To wish someone had acknowledged our anniversary?

My Mum sends a card - MIL gives us some money which is lovely less nice is her need to then try and spend whole evening on the phone to DH.

I'm always suprised they bother - though they do with IL and did with parents - Dad died - to remember theirs. Wasn't expecting our kids to bother - we don't do much with it either.

This... at least for family and a first anniversary.

I also don't think it's really a thing to acknowledge other people's anniversaries, just your own.

I don’t remember people’s anniversaries unless it’s a big one 25 years plus. Even then I would only remember if I had been invited to a celebration. IMO it’s really something for the couple themselves to celebrate/remember.

The only people who know our anniversary are our two witnesses!

But for some of us celebrating someone else's anniversary is just weird. So it's not just not taking the time, I would actively not send someone else a message and was quite confused by the one card I received from one friend on our first anniversary.

Most people won't remember.
Most people won't care.
Your children will feel obligated to send cards and buy gifts if you make enough fuss of it yourself.

I only remember two wedding anniversaries (other than my own) - one on May the 4th. (Star Wars fan) and the other was on my dad's birthday.

My Dad was the only person who sent us anniversary cards.

He died last year and without his card as a reminder my husband and I completely forgot our anniversary this year. 😳

We don't get messages on our anniversary unless we post about it on fb in which case people just write "happy anniversary" if we didn't post it though I doubt anyone would remember it was our anniversary because it was our special day not theirs, I don't remember anyone else's either so don't take it to heart, it's our 10 year anniversary this year so we will likely make a song and a dance about it to each other but I don't expect anyone else to as its personal to us and I doubt anyone else cares lol

Only you and your husband with remember your anniversary.

Yes is this a thing? I have never done this other than when I’ve been invited to an event like a silver wedding celebration

Hmm. My mother has sent a card for the last 33 years, usually with a tenner for a bottle of wine. MIL hasn't.

Equally my mother EXPECTS a card on her anniversary with step. I didn't even go to the wedding and it's a pass ag pita but I do it otherwise she comments.

I haven't sent one to DS and DIL.

DH and I forgot our 2nd. We both remembered when we got home from work and got out the orwvious year's cards and signed them. We have now done that for 33 years. We treated ourselves to new cards for our silver wedding :). Have saved a "fortune".

@JustAMum31 it's a non issue.

Nobody lives a life that can not spare less than 20 seconds to text a good will message. It's an excuse trotted out time and time again and it's just not true.

No-one has ever acknowledged ours either, not even my mother, which after all the tantrums she had about having the wedding her way, did surprise me a bit.

It's alright, OP. It's okay to feel a bit disappointed but honestly this is normal.

Literally half the posts have said they don't care and it's nothing to do with them.
But it's obviously important to OP so why hasn't anybody realised that. That's what actually matters, not rationalising it out as to why you can not spend 18 seconds of your life sending a text to someone who would love to receive a text, because it's nothing to do with you. But being thoughtful is such an old fashioned place to be in our busy busy lives.

Thinking about it more... if it's the first wedding anniversary, is it a bit of post-wedding blues as you're not going to have that big day being fussed over again?

Every year Google photos reminds me I was at my friend's wedding, so I drop her a message.
I've also saved my siblings' in my calendar, so wish them Happy Anniversary when the reminder pops up.

It's not you that's self-absorbed, @JustAMum31 .

Well I'm in the minority because I would remember a first anniversary of a family member and a close friend. Not necessarily a card but certainly a message.
This is going the same way as birthdays on here in that you can't possibly expect anyone else to notice.
But there's loads of anniversary cards in the shops so someone must buy them. Or they wouldn't make them. None of those buyers must be on mumsnet clearly.

Yanbu, my mum used to buy us a present every year to represent what year it was. Just funny things. Paper we got a 12 pack of toilet rolls etc. My inlaws sent us cards. My dad and his partner used to get us a card and small gift for the first few years. My inlaws lifelong friends even sent us a card the first year. It's nice to be nice.

YABU.

This date is special for you because it’s your anniversary.

People live busy enough lives and have enough going on, you can’t give people a hard time for not messaging about your wedding anniversary.

I thought it was really fricking weird when my in laws sent us an anniversary card tbh.

My mother always makes a fuss about our anniversaries (I'm one of four siblings) and we all find it a bit weird and annoying. She is controlling at the best of times and it just feels as though she is trying to insert herself into what ought to be a private celebration for the couple.

It's really not a regular thing to wish others a happy anniversary. I can honestly say I've never done it and don't think anyone has cared.

I honestly didn’t know that was even a thing.

I don't know anyone's anniversary, even the people whose weddings I attended.

I barely know the birthdays for my immediate family.

I have been known to celebrate very good friends' birthdays several months late (including milestone birthdays) as I have plain forgotten.

Mind you, I do have ADHD, so that explains why I don't remember things like this.