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Would this be acceptable in your workplace?

187 replies

olderbutwiser · 06/05/2025 14:43

I’ve started to receive out of office emails saying “I am out of office until xxx. Please resend your email after that date”.

I may be a dinosaur, but to me it’s unacceptable to put the onus on the sender to resend their email on some random future date. Clearing piled-up emails when I get back to the office is just one of those things you have to factor into your working life.

Votes please:

Perfectly acceptable nowadays, you’re a dinosaur —> You Are Being Unreasonable
It’s completely unacceptable, time for a Meeting Without Coffee —> You Are Not Being Unreasonable

OP posts:
Neemie · 06/05/2025 18:29

It sounds like the kind of thing you would do if thought you were 100% secure in your job and someone else provided the clients.

whitewineandsun · 06/05/2025 18:28

MargaretThursday · 06/05/2025 18:13

If I got that response I'd just reschedule the email to send on the date they were back. Surely that's what most people would do?

Exactly. It's not a huge deal.

JeannieJo · 06/05/2025 18:28

Happens all the time in my workplace. Sign of laziness if you ask me. I would never waste my time to have to plan and resend after their holiday

whitewineandsun · 06/05/2025 18:27

Cloudysky81 · 06/05/2025 15:25

I do this.

It hugely speeds up working through the email backlog when returning from holiday.

It also highlights how the vast majority of work emails I receive are completely pointless.

It also highlights how the vast majority of work emails I receive are completely pointless.

Agree. I think it's fine.

angelcake20 · 06/05/2025 18:25

My DH and many of his colleagues do this. I’m not sure I approve but they would have literally hundreds of emails to look through after a week’s holiday otherwise. Their large organisation sends a huge amount of info that he reads little of anyway.

SwanOfThoseThings · 06/05/2025 18:20

Emmz1510 · 06/05/2025 17:46

I don’t understand. If I’m off and senders get an out of office from me, the email still arrives and I can still see it on my return. I thought that’s how these things always worked? Why would someone need to resend it? So it doesn’t get missed in the pile of unread emails when you return cos it’s nearer the top of the pile? My out of office advises who to contact in my absence in the case of emergency. There’s no request for an email to be resent!

The idea is that people bulk delete emails received in their absence when they get back from leave.

Ultravox · 06/05/2025 18:19

Don’t think my work would like it but it’s inspired!

ClareBlue · 06/05/2025 18:17

LandSharksAnonymous · 06/05/2025 17:40

I think it’s very easy to say that, if you don’t get many emails. I average easily 500 a day. Last time I took two weeks off, I came back to 4.5K emails.

No way am I reading them all when I come back and no way am I searching for the relevant emails, if only because I have actual work to do and reading emails that are no longer relevant isn’t at the top of my list. They get mass moved into a separate folder, I read my handover note where one of my Deputy’s gives me a heads up on anything I need to action and I’ll search for those emails, and anything else never gets read.

If your email is urgent, it’ll be actioned in that persons absence by using the OOO provided or going to an alternative contact in their team…

So I disagree that ‘clearing piled up emails’ is one of those things.

Edited

So are you dealing with 500 a day when you are not on leave. It seems people want to get on with their real work when returning from leave and delete all emails, but when not on leave accept and deal with the volume.

JDM625 · 06/05/2025 18:17

ELMhouse · 06/05/2025 18:14

It’s really easy it’s just one button. 🙂

Thank you. I'm clearly not techy savvy but will have a look at how to do it tomorrow when I log in.

Hamandpineapplepizza · 06/05/2025 18:15

Yanbu. It's wildly unreasonable and unprofessional to expect people to re-send their emails

ELMhouse · 06/05/2025 18:14

JDM625 · 06/05/2025 18:09

I've only seen it a few times at my work and find it rude. I'd then have to work out how to schedule my email to send the required time. 🤔

I equally can't stand 'I'm on leave, please email [email protected]' and then he has an OOO saying 'I'm on leave, please email [email protected]' and it goes on and on! 🙄

It’s really easy it’s just one button. 🙂

Someone2025 · 06/05/2025 18:14

CombatBarbie · 06/05/2025 14:54

Very common practise in alot of workplaces.

I work with an awful lot of consultants and clients and have never seen it,

MargaretThursday · 06/05/2025 18:13

If I got that response I'd just reschedule the email to send on the date they were back. Surely that's what most people would do?

mumda · 06/05/2025 18:11

yeesh · 06/05/2025 14:47

Can’t you just send it to be delivered after the return date?

That's what I'd do.
I schedule emails all the time for people. Saves overloading Monday mornings email work.

ELMhouse · 06/05/2025 18:09

I think it’s a good idea. In organisations where it is an internal OOO message only.

the sender can just set to schedule when the person is back in the office. TBH I do this if I get an OOO anyway from someone so my email pops up on the day of their return.

it is so much easier for the person retuning from AL rather than go back a week or two and check through all unread messages.

JDM625 · 06/05/2025 18:09

I've only seen it a few times at my work and find it rude. I'd then have to work out how to schedule my email to send the required time. 🤔

I equally can't stand 'I'm on leave, please email [email protected]' and then he has an OOO saying 'I'm on leave, please email [email protected]' and it goes on and on! 🙄

ELMhouse · 06/05/2025 18:02

Worriedsickmostofthetime · 06/05/2025 15:46

Excuse me ignorance… how do you do that? In outlook? Would be so useful.

Yes you can schedule emails in outlook. I do it often if I’m working late and don’t want someone to think they need to reply to me at all hours just because I’m working later, so I schedule to send at 9am

KimberleyClark · 06/05/2025 17:58

Would not have been acceptable at my last place. We had to put “if your query is urgent please contact x on tel no y or z on tel no abc. Otherwise emails will be read on my return.”

Charlize43 · 06/05/2025 17:55

Setting your Out of Office message to Deceased, will really help stop your emails from building up. Also it is fair to say that none of the people who emailed you will be expecting a reply when you get back from holiday, so that can also be a huge life saver.

If they catch up with you blame it on a typo, or tell them that your account was hacked by a disgruntled coworker.

Mrsttcno1 · 06/05/2025 17:54

I don’t do it and haven’t seen in used much where I work but I can absolutely see the use. The amount of times I’ve come back from leave and spent a day replying to emails only to get response saying it’s actually been dealt with elsewhere is such a waste of time

90yomakeuproom · 06/05/2025 17:53

Not acceptable where I work but I get why people may do it.

Tillow4ever · 06/05/2025 17:51

Meadowfinch · 06/05/2025 14:55

I can't think of a surer way to drive an enquiry away.

So if you are public sector and not reliant on making a profit to earn your pay, then it is ill mannered but not a disaster.

If you are a commercial organisation, it is tantamount to signing your own redundancy notice.

You do know most companies have a way of letting you do different emails for internal vs external? I would only expect to see that sort of thing on an internal email purely as a way of making sure the request still needs a response. The amount of times I’ve come back to emails and spent ages going through them to find maybe 75% of them had been passed on to someone else, if I had the balls to put that as a message on I bet it would save me loads of time!

BobbyBiscuits · 06/05/2025 17:51

It implies they won't clear their inbox from what's happened while they're away.
Which to me seems a bit blunt. A simple Ooo stating your not there and when you'll be back should suffice. Or if there's a colleague who can take messages but not necessarily do your work you could leave their details with consent.

But the outcome is the same, in that you know they're not there. At least you know where you stand.

Iheartmysmart · 06/05/2025 17:50

It would be fine where I work. We’re all based remotely over several different time zones so we always schedule our messages to be sent when it’s convenient for the recipient. It’s quite easy to set up a scheduled time and date for an email.

If we’re out of the office for any length of time then we are encouraged to ask people to contact us on our return and give an alternative contact if appropriate.

However we all work independently on different projects so nobody needs to cover our workload while we’re off, anything that comes in will get allocated to someone who is available.

ParkHse86 · 06/05/2025 17:49

I voted YANBU.

I had a customer ask me once to not email him whilst he was on leave. The issue was he was copied into, and was the main contact for literally everything, so he'd get daily reports, automated worksheets from our system etc. I did it once but as soon as he came back I said he'd have to make other provisions next time because it was a massive pain!

It's up to them to manage their emails / out office time. I'm not going to stop doing my work / following agreed processes just because someone wants to not get emails.