To wish someone had acknowledged our anniversary?

Had no idea we were meant to acknowledge peoples anniversaries.

i am now wondering who I might have pissed off

its only important to you

It wouldn’t really occur to me to mark friends’ anniversaries, unless they’ve actively arranged a party to celebrate all together - and if they haven’t, I’d then assume they’re not that fussed about having other people acknowledge it. It’s sweet of you to make a big thing of it for others, but I don’t think other couples’ anniversaries are universally seen as something that outsiders are expected to get involved in.

I have no idea what date my friends got married. Not even my family! Anniversaries are surely just for you two? Unless you’re in a thruple?

I would expect your parents to remember. Everyone else, no. Honestly, I couldn’t tell you a single anniversary of anyone I know. But certainly, I think I’d remember my children’s. I don’t think we’ve ever received a card or a gift (we don’t get each other a card or a gift!), but our parents would have likely messaged to say happy anniversary the first year or so. They don’t anymore, but it’s been 17 years so they might not remember when it is now. 😂

I know it means a lot to you, but people have their own lives and worries.

We all prioritise different things. I don’t think I’ve ever said happy anniversary to anyone. I’ve got so many of my own problems, I can’t remember when someone else got married. Christ, I have to think about when I got married, anniversaries of my own don’t mean anything to me, let alone other people’s.

I’m sorry you feel hurt, and you sound like you care a lot about others to remember when they got married, but in reality, no one really cares but you. You never know what worries other people have, they might not have room to think about your anniversary.

The only reason I'm aware of someone's anniversary is Facebook memories. I wished a good friend happy 1st anniversary as she'd had an awful previous marriage, and after a lot of hardship, met her now husband, so I was delighted for her.

Other than that, I don't think I've ever wishes anyone happy anniversary, except for my husband!

last year no one in DH family remembered our anniversary so at 9pm he sent a photo of two glasses of wine and message happy anniversary to us. Slightly passive aggressive but if we didn’t acknowledge other immediate family members anniversary they would certainly let us know.

in all honesty I couldn’t care less if they remembered or not but the double standards are frustrating

I can’t even remember what I was doing this time last week never mind this time a year ago. The date may be forever ingrained in your mind, but it won’t be for other people.

Tbh I don't really think I'd remember anyone's elses first anniversary, I barely remember my own! Don't take it to heart.