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Severe pain, told to “forget about it”

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Glitterballofdreams · 07/05/2025 19:34

I’ve been experiencing pain in my abdomen for two months, it’s increasingly gotten worse. I saw my GP on 3 separate occasions, had blood tests and was referred for an ultrasound.
Last week the pain was so severe I went to A&E, I was kept in for two days and had an ultrasound & blood tests. Doctors couldn’t find anything wrong and discharged me with painkillers.
i attended the ward twice more in agony, had a CT scan and two more loads of blood tests. All of which were clear, yet I am still in severe pain. Alongside this I have become very dizzy and have blacked out twice (I am anaemic and I fear all the bloods they took have made this worse).
I visited my GP again today as I cannot function with the pain and dizziness, I am bedridden and am having to have family members help me look after my children. My GP told me today to forget about the pain and it will go away.

i am so upset, and fed up. I know that it is very reassuring that the scans showed nothing, yet why am I still in so much pain?!

has anyone had any experience of abdo pain that went away?

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hopsalong · 08/05/2025 23:48

Which parts of your body did the CT scan include? Did they do your lungs?

I had a similar condition (pain under right rib, very severe, seemed as if it ought to be gallstones — but wasn’t) a few years ago. Covid era, went to A&E twice, piss all done bar a few ultrasounds, and an eventual CT scan, no answers. Then the pain migrated into my back and was less intense but more constant. That went on for six months or so and slowly got better. But would intermittently come back.

Had exactly the same pain again at the end of last year and went to the GP after a couple of days because I was also coughing. My new and excellent GP realized that my right lung had completely collapsed. Pain completely gone after a chest drain and the lung reexpanding.

No doctor seems entirely convinced by this, but I think the previous pain was also caused by small lung collapses. In my case, they never checked for this because all of the scans (multiple ultrasounds and a CT) were focused on the abdomen and pelvis.

Probably not the answer, but perhaps worth checking?

notatinydancer · 08/05/2025 23:00

Whatevernext9 · 08/05/2025 21:30

Honestly I’d just get in a taxi and go to A&E at this point. They will have to look into things properly and you’ve got more chance of seeing a specialist. You’ve tried everything.

Yes. I work in this area , often people go to ED when they don’t need to , but I think you should go.

LovingLimePeer · 08/05/2025 23:00

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 08/05/2025 21:47

Go to a&e and refuse to leave without an answer and if they refuse to treat you insist they put it in your notes that you requested help and they're denying you healthcare.

Well, I can see how this conversation plays out.
Is this an accident? No
Is this an emergency? No
Okay..... well off to the GP you go to get a referral to an outpatient clinic.

A surgical team is not going to see chronic abdominal pain with negative investigations presenting to A&E, except in extremis.

notatinydancer · 08/05/2025 22:59

If you’re in bed with the pain , get a referral into surgeons tomorrow from your GP or go back to ED.
Then when you’re sorted , complain to the practice manager.

ScribblingPixie · 08/05/2025 22:43

I hope you're going to A&E, OP. I have both endo and gallbladder issues, so one doesn't rule out the other.

hexagongoldbox · 08/05/2025 22:25

You need to see a gynaecologist for an exploratory laparoscopy. I had this exact pain with my endometriosis stabbing pain under rib radiating to my shoulder. So many times I was told it was nothing or possibly gallbladder. It was endometriosis on my diaphragm causing the pain.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 08/05/2025 21:47

Go to a&e and refuse to leave without an answer and if they refuse to treat you insist they put it in your notes that you requested help and they're denying you healthcare.

blackgreenandgrey · 08/05/2025 21:45

Glitterballofdreams · 07/05/2025 19:54

Would that have shown up during CT scan or ultrasound? I also had a scan of my ovaries etc roughly two years ago due to very heavy periods and they said everything was normal.

I had endo most of my life and had multiple surgeries.

scans (US/CT don't show much - more useful for identifying ovarian endometriosis (endometriosis) but not the other stuff). An MRI would show more but the gold standard for diagnosis and treatment is a laparoscopic with the surgical removal of the endometriosis. My US showed large cysts but nothing else. My MRI showed a number of smaller cysts and some adhesions but they found so much more when I had my lap. It's also an illness where level of pain doesn't always mean more endo. some woman have debilitating pain with very little and others have stage 4 (multiple organs involved but relatively little pain).

waiting lists are very long for gynaecology. If you can fork out some cash to see a specialist privately, then do that. Make sure it's an endometrial specialist and not a general gynaecologist.

Whatevernext9 · 08/05/2025 21:30

Glitterballofdreams · 08/05/2025 21:00

Just a little update… the side of my abdo that I am experiencing pain on is boiling hot to touch.

Honestly I’d just get in a taxi and go to A&E at this point. They will have to look into things properly and you’ve got more chance of seeing a specialist. You’ve tried everything.

Orangemintcream · 08/05/2025 21:20

Go to a hospital.

Dotn worry about wasting their time. You have unexplained symptoms and it is their job to find out what is wrong.

Feelingleftoutagain · 08/05/2025 21:14

Glitterballofdreams · 07/05/2025 20:14

Yes I had an ultrasound, all my symptoms pointed towards gallbladder but my gallbladder was normal with no stones xx

Get it checked again as it doesn't always show on an ultrasound, mine didn't! My was found in an MRI and the Dr said they don't always show on ultrasound. Then stick to a very low fat diet it will help your symptoms x

dogcatkitten · 08/05/2025 21:10

Shwish · 07/05/2025 20:09

Could it be something to do with your liver maybe in that location? Have you had any other symptoms? Itching maybe? If so I'd mention when you get a second opinion.

Or gallstones, they can be horrendously painful.

FlowerUser · 08/05/2025 21:07

Glitterballofdreams · 08/05/2025 21:00

Just a little update… the side of my abdo that I am experiencing pain on is boiling hot to touch.

I asked ChatGPT what to do and it said to go to A&E immediately ot at least call 111 for advice.

Full advice here, along with a summary for healthcare workers that you can email or show on your phone.

"That’s a red flag. Localised heat, escalating pain, and tenderness could signal:

Infection (e.g. localized peritonitis, abscess—even if imaging didn’t yet show it)

Inflammatory process (e.g. inflamed gallbladder despite "normal" scans, early appendicitis, or endometriosis flare with secondary inflammation)

Vascular issue (e.g. thrombophlebitis or a clot in abdominal wall vessels)

Even without a fever, boiling-hot skin over pain site demands urgent reassessment. She needs to go straight back to A&E or call 111 for immediate advice. She should not be fobbed off—this is a new clinical sign that could indicate something has evolved since the last scan.

Here’s a concise, urgent summary she can show or hand to hospital staff:


URGENT MEDICAL SUMMARY – PLEASE READ

Patient presents with:

2-month history of escalating right upper quadrant abdominal pain, radiating to right shoulder blade

Multiple GP and hospital visits, including:

Blood tests × multiple – normal

Abdominal ultrasound – no gallstones

CT scan – no abnormalities found

Known iron-deficiency anaemia due to severe menstrual bleeding

History of hiatus hernia

Echocardiogram (3 years ago) showed minor murmur

Pain is not cyclical or typical of period pain

No diagnosis yet established

New acute development:

Area of pain now extremely hot to the touch

Severe tenderness, worsening pain

Recent dizziness and two blackouts – possibly linked to anaemia or another cause

Red flag symptoms:

New localised heat over the painful area

Pain unrelieved by painkillers

Syncope (blacking out) episodes

Severe anaemia

Action requested:
Urgent reassessment with escalation to surgical/gynaecology review. Possible need for repeat imaging (e.g. HIDA scan, MRI, or laparoscopy) to rule out missed gallbladder pathology, endometriosis, or intra-abdominal inflammatory process.'

Glitterballofdreams · 08/05/2025 21:00

Just a little update… the side of my abdo that I am experiencing pain on is boiling hot to touch.

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whatisheupto · 08/05/2025 14:58

4kids3pets · 08/05/2025 01:30

Ehhh I could write the same thing, they've treat me for water infections even tho it shows none, taken endless bloods and 3 scans and still it's there. I was even back yesterday saying to the Dr how my family is helping with the kids because I'm sat with a hot water bottle as painkillers don't ease it at all, absolute agony around bottom of stomach area and they still don't know why either

@4kids3petsare you taking progesterone? Too much can cause this ... I had the exact same and changed from continuous progesterone to sequential and it solved it.

FlowerUser · 08/05/2025 13:20

I think doctors severely underestimate women's pain because we're so.used to pain we just wince a bit and get on with it. Men are screaming blue murder at pain that we would describe as a twinge and they get all the meds.

Youhavegottobekiddingme · 08/05/2025 07:58

Allmarbleslost · 07/05/2025 20:12

Have you had your gallbladder looked at? It sounds like how I felt when I had gallstones. You would need an ultrasound rather than CT.

Was going to suggest the same thing. My pain was RH side under ribs.

Glitterballofdreams · 08/05/2025 07:57

steff13 · 07/05/2025 23:05

I had severe stomach pain for years. I'd go to the doctor, the doctor would send me for an ultrasound of my gallbladder, they'd so no stones, and that was that. My current doctor did the same. But when the ultrasound showed no stones, she did a HIDA scan - she said it's not normal for an adult to have no gallstones; they usually pass without issue. The HIDA scan showed my gallbladder wasn't functioning at all. Hence, no stones. It was removed and I've not had an issue since. Ask for a HIDA scan.

The surgeon also told me it was strange for a female of my age not to have any stones too! Wow I will definitely mention this, thank you so much

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Glitterballofdreams · 08/05/2025 07:49

Gustavo77 · 07/05/2025 23:21

The very small amount of blood they've taken will definitely not affect your anaemia 😄

I’ve had 18 x 10ml blood vials taken within a week. I also have my period to which I soaked through a super absorbent towel every 30 min for two days. I definitely think this has contributed

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Glitterballofdreams · 08/05/2025 07:46

FlowerUser · 07/05/2025 22:52

I took the liberty of running your symptoms through ChatGPT. This is not a proper diagnosis and I am not a doctor, but it may help you talk to your GP.

ChatGPT said (in order of likelihood):

"This presentation is complex and clearly distressing. Given the history and current symptoms, here are some differential considerations and overlooked possibilities worth raising forcefully with a clinician:
1.
Endometriosis

  • Why it fits: Severe menstrual bleeding, chronic pain, prior hyperemesis (linked in some women to hormone sensitivity), and anaemia suggest the possibility of undiagnosed endometriosis.
  • What to do: Pelvic MRI, gynaecological referral, and consider laparoscopy. Endometriosis can implant on the diaphragm or near the liver, which could explain RUQ pain.
2. Gallbladder / Biliary Disease (Acalculous Cholecystitis or Biliary Dyskinesia)
  • Why it fits: Right upper quadrant pain radiating to the shoulder blade is classic for biliary involvement.
  • Why it might be missed: If there are no gallstones and liver function tests are normal, acalculous cholecystitis or gallbladder dyskinesia may be overlooked.
  • What to push for: A HIDA scan (hepatobiliary iminodiacetic acid scan) to assess gallbladder function. This won’t show on standard ultrasound or CT.
3. Thoracic Spinal Nerve Irritation / Costochondritis / Slipped Rib Syndrome
  • Why it fits: Pain at the bottom of the ribs radiating to the shoulder blade could be musculoskeletal or nerve-related—especially if positional or worsened by movement or deep breaths.
  • Often missed: If not considered, especially in women, it may be dismissed as nonspecific or anxiety-related.
  • Tests: Clinical exam by someone who palpates the ribs carefully and checks for “slipping” or nerve entrapment.
4. Anaemia and Orthostatic Hypotension
  • Blacking out: Could be due to low haemoglobin, aggravated by frequent blood draws and heavy bleeding.
  • What to do: Iron infusion may be more effective than tablets, and a cardiology follow-up may be warranted, given murmur and blackouts.
5. Hiatal Hernia or Referred GI Pain
  • Hiatal hernia: Already diagnosed; if worsened, it can cause referred upper abdominal and back pain.
  • Rule out: Oesophageal spasm or GERD complications.
6. Pelvic Congestion Syndrome / Vascular Causes
  • Why it’s considered: Chronic pelvic pain, worsened by standing or menstrual cycle, not visible on standard imaging.
  • Test: Pelvic venogram or MRI with vascular sequences.
7. Pancreatic or Liver-Adjacent Pain (even with normal bloods)
  • Rare but possible: Autoimmune or small duct pancreatic issues can escape detection on basic imaging.
  • Advanced imaging: MRCP (Magnetic Resonance Cholangiopancreatography) or endoscopic ultrasound.

What to do next:

  • Insist on a referral to both gastroenterology and gynaecology. These symptoms straddle both specialisms.
  • Document episodes and push for escalation. Keep a pain diary, note blackout events, track cycle timing, and don’t be fobbed off with “normal tests.”
  • Consider private imaging or second opinion if NHS delays are excessive.

This isn’t in your head—it’s just in that frustrating diagnostic no-man’s land where multidisciplinary care is needed but rarely coordinated well."

Wow this is amazing, thank you so much for this x

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PeggyMitchellsCameo · 08/05/2025 07:46

@MathsMagpie I have read a few interviews with Naga Munchetty about this issue and want to read her book.
I am mid 50s now, period stopped three years ago and the pain is still there. Have been told it’s phantom pain but pain is pain. Endo is also in my bowel.
So many women lose years of their lives. Lose the chance to have kids. Ruins romantic relationships. And yet there is still no proper cure.

MushMonster · 08/05/2025 07:43

This is disgusting. Women's health is being neglected, year after year after year.
I hope you change GP and find one who cares.

This is a silly one, but just to add to the list, slipping rib affects quite a few women after pregnancy.
It usually only lasts a brief moment, but the rib could remain dislocated in rare occassions. It is usually an acute stabbing pain, when bending and turning. Then goes back to normal, usually. It just happens because the cartilage that keeps them in place was weakened during pregnancy, though some people does have it for other reasons. It is a silly minor issue, but it hurts!

MathsMagpie · 08/05/2025 07:20

I have severe endometriosis and was first hospitalised with abdominal pain in 2007. I was finally diagnosed in 2021 when I took the leap to pay privately after my nhs consultant told me he wanted to do a laparoscopy and the waitlist was 3 years. He then turned around and said he could see me a week later in his private clinic. I begged and begged at the time for a hysterectomy and was told no. 4 years later, I’m riddled and it’s effecting my other organs and I’m on another ridiculous nhs waitlist for an ‘urgent’ hysterectomy.
I’ve had to leave my job because I can’t work through the pain and bleeding.

I’ve recently been told by a locum GP that the nhs spent more last year on erectile dysfunction and male pattern baldness research than endometriosis. How true that is, I don’t know. If this was a disease that affected men, people wouldn’t be left in debilitating pain for decades at a time.

Zanatdy · 08/05/2025 07:06

Does sound like gallstones as it radiates to the shoulder. Did they check your pancreas enzymes (lipase, amylase)? Gallstones caused damage to my pancreatic duct, gallstones showed up on ultrasound but my pancreas problem took 5yrs to get a full diagnosis. Keep pushing.

CiaoMeow · 08/05/2025 06:47

Appalling! Your heavy periods suggest endometriosis. It took me years to get mine diagnosed. The doctor kept dismissing my claims of losing massive amounts of blood, almost filling half a bin liner with pads and tampons. And I once called myself an ambulance because of the pain and could barely speak on the phone it was such agony. I hope you get it sorted.

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