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I need a British eye - what do you think of my Indian bridal outfit

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Vlonk · 07/05/2025 18:45

I’m getting married in July. The ceremony will take place in a church (Fiance is white Christian) followed by a reception in a country house known for its gardens. We will have a Sikh blessing at the temple the following day (I am borrowing a cousins outfit for that).

I will wear a white Saree to honour both my cultures (“white dress” plus Saree) for the church ceremony. I will then change into an Indian outfit called a lehengha. I plan to drink, dance and so lehenghas are considered easier to
manage than a sari.

So for Indian sensibilities the outfit I have fallen in love with (pic 1) is very plain and not “heavy”
enough for a bride. BUT I will be the only woman in Indian clothes. Everyone else will be in summer dresses (well maybe my mum will wear an Indian outfit).

So I have fallen in love with the colour and the fact that it is lighter and less fussy appeals somewhat. As does the price…

What do you think from an English or non Indian perspective? Would you be wowed

Just for reference the second image is more typical of Indian reception bridal wear.

I just don’t want to feel like a disco ball compared to everyone else. My hair will be very glam (luckily I’m blessed in that dept) and I think I have chosen a pretty make up look.

Indian jewellery is obviously quite extravagant so that will dress it up.

My cousins and sister think the first outfit is a complete no go.

I need a British eye - what do you think of my Indian bridal outfit
I need a British eye - what do you think of my Indian bridal outfit
OP posts:
cocoloco23 · 07/05/2025 19:27

I think I’m being stupid - I can only see two images, and they look like the same dress? Both are blue-green. I can’t see a white one as per your OP

LuckyOrMaybe · 07/05/2025 19:27

I wonder if you will have a highly decorated scarf as part of your outfit for the ceremony, would it also go with your reception outfit and thus be a way of upping the decorative elements for the handful of relatives who will care - but be easy to discard as the evening wears on and for dancing perhaps?

I also think the "simpler" dress looks nicest; though am also one whose sensibilities would do an initial double take at the style (hopefully without showing my reaction).

comfyshoespls · 07/05/2025 19:26

I am white and married a Sikh. The guests all wore a mix of western and Indian outfits. I’d expect you to wear a legends if you wanted to and would have thought others will wear them too. I wear them to Indian or mixed weddings sometimes too. They’re both lovely outfits

DoYouReally · 07/05/2025 19:23

Of your first post, I love the first one - colours, structure etc. The top part is far more structured and flattering.

I don't like the top part of the second one at all and the skirt while nice, appears very heavy.

The third image in your further post is absolutely stunning

Ddakji · 07/05/2025 19:22

I love it, and you will look beautiful, especially with your wedding jewellery (I’ve been to a couple of Indian weddings years ago and I remember the lovely filigree gold jewellery very well).

MadeleineAllbright · 07/05/2025 19:22

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 07/05/2025 18:57

Utterly gorgeous.

My only question would be around any very conservative (small 'c') family members or guests that may be flustered by the very cropped top. Is that likely to be an issue? Some of my older family members would be scandalised by a bride showing her bellybutton.

Would agree - not an issue at all in a more progressive church, but a church with a more conservative congregation/clergy might be shocked by bare midriffs!

Jungfraujoch · 07/05/2025 19:20

Beautiful!

ErrolTheDragon · 07/05/2025 19:19

They’re all beautiful outfits. So much lovelier than many traditional western wedding dresses.

TheSilentMajority · 07/05/2025 19:17

Congrats on your upcoming wedding
can I just recommend one thing please - please get your colours done first. Getting the right colour for you will make you look amazing even if you are wearing a rag. People fall into two categories - either they suit warm colours (with yellow tones think anything from cream to orange) or cool colours (with blue tones anything from white to black). The first dress is lovely but I am concerned as I think most Indian skins suit cool tones so worried the first dress while lovely is not the right colour for you.

SillySeal · 07/05/2025 19:17

I think it's absolutely beautiful. Wear what you feel comfortable in. It is your day.

MrsMitford3 · 07/05/2025 19:16

I think it looks gorgeous and totally appropriate and lovely that you honour both of your cultures.

And as the bride-it is def the one day where you cannot be overdressed!!!

Wear it and have a ball

Vlonk · 07/05/2025 19:15

Ohthatsabitshit · 07/05/2025 19:13

No belly or bare shoulders in church for me but we are quite traditional and it’s not acceptable for us. The dress for the reception is stunning. I like the first simpler one. Follow your mother in laws advice for church and your heart for the reception.

There will be no belly or shoulders on show. I am making alterations so that the scarf will be heavier ie you won’t see under it. And I will have cap sleeves.

It’s C o E.

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Bikergran · 07/05/2025 19:15

I think it's absolutely fabulous, and you are the bride, so you SHOULD stand out!! Go for it.

Ohthatsabitshit · 07/05/2025 19:13

No belly or bare shoulders in church for me but we are quite traditional and it’s not acceptable for us. The dress for the reception is stunning. I like the first simpler one. Follow your mother in laws advice for church and your heart for the reception.

Vlonk · 07/05/2025 19:13

strawlight · 07/05/2025 18:55

She looks amazing! OP are you having something like that for your church dress?

Edited

I loved both her dresses. Stunning.

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tigerlady14 · 07/05/2025 19:12

very stunning I think it will be really beautiful ! congrats <3

beAsensible1 · 07/05/2025 19:09

You can’t compare to anyone else you are the bride. 2 is a lot more bridal. And gorgeous.

the second one is a bit wedding guest.

But they both are both lovely.

Winter2020 · 07/05/2025 19:08

Your ceremony dress (slightly adapted) will be absolutely beautiful.

Evaka · 07/05/2025 19:08

First is beyond gorgeous. You do you and enjoy!!

Vlonk · 07/05/2025 19:08

GetMeOutOfHere20 · 07/05/2025 19:07

Oh I think the second one. The first one is a bit light also though isn’t white a more mourning colour? Rather than celebratory?

Yeah my mum has said that but I’ve chosen to ignore that fact. White is obviously traditional in the UK.

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GetMeOutOfHere20 · 07/05/2025 19:07

The white sari - I’m not sure and deffo the second outfit for the reception

GetMeOutOfHere20 · 07/05/2025 19:07

Oh I think the second one. The first one is a bit light also though isn’t white a more mourning colour? Rather than celebratory?

Vlonk · 07/05/2025 19:07

TheClawDecides · 07/05/2025 19:03

It's stunning but perhaps too much flesh on show for a church.

I mean the midriff on show obviously, because lots of brides have off the shoulder dresses.

Having said that, it's your choice and I hope you enjoy the day no matter what you choose.

Neither would be for the church. I am wearing a white sari which is mostly covered

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CopperWhite · 07/05/2025 19:06

Both gorgeous but I like the first one best. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else is wearing because you are the bride. This is your opportunity to wear an extravagant dress that you love.

abricotine · 07/05/2025 19:06

Love it 😍

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