It’s a LOTR one. I feel so upset over my DHs comment about elves.

Mark Carney?

People are being dicks. All these disingenuous comments about how posters have no words…, and then they post something critical.

I would suggest it lacks imagination to understand what the issue is here.

And all the ‘how old are you’ comments. I can’t pretend to be interested in these things, but many grown adults like stuff like Disney and Lord of the rings. Get over it.

OP, I suspect it was a throwaway comment he made about the elves. And he doesn’t identify you as being as much of a hobbit as you do. And you clearly don’t look like a hobbit, so the negative characteristics of being a hobbit are not yours!

He’s with you because he wants to be. Try not to overthink any of this. He should understand why he has upset you though and show some kindness.

Good point. I should have made that clear.

Orcs are definitely tax dodgers.

Saron is clearly Putin and Saruman is probably Trump.

I want to know who Gandalf is and where we might find Mr Frodo.

Don't forget what the orcs once were. Much better to be a hobbit! Besides, Hobbits are amazing creatures, as stated by Gandalf himself.

Honestly I think you should do this - or if you are fond of some of the things, just put them away somewhere.

I'm quite invested in this thread mainly because it's a change from the recent trend of posts asking if people would report benefits cheats or tax dodgers.

Natalie Portman could keep herself busy for a few years destroying marriages like this couldn't she?!

OP, kindly, I can kind of see why you’re upset.. kind of.

Because I really love my DH. He’s a great man, husband, father, lover whatever.

He’s also well aware that if Chris Hemsworth and his thighs of Thor rock up at our house and offer me some login’, I’m kicking him out sooner than one can say ‘hakuna matata’. In reverse, I’m getting booted for Natalie Portman.

All joking aside, surely, we all harmlessly find other people/celebrities attractive, without a hidden agenda or actual plan of adultery? Just some people are attractive and easy to look at?

I wouldn’t overthink it. Explain you were hurt, but that maybe you’ll chill it with the hobbit things.

Bad example.

Tauriel was made up by Peter Jackson for the film and isn't a Tolkien character for purists...

He's clearly a Golem, not an Aragorn

Just start taking the piss and calling him Golem

Actually hate myself a little bit for being that person but you know people legit can have dwarfism and it’s not really nice for people to refer to them in a negative piss takey way. Hobbits aren’t real though. Just thought I’d remind the thread and op of this

Meh just ignore it.

I love LOTR. It's my fav book. I'm definitely not an obsessive but I do love it.

I have nagged DS to death to read it now he's old enough. He was reluctant but he's currently half way through book one and I am victorious in my mission to make him a fan! (So it's on my radar ATM for a reason).

Wot? Tauriel and Kili, anyone...

Yeah he should be flattered by being called a dwarf when he could be called an orc with personal hygiene issues and bad manners.

Or she could call him Wormtongue, Boromir or go full on calling him Gollum.

What in the Mordor did I just read???

Have you not read any other threads?!?!

Absolutely agree with the above.
He's a dickhead OP. A total Saurman. And he thinks he's it.

HE is the LOTR obsessive
He gave you the pet name. And made it known to his LOTR friends.
He's overwhelmed by his mates new GF and tells everyone she's his type -in your hearing - when you are very different
Then when you question this, instead of apologising, he rounds on with what I consider to be the absolute worst thing he did.. the mean girl comment that you made Hobbit your whole personality.... Completely out of order, mean and patronising to say that... I think its bloody outrageous and I'd be fuming, and ironically he says this having himself just been ogling some girl and comparing her to an elf at a party of his friends who are all LOTR obsessives too. He's the one who has made this fantasy world his whole personality, not you.. and its something that is more common amongst teenagers (I know several) than adults.

What a self important pompous hypocrite.
I'm betting you've only gone along with all this LOTR stuff to take an interest in his interests. Now he has the cheek to not be speaking to you.

OP - If I was you, I'd never let him call me Hobbit again, there's something so patronising about it. He's doing the same with the mates GF.. calling her an elf. That would give me the ick. And if he wants to be patronising etc... well he's opened a can of worms now hasn't he as he's left himself open to many comments - many of which are already on this thread.

But if he doesn't see how hurtful he's been and apologise profusely.. you may have to rethink if you want to be treated like this in future. What a manchild.

Ps.. just to mention that my DC was given a poster of Aragorn at their birthday party and all the mums there were asking if they could have it. 😂

oh dear...

I trust you enjoyed this recent programme? https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0029kth

Loved the graphic design/typography lady particularly.

This thread has made me feel sad about mumsnet for the first time in a long time. People being snooty about someone else’s interest and way of being, for absolutely no reason. It’s mean and narrow minded. Stop it. the playground was a while ago……

I’m a nerd. I like LOTR. A lot. But I don’t have genre pet names which I overly invest myself in to point it becomes my identity and I take offence when someone makes a nerd joke. I would have made the same joke.
I suggest OP uses this opportunity to assess whether her interest is turning into something unhealthy.

Exactly - but she says in their relationship she’s characterised as a Hobbit and he as a Dwarf (because she said he’s short too).

I mean, she could go and revenge cheat on him with an Orc, but it could backfire if she discovers he’s into cuckolding 😂

Sorry is the script for yet another geek inspired sitcom? Grown men likening their partners to characters from a book/film? And having conversations about that? I think the world has finally gone mad. Next you'll be telling me the answer to life, the universe and everything is 42 (I bet most of you are way too young to get that reference)