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To ask if there are quiet places to live that dont involve having to be incredibly rich

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Newstartplease24 · 07/05/2025 20:59

I’m a single parent, not that high an earner, low professional salary.
I could move anywhere (sort of)
does anyone live in a sort of normal house (not a million quid mansion) that doesn’t have neighbour noise?
any tips for where to look?

YABU - no such thing suck it up buttercup
YANBU - there are ways of finding peaceful housing (and I will tell you them)

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MiddleAgedDread · 08/05/2025 15:31

Don't underestimate how noisy rural areas can be, it's just a different sort of noise!!
If you've got kids then you need to be aware how different the scottish education system is compared to England.

CarmellaSopranosKitchen · 08/05/2025 15:30

Wales, Scotland, Northumberland/Durham, rural North, parts of Leics /Staffordshire

JohnAmendAll · 08/05/2025 15:25

NW Scotland.
Galloway.

krustykittens · 08/05/2025 15:22

Eatinghabits86 · 08/05/2025 14:30

Wirral

I always forget about the Wirral, which might make it perfect for OP. I have a friend who lives there and it so beautiful.

EauCaledonia · 08/05/2025 14:59

sonoonetoldyoulifewasgonnabethisway · 08/05/2025 14:28

That's lovely!

I used to know someone who lived in that area and trying to commute from there to Swansea during peak hours for work, you'd either have to catch a train or leave at least 75 minutes in order to arrive on time.

Eatinghabits86 · 08/05/2025 14:30

Wirral

sonoonetoldyoulifewasgonnabethisway · 08/05/2025 14:28

NotDavidTennant · 08/05/2025 12:05

South Wales

Here's a three bed cottage about 45 mins drive from Swansea for £335k
https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/154088618

That's lovely!

krustykittens · 08/05/2025 13:09

Ophy83 · 08/05/2025 07:52

Rural locations are not necessarily quiet! Birds make a lot of noise. Particularly beware if any neighbours have chickens. I was kept awake one night by a cow having an argument with a dog. We also get a traffic jam of combine harvesters outside our bedroom from about 5 a.m. during the summer

One of our neighbours, a newly arrived townie, bought a very handsome rooster because he thought he would look nice in his garden. One of my ponies used to shout back at him every time he crowed! The racket was unbelievable! He eventually re-homed him, he was a very beautiful bird but he crowed all day from 5am on!

EauCaledonia · 08/05/2025 12:39

Newstartplease24 · 08/05/2025 11:40

Where did the holiday let thing come from? I just want somewhere to live where it doesn’t feel like a naff holiday camp disco every time the sun comes out

I mentioned it because someone had been posting links to semi-detached houses on the edge of the Brecon Beacons. I pointed out that if you buy a semi one of the things that can happen is that you find you're living next door to a holiday let. So every week you get a new set of noisy neighbours to deal with.

MrsSlocombesCat · 08/05/2025 12:27

There's a massive new build estate in my town and I use it for my daily walks because it is much quieter than anywhere else in the town. The houses are from a 2 bed terrace to a £1mil + 5 bed. There's a percentage of social housing too, housing association and shared ownership. I would look for something like this in the area you're interested in.

jeaux90 · 08/05/2025 11:57

Oxfordshire, Wallingford, Watlington, Thame or villages around these market towns. Can commute to Oxford or into London.

Crikeyalmighty · 08/05/2025 11:53

I would definitely recommend west wilts, places like Corsham, Devizes, Box ,

Crikeyalmighty · 08/05/2025 11:52

ApogiesOP I’m mixing you up with a very similar post!!

Crikeyalmighty · 08/05/2025 11:49

@Newstartplease24 I may have misread- I thought I saw it in one of your posts - others have said similar so don’t think it’s just me - if that’s not the case then that’s fine -

Newstartplease24 · 08/05/2025 11:40

Where did the holiday let thing come from? I just want somewhere to live where it doesn’t feel like a naff holiday camp disco every time the sun comes out

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Crikeyalmighty · 08/05/2025 10:05

Unless you get a detached house with nothing round you then I’m afraid it’s pot luck - I lived in a lovely semi once but in an idyllic location and ended up with a neighbour digging his basement out for several years!! To be honest if it had been detached you still couldn’t have avoided the row every weekend . Also if you want it Asa holiday let OP most people will indeed want ‘some’ facilities on the doorstep and why would it be bothering you anyway if you aren’t living there??

I think you really need to put the ‘peace and quiet’ thing on a bit of asideburner if it’s truly a holiday let you are looking for. This is a very different market to what you might personally be looking for ‘to live’ - I would be looking at places like Hastings, Eastbourne, Folkestone etc which do have flats ‘in budget’ - or indeed somewhere like Scotland or north wales, which unless you live there will need to be managed well from afar - yes you would get a house etc in some areas of ‘up north or midlands’ - would anyone be looking for weekends in these places, not as often as I think you would like. You have to be realistic - if it’s that it’s primarily for you to move to further down the line then it’s going to be a bit of a compromise on that budget I feel , personally I would rather have a 2 bed flat in a semi ok area than a 3 bed house somewhere I would never want to live .

Tuopl · 08/05/2025 09:59

Octavia64 · 07/05/2025 22:16

Hell yes.

most of north Cambridgeshire is like this and you can drive relatively quickly into Cambridge. Some villages are on the main train line to London as well.

This one is technically Norfolk.

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/156271913

Probably not a good choice if you want peace and quiet, that property is between two large schools and the street is a nightmare at primary school pick up time!

Downham Market is possibly a good suggestion though because it has a direct train line to London via Cambridge, which is generally reliable. It is quiet compared to a large city but has some facilities and good road links compared to much of the rest of Norfolk. The secondary school is currently very oversubscribed though.

Newstartplease24 · 08/05/2025 09:53

I feel like lots of you feel my pain!

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EauCaledonia · 08/05/2025 09:50

Lovely, but it's a semi, so when next door is let out as holiday lets and you get people sitting in the garden playing loud music every weekend in the summer, what are you going to do? (I speak as someone who, for 8 long and frustrating years, had an AirBnB next door and had my summers ruined).

lechatnoir · 08/05/2025 09:27

I'm getting the impression OP actively doesn't want to be remote/middle of nowhere but is wanting to find an area where people are considerate neighbours! I'm in commuter belt land in Kent & now in my 3rd house in various villages and never had any issues with neighbours or know anyone who has. People are polite and pleasant, generally keep themselves to themselves which does make it slightly lacking in community spirit but I just can't imagine ever hearing a full blast stereo or cars revving all day around us.

First house bungalow: heavenly quiet as all the neighbours were old. 2nd house detached mixture of families and older folks all lovely never had any issues with noise - worse you'd get would be a lawn mover or hedge trimmer or church in the background none of which you can complain about. Now living in a bigger village in a semi and I was worried about noise but again, never hear a thing bar neighbours child occasionally in the garden but they are respectful and it's never early or incessant screaming just chit chat/laughter. If he ever cries they take him in and I don't really hear once the doors are closed.

Down side is you're north of £500k for detached or bungalow unless you get a bit further from London or head into East Sussex (worth a look - there are some lovely quiet villages there)

MinPinSins · 08/05/2025 09:24

South Cheshire fits your requirements - places like Nantwich, Sandbach, Congleton

Properties like this https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/159890444#/?channel=RES_BUY
As there are many places you could afford a detached house, I wouldn't consider anything else if quiet is a priority.

Check out this 4 bedroom detached house for sale on Rightmove

4 bedroom detached house for sale in Hungerford Place, Sandbach, CW11 for £350,000. Marketed by Stephenson Browne, Sandbach

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/159890444#/?channel=RES_BUY

Netcam · 08/05/2025 09:08

EauCaledonia · 08/05/2025 00:13

But how quiet would that be when, say, a couple with a teenage son who plays the drums moves in next door, and the 30-something woman on the other side has a baby that cries day and night? That's what happened to me in my terraced house. Lovely and quiet until new neighbours arrived.

I think it depends. We live in a 13 year old 3 storey terraced house in Cambridgeshire and our sound insulation must be good as we never hear the neighbours (obviously if windows are closed), one of whom also had a baby at some point.