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I need a British eye - what do you think of my Indian bridal outfit

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Vlonk · 07/05/2025 18:45

I’m getting married in July. The ceremony will take place in a church (Fiance is white Christian) followed by a reception in a country house known for its gardens. We will have a Sikh blessing at the temple the following day (I am borrowing a cousins outfit for that).

I will wear a white Saree to honour both my cultures (“white dress” plus Saree) for the church ceremony. I will then change into an Indian outfit called a lehengha. I plan to drink, dance and so lehenghas are considered easier to
manage than a sari.

So for Indian sensibilities the outfit I have fallen in love with (pic 1) is very plain and not “heavy”
enough for a bride. BUT I will be the only woman in Indian clothes. Everyone else will be in summer dresses (well maybe my mum will wear an Indian outfit).

So I have fallen in love with the colour and the fact that it is lighter and less fussy appeals somewhat. As does the price…

What do you think from an English or non Indian perspective? Would you be wowed

Just for reference the second image is more typical of Indian reception bridal wear.

I just don’t want to feel like a disco ball compared to everyone else. My hair will be very glam (luckily I’m blessed in that dept) and I think I have chosen a pretty make up look.

Indian jewellery is obviously quite extravagant so that will dress it up.

My cousins and sister think the first outfit is a complete no go.

I need a British eye - what do you think of my Indian bridal outfit
I need a British eye - what do you think of my Indian bridal outfit
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HollaHolla · 07/05/2025 22:14

Oh gosh, they’re all absolutely beautiful. I think the green is my favourite (I know you’re wearing the two outfits.)
I’m sure you’re going to look gorgeous - and what a lovely way to have both cultures honoured.
Wishing you every happiness together.

PrinceYakimov · 07/05/2025 22:10

You will be a stunning bride! I love these plans.

On your reception outfit, blue is also a colour that brides often wear if they are not wearing white - it's the traditional colour of fidelity. So a good way of honouring both cultures at the reception too.

babyproblems · 07/05/2025 22:08

I think it’s utterly beautiful and it will be absolutely fabulous 🩷

Gymnopediegivesmethewillies · 07/05/2025 22:08

Both of the dresses you have chosen are beautiful, I’m sure you are going to be stunning. Have a wonderful day x

Fluffyblackcat7 · 07/05/2025 21:58

You have great taste. You will look amazing. Please post a picture of your wedding sari.

powershowerforanhour · 07/05/2025 21:56

It's gorgeous and you are going to look a million dollars 😍

poptypingchef · 07/05/2025 21:46

It’s incredible, I would definitely be wowed!

KateShugakIsALegend · 07/05/2025 21:41

I much prefer the first one

ninjahamster · 07/05/2025 21:37

I think it’s beautiful x

M103 · 07/05/2025 21:34

It's gorgeous!I prefer the first.

tartyflette · 07/05/2025 21:31

Sincerely, both outfits are lovely but the first one looks very elegant and graceful. The green is soft and would flatter a lot of different hair and skin tones.

yeesh · 07/05/2025 21:28

Beautiful

ThatRoseBear · 07/05/2025 21:27

I'm of Punjabi origin. Your first outfit is stunning and it will be comfortable to dance and move freely in. You won't have to have an extravagant outfit as none of your guests will wear Asian outfits. My wedding lengha was quite light as I wanted to be comfortable and my hair/makeup/jewellery to add to the effect. I think go with your gut and choose the outfit that you love x

nyancatdays · 07/05/2025 21:27

Both the ceremony dress and the first lehenga are perfect. Go for it!

candycane222 · 07/05/2025 21:23

Vlonk · 07/05/2025 19:06

I’m currently getting a version of this made in India for the ceremony. I am adding very small cap sleeves and the scarf will be ever so slightly more opaque.

Only a tiny slither of my stomach will be out and it will be obscured by a heavier scarf.

OMG that is fabulous.. Absolutely glorious!!!

PluckyCheeks · 07/05/2025 21:19

I think they’re both lovely, but the first one is stunning, very classic. Your wedding sounds like it’s going to be fab.

Pollyanna87 · 07/05/2025 21:19

Both are lovely, but the second is glorious. I love extravagant Indian fashion.

godmum56 · 07/05/2025 21:17

It is absolutely your choice and your cousins can shut up. Both are beautiful but I agree with you about pic 1. I'd say its more sophisticated thsn pic 2

KhakiOrca · 07/05/2025 21:15

Both are absolutely stunning. But I love the second one a bit more.

MrsIcandothis · 07/05/2025 21:10

No. 2 is perfect, dazzling, over the top in a good way, and just perfect 😍

Enjoy your day, whatever you decide would be so beautiful. Congratulations 🎊

HeartyViper · 07/05/2025 21:01

It’s absolutely gorgeous!

Dee9409 · 07/05/2025 21:01

I love the second outfit! It is def ‘wow’ who cares if people think it’s over the top you’re representing your culture and it is way better than the sari. The lengha definitely top class! Wish I could get married again and choose a new outfit.

Glitchymn1 · 07/05/2025 21:01

Number 2, but with the (sorry I don’t know the name) long flowing scarf item. Both are gorgeous. I googled Indian wedding dress, so went for the second dress.

Yeetpetite · 07/05/2025 21:00

It’s stunning, love it! I have Indian friends and am always jealous of their beautiful wedding outfits 😍 hope you have an amazing wedding!

Nanny0gg · 07/05/2025 20:57

Vlonk · 07/05/2025 18:45

I’m getting married in July. The ceremony will take place in a church (Fiance is white Christian) followed by a reception in a country house known for its gardens. We will have a Sikh blessing at the temple the following day (I am borrowing a cousins outfit for that).

I will wear a white Saree to honour both my cultures (“white dress” plus Saree) for the church ceremony. I will then change into an Indian outfit called a lehengha. I plan to drink, dance and so lehenghas are considered easier to
manage than a sari.

So for Indian sensibilities the outfit I have fallen in love with (pic 1) is very plain and not “heavy”
enough for a bride. BUT I will be the only woman in Indian clothes. Everyone else will be in summer dresses (well maybe my mum will wear an Indian outfit).

So I have fallen in love with the colour and the fact that it is lighter and less fussy appeals somewhat. As does the price…

What do you think from an English or non Indian perspective? Would you be wowed

Just for reference the second image is more typical of Indian reception bridal wear.

I just don’t want to feel like a disco ball compared to everyone else. My hair will be very glam (luckily I’m blessed in that dept) and I think I have chosen a pretty make up look.

Indian jewellery is obviously quite extravagant so that will dress it up.

My cousins and sister think the first outfit is a complete no go.

They're absolutely stunning. Slightly prefer the 1st one but no2 bit more bridal

And as the bride, you should stand out from anyone else

HTH