To wish someone had acknowledged our anniversary?

I'd think your parents would remember at the very least!!

I barely remember my own. People have bigger stuff to think about OP

We’re very much a functioning family. I would have forgotten our daughter’s if she hadn’t mentioned it was coming up.

Really? In a functioning family? I don't remember my own anniversary date let alone anyone else's. Certainly don't expect my parents to remember if I don't. (I have to work it out - so it was X day on the bank holiday weekend in x years Google what date that was).
The only one I remember sometimes is my parents because it's also mums birthday.
Pretty sure our family functions fine.

I’m always surprised when my mum sends a card. For my first anniversary we had cards from my mum and my grandparents. I was a bit sad this year on our anniversary because it was just my mum but more of a reflection that my grandparents are now gone than not getting a card.

Do these people expect you to do anniversary messages for them? My mum was always expected to send her parents card for their anniversary and I think it’s been drummed into her to do this, which is why she does it for us. If you are expected to do this, then yes it’s shitty for them to not reciprocate. Simply stop doing it and if someone comments respond with they missed your anniversary and so you thought we weren’t acknowledging anniversaries anymore. If you remembering people’s anniversaries off your own back, it’s unfair to expect people to respond with the same level. It doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t care, you would need to look at their whole behaviour pattern to understand that. You can either stop remembering for other people or if you genuinely enjoy sending happy anniversary messages, then do it because you enjoy it not because you expect it to be reciprocated.

I wouldn’t remember anyone’s wedding anniversary except for my parents (there was a thread about parents’ ones, very divided responses!).

If I saw a SM post - perhaps a couple of prev unseen pics of the day, I’d probably comment my congratulations but other than that…

I would certainly expect your parents to acknowledge and give you a present and card for your first anniversary. My son has been married for 2 years, on both anniversaries I gave a card and some money for them to have a night away and a nice meal out, plus a small present relevant to paper, cotton etc. I imagine I'll carry on doing that. It would be nice if other family had texted you but not to be expected.
With my own friends and other family I've only acknowledged their anniversaries( even if I went to their wedding) if they were having a party and/or it was silver, ruby etc.

I would expect parents in a functioning family to remember their offspring’s first wedding anniversary but no one else.

I probably would have posted something in the family group chat with a photo saying ‘Remembering this wonderful day a year ago!’ if I were you rather than stew over it.

Don't take it to heart. It's not that no one cares its just that you are only the main character in your life, no one else's.

The anniversary of the day two people got married is of no interest or significance to anyone other than the two. I’ve never wished anyone happy anniversary unless I’ve been invited to a celebration for the big number years.

Hardly anyone remembers, ever. Don't take it personally.

I think it's a nice thing for family or perhaps members of the wedding party to send a message at the one year mark... but I don't actually think it's necessary and certainly, after that, whenI get the occasional "happy anniversary" message I'm always bemused. So while I have sympathy for how you feel, I think you have to let this one go.

I’m always surprised when every year one of my friends remembers our anniversary. I forget every year 🙈 I think you’re being too self involved here.

Our daughter reminded me when theirs was coming up. Would have completely forgotten if she hadn’t even though I catered her wedding and we hosted it at our house. Went by in a flash.

Then again, I often forget our own.

I have a friend who sends us an anniversary card every year, probably because she met her husband at our wedding. I find other people bothering to remember the date a bit weird though!

Some people do like to make a fuss though. PIL expect an anniversary card each year. If dh didn’t send one (he didn’t one year when dd was in hospital), there is hell to pay. But they are the sort of people who expect cards for every occasion, even Easter and they aren’t even religious. I steer well clear of that situation.

I’ve never sent anyone, including my siblings, anything for thier wedding anniversary, and have never received anything from anyone either. The only reason we acknowledge it ourselves is because we are often on holiday.

I can’t even remember the dates of any friends weddings - if they put something on Socials, I might put a love heart on .. but that’s the sum total of effort

”congratulations you’ve not got Divorced” seems a bit odd.

Im sorry you’re being unreasonable.

my brother was furious when I didn’t wish him a happy anniversary for his first year. It’s nothing to do with me and no I’m not going to remember.

five years later nobody wished me a happy first anniversary apart from Dh. Including my brother

YABU, I don’t know anybody who actively celebrates anniversaries unless they are milestone. 1 year goes so fast, it probably felt like yesterday and isn’t really an achievement IMO.

I always think it’s weird when I get a card from my parents or in laws for my wedding anniversary. Like, what’s it to do with them!

For a first anniversary, that's bad. If I'm invited to a wedding, I automatically put the date in the calendar for the next year and would make the effort to send a card. After that, probably just a text or a FB message.

Your wedding anniversary is only important to you and your husband. I’d expect your parents to remember it not necessarily make a big fuss.

Facebook memories is the only way I know people's important dates. Was your wedding on FB? Are you on FB?

Saying that as I'm not now..

YABU. No one cares

I wouldn't expect anyone to acknowledge our anniversary at all. I only acknowledge anyone else's if it's a big one and they're having some kind of celebration. YABU.