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Work meeting etiquette

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Meetingtimes · 06/05/2025 20:37

just been on back to back meetings all day again, and feeling so frustrated with with following;

  • General update meeting - everyone has a 5 min slot, people going over this consistently with absolute drivel nobody needs to know about, prompts that there time is up, but carry on in the weeds
  • Meeting running over, some smart arse asks a question that could of been asked directly to the person at a later time
  • No cameras on, even by the presenters, I kid you not I once did a full days training with an external trainer and they didn’t switch their camera on once!
  • Having an open calendar policy, but still getting diary clashing invites
  • Not responding to an invite at all
  • leaving your mic on instead of just having a default so it mutes on calls with 10s of people

I might just be stressed (from all the tedious meetings) but why do people do this, especially the first 2?!?

OP posts:
TunnocksOrDeath · 18/07/2025 19:21

Virtually no one in my organisation turns their camera on; it's unnecessary, and hogs screen space from whatever is being presented.
What annoys me more is occasionally having to waste time correcting shoddy process documents written by native English speakers who should know better: "there time is up" "could of"... Most of my team have English as their third language and they don't make basic errors like these, OP.

Artesia · 18/07/2025 19:00

ruethewhirl · 17/07/2025 16:49

Genuine question, OP - why do you feel so strongly about people having their cameras on? Does it really make a difference?

Yes- I really think it does. Nothing worse than talking to a sea of blank screens, no way to pick up visual clues, engage with the other participants, tell whether you have their attention etc. And people definitely pay less attention when their camera is off- checking other emails, etc. I agree that it's incredibly rude

ruethewhirl · 17/07/2025 16:49

Meetingtimes · 06/05/2025 23:33

This can’t be a real response!

Genuine question, OP - why do you feel so strongly about people having their cameras on? Does it really make a difference?

Imlyingandthatsthetruth · 17/07/2025 16:42

Yes, civil servants do love meetings and we certainly used to have plenty of professional meetings engineers but they were very good at running meetings properly. It was after we were privatised that we endured 20 minute meetings crammed into two hours because no-one seemed to know how to shut people up!

AgnesX · 17/07/2025 15:14

Meetingtimes · 06/05/2025 23:33

This can’t be a real response!

The bit about declining or accepting meetings is true and drives me insane especially when I'm booking meetings for a specific purpose and those people should be there.

It's the height of ignorance.

Praying4Peace · 17/07/2025 14:56

NameChangedForThisOne236 · 06/05/2025 21:54

I’m guessing Public Sector, possibly Civil Service?!! I’ve had 27 years in the Public Sector and this is my life 😢, especially now we work from home. We seem to have meetings about meetings which annoy me so much.

And my boss could talk for England! He makes our hourly team meeting over run by at least 20 mins every week 🤷‍♀️ Oh and then there’s the awful bit at the end of meetings when the chair asks if anyone has any questions. Most normal people just say no, but there’s always some smart arse who just has to say something and holds us all up. I just glare at them 😤

Meetings re meetings with nil productivity and a sheer waste of time.
My experience of working in a senior role in a public organisation only served to confirm that it was a different suit on a different day with a tweek of the management speak.
At the same time, front line services were short.
I attended as few meetings as possible and concentrated on responsibilities that directly impacted on service users

EBearhug · 07/05/2025 00:57

Depends. One job had cameras disabled for security reasons. Previous job was cameras on unless it was a regional all-hands with hundreds on the call, in which case cameras only for speakers. Also had meetings where some individuals were asked to turn cameras off because their bandwidth wasn't coping and looking at a fuzzy, pixilated image trying to reload which was making the sound go weird wasn't helpful.

Generally my preference is for cameras on.

Someone2025 · 07/05/2025 00:48

CarpetKnees · 07/05/2025 00:41

The point being, if you - or anyone else - feels they do "need" makeup, then you need to put it on before work starts.

Same as everyone brushes their hair or gets dressed. Doesn't bother me two hoots if someone is wearing make up or not, it is the fact that you are actually suggesting it as being a viable reason for not having your camera on in a work meeting that is ridiculous.

Jesus, stop being ridiculous and read my earlier comment, I don’t wear make up on the days I WFH as it’s not necessary and I don’t need to have my camera on!!

CarpetKnees · 07/05/2025 00:41

The point being, if you - or anyone else - feels they do "need" makeup, then you need to put it on before work starts.

Same as everyone brushes their hair or gets dressed. Doesn't bother me two hoots if someone is wearing make up or not, it is the fact that you are actually suggesting it as being a viable reason for not having your camera on in a work meeting that is ridiculous.

Someone2025 · 07/05/2025 00:38

CarpetKnees · 07/05/2025 00:29

Because it is a business meeting, not a beauty contest.

If wearing make up is important to someone, they can get up and put it on before they start work, but most people manage to do their job without wearing make up.
It is a ridiculous reason for not taking part in a meeting fully and would not be considered as a reason to not put your camera on where most people work.

Don’t be ridiculous!!
I’m a highly qualified professional ( 7 years to qualify) and if I choose to wear make up I will, if I choose not to I won’t, it isn’t necessary for cameras to be turned on in most meetings anyway.

In my profession 90% of people have their cameras turned off so it makes no difference. When I’m in the office as I’m a senior member of staff I want to and need to look professional and good grooming is part of that.

If you don’t wear make up that’s fine but you really need to understand that a lot of highly qualified intelligent women actually do

Such a silly comment

CarpetKnees · 07/05/2025 00:29

Because it is a business meeting, not a beauty contest.

If wearing make up is important to someone, they can get up and put it on before they start work, but most people manage to do their job without wearing make up.
It is a ridiculous reason for not taking part in a meeting fully and would not be considered as a reason to not put your camera on where most people work.

Someone2025 · 06/05/2025 23:43

Meetingtimes · 06/05/2025 23:33

This can’t be a real response!

Why

Meetingtimes · 06/05/2025 23:33

Someone2025 · 06/05/2025 22:17

I don’t turn my camera on as I never put on make up when I’m WFH, most people don’t turn their cameras on now for various different reasons, Microsoft teams makes everyone look pretty awful IMO

Yeah, lots of people also don’t accept / decline invites so you have no idea whether they will turn up or not

This can’t be a real response!

OP posts:
jaundicedoutlook · 06/05/2025 22:56

1 - meetings should end at scheduled time, or before. Overruns, unless very marginal or driven by someone super-senior are unprofessional.

2 - cameras should always be on. I always call, out people who switch cameras off, unless it’s just for a minute or so (e.g, a toilet break which you might have in a physical meeting).

3 - I don’t mind someone sending me a meeting for a slot that’s booked out in my open calendar unless they mind me declining it. It it’s a meeting i feel I have to attend, it can’t, then I decline asking for the meeting to be rescheduled.

4 - ambient noise from other people’s unmuted microphones is asking for a sarcastic comment.

Ultimately, other people are often dicks. If they are, treat them accordingly.

Someone2025 · 06/05/2025 22:17

Meetingtimes · 06/05/2025 20:55

The house shame thing I have to disagree with, if you can’t turn your camera on in a meeting due to your house shame, you need to go into the office, or find a place to take your meetings where there is a blank wall, blur your background, or chose a background.

Quite a lot of organisations I work with, their consultants will have some kind of branded background etc, Or have a picture of their office as one

I don’t turn my camera on as I never put on make up when I’m WFH, most people don’t turn their cameras on now for various different reasons, Microsoft teams makes everyone look pretty awful IMO

Yeah, lots of people also don’t accept / decline invites so you have no idea whether they will turn up or not

mumda · 06/05/2025 22:14

Civil servants?

JoyousEagle · 06/05/2025 22:09

Clashing invitations is sometimes unavoidable. If I’m arranging a meeting with, say, 5 other people, sometimes I have to just go with the time that works for most people. Or for the people who are most important to the meeting. The partners at my firm have completely chockablock calendars and if they have to be in the meeting, someone else might get an invitation that clashes.

waffleyversatile1 · 06/05/2025 22:08

Please add to your list colleagues calling on teams when you are in a call. Before I call anyone I check first

ilovesooty · 06/05/2025 22:08

Unless you have a special agreed accommodation or it's a very large meeting where you're not required to contribute in any way I think it's the height of rudeness not to have your camera on.

misssunshine4040 · 06/05/2025 22:01

I agree about the chair needing to manage the meeting and keep people to their time limit.
It’s so frustrating as some people just love the sound of their own voice and have no awareness that they are digressing.
I feel your pain op

Zanatdy · 06/05/2025 22:00

I find this whole issue with camera’s baffling as we can see everyone in face to face meetings. The background thing is silly as you can have a background on. Another reason for employers to want staff back in, nothing less engaging and motivating than a meeting with camera’s off.

Sofasloth · 06/05/2025 21:59

I've not had a meeting over run since COVID. Everyone just logs off onto their next one on the hour.

Redflagsabounded · 06/05/2025 21:56

I'm public sector too though. We're all too busy to faff about.

minnienono · 06/05/2025 21:56

Hate cameras, I turn mine off. In my opinion if people want to see my face it needs to be in person

Phase2 · 06/05/2025 21:55

Open calendars are fine but actually more than two invitees and I end up hoping someone can come anyway or we won’t meet til August … the updates, absolutely drive me bananas

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