My husband doesn’t want sex ever

There's been a bit of a pattern of reviving old threads- over the last couple of days

This is a post from May last year - why was it resurrected?

He's clearly not the man for the job! Leave him, 55 is too young to be giving up on this part of your life. If you don't want to leave him perhaps discuss having an open relationship?

If my DH knew I was struggling with my libido, but expected me to (unwillingly) pleasure him weekly with a sex toy, that would be the end of our ralationship. So disrespectful.

There’s more to life than being in a sexless marriage.

You need a long, frank conversation about why etc

If you can’t live with it, after talking, then make plans for your future.

There's more to life than sex.

Mainly, women get told it’s perfectly natural, and their partners should shut up and tolerate it. Men who post with the same issue tend to get eviscerated.

Has he tried viagra (or similar)? Does he not want to, or things aren't working so he no longer wants to try and fail?

Don't think looks have anything to do with sex drive @Whattodonowthenfucker !

You say that the drop off in his sex drive started a few years ago. Did something happen then? Was it a slow, gradual decline or did he suddenly go off sex with you?

On here, you sound really frustrated and angry (which is understandable) and I'm wondering if that comes across when you are together? If someone was fed up and frustrated with me, I'm not sure I'd find that encouraging or a turn on.

Do you think it is a physical thing or a mental thing? You say he's trying testosterone treatment and it hasn't worked. How long has he been on it for?

You should not be trying to get him to do something he doesn't want to do but it is ok to call time on the relationship.

That's nonsense. Women who come on here and declare they're no longer interested in sex, are given all kinds of advice, including go to the doctors, sprinkled with lots of 'poor husband' remarks. Men and women are not the same, why would you expect people to treat them as if they are?

Are you still in this relationship ? If so I would advise you to leave it sorry. I was sad reading it.

How depressing.

Op... I'd either leave or have an affair

So do I!

Ong this would be my dream lol. To be married but never have sex again 🤣

Nothing wrong with this. I’m in the same boat with my other half. Tall dark and attractive but never wants it. But rather than having a low libido he watches porn and pleasures himself instead. But apparently adores me and cherishes me - making it hard for me to leave.

Is he on Mounjaro?

He needs to go back to the doctor to have his T levels checked. He may not be absorbing it properly or be compliant in taking the pills. The transdermal T gel is more reliable.

"If you saw him in a pub you’d never believe it: he is tall dark and handsome, you’d never guess he’s shit in the sheets. Wtf do I do?"

Oh yes, height and looks have a correlation to sex drive.

what the f.

OLD post sorry but i had to.

p/s you are better off going to therapy because I feel for you, you have half a life time left and would you want to spend those with a dead sex life?

Can you use the vibrator yourself whilst he watches?

That might turn him on.

It’s amazing when a man says his wife no longer wants sex no one asks if she’s gay or addicted to porn. They say the man must be shit in bed, that the fastedst way to clamp shut a vagina is a man desperately wanting it and to stop being a sex pest.

the double standard are remarkable

Girrrl. If he’s not willing to try then I’d be having a conversation about either breaking up or you getting it elsewhere. Life is too short!

You either have to come to terms with it or you break up. Has he always been like this?

Has he had a blood test? Is he on any meds? Anything that might medically cause this ? This is his port of call