, say population less then 1000 in West Oxfordshire. There would be buses

CharSiu · 08/05/2025 08:09

Different types of noise can irritate people more. I was on holiday on a farm that very sunny week we had. Pheasants were very noisy as were the cows and sheep from early. I found it ok though they woke me.

BangersAndGnash · 08/05/2025 07:59

There are some mad notions on this thread.

Harvesting can start at 4am in the summer and go on for weeks as different crops ripen. The massive beet harvesting machines make a huge din in autumn and winter.

Pheasant shooting…

etc

Fuzzypinetree · 08/05/2025 07:56

Newstartplease24 · 08/05/2025 06:29

This is what I mean, really. Are there places less susceptible to general noisy selfish behaviour than others?

thanks for all your brilliant suggestions - lots of posters have suggested places where I could get a detached house probably, which would help.

but what about when your lovely old lady neighbour moves out into a flat and someone moves in who wants to play music in the garden all day, or out the front while he leans over his car bonnet, every day in summer? Are there any places where that kind of thing is just not considered to be acceptable or tolerable? Or is it just purely luck that if someone brings that vibe in, everyone else has to put up with it?

That's not really allowed where we live. As I said, lots of older people here. You are also forbidden from making noise between noon and 3pm and from about 8pm until 7am...or on Sundays/public holidays. So no lawnmowers or hedge cutting or loud music, etc.
Children are an exception and are legally allowed to be noisy (nothing excessive and out of the ordinary for children playing, though). That doesn't mean mine keep making a racket but they do play in the garden.

BangersAndGnash · 08/05/2025 07:55

Do you mean a detached house in a peaceful residential location?

Hoohaz · 08/05/2025 07:55

Pretty much anywhere outside of London. Look at Cheshire, Lincolnshire, Norfolk, Derbyshire, the Fens... Choose a village with or near a train line.

CharSiu · 08/05/2025 07:55

Ultimately unless there is a big distance between houses it will depend on individual neighbours.

I live on a quiet road. For the area the houses are expensive but some are at the level you are looking at of 400k. You can still buy houses for under 100k in the town I live in.

It’s all about respectable folk isn’t it and people behaving themselves. My friend moved last year from her house to relocate. Two couples wanted to buy her house, one could proceed immediately so she went with them. She lived on the next road to me, she felt guilty because they planned an outside bar, hot tub and entertainment area. You need money to live on that road and they were obviously going to be noisy.

HairyToity · 08/05/2025 07:53

I live in a rural village in North Wales, 400k would cover you. I work in Wrexham but lots work in Chester.

Ophy83 · 08/05/2025 07:52

Rural locations are not necessarily quiet! Birds make a lot of noise. Particularly beware if any neighbours have chickens. I was kept awake one night by a cow having an argument with a dog. We also get a traffic jam of combine harvesters outside our bedroom from about 5 a.m. during the summer

HairyToity · 08/05/2025 07:52

North Wales

Imbusytodaysorry · 08/05/2025 07:49

@Newstartplease24 just read your updates .
For they price I’d choose either
Scottish Borders - close to Edinburgh
Northumberland - close to newcastle

If it was a north of Scotland city I’d choose Inverness and find a surrounding area there .

ArtTheClown · 08/05/2025 07:45

I do think the only way you can guarantee no disturbance is plenty of space around you, yes.
But you can increase the odds - always buy a detached place, and avoid places popular with families, and new build estates. Areas with bungalows are more likely to have a mixed demographic, and some bungalows have big, mature gardens which helps.

borntobequiet · 08/05/2025 07:44

I live in an idyllic hamlet in the rural south West Midlands, two miles from the nearest village, ten miles from a small city and thirty miles from a large one. So would suit you in that. But right now the sheep and lambs in the fields make the most appalling racket during the day and into the late evening, the peacocks at the farm shriek incessantly, woodpeckers drum and owls hoot, you can barely breathe for the oilseed rape pollen, there are continual parking wars and the neighbours have fun with chainsaws, mowers and other power tools at the weekend, making it difficult to relax in your garden.
Everywhere has its drawbacks, though my son’s home in London is in a quiet, leafy street where the only disturbing noise is sometimes sirens in the distance.

Imbusytodaysorry · 08/05/2025 07:43

librathroughandthrough · 08/05/2025 07:29

isle of Lewis

My thoughts too ! Lewis has all you will need too. Sports for kids a community, work .
vet good priced housing .
Orkney. Shetland

Imbusytodaysorry · 08/05/2025 07:41

@Newstartplease24 Do you own , private rent or council
housing association ?

Fuzzypinetree · 08/05/2025 07:38

I'm a single parent, too, and don't earn loads. We live on the edge of a small town, about 30 minutes from a major city. Our road is really quiet because it leads into the forest and nobody ever comes through here unless they live here. Neighbours are quiet (and mostly older) but seem ok with my kids being a bit noisy sometimes.
We've got a large detached house, huge garden in the back, pool, hot tub, summer house.
I'm currently sitting in the sun in the front garden while DC2 naps in the pushchair.
DC1 attends the local primary school (he's just moved from his private school because his father likes to be difficult) and DC2 will start at nursery in a few weeks. Nursery will be about £300 a month for a full time spot and I'm also paying around £100 a month for DC1's wraparound care.