To wish someone had acknowledged our anniversary?

It's one of those annual events that doesn't necessarily mean anything to those immediately concerned, let alone anyone else. Whether it's observed at all is very much a matter of personal/family tradition.

I've said "Happy Anniversary" to family members and friends when they've told me it's their anniversary, but I never make a note of these dates myself.

I didn’t know that this was a thing. I have never known anyone to do it.

I remember one of my good friend's anniversary, but that's only because it's on my Mum's birthday. I just don't see it as a big deal for anyone but the couple themselves.

Yeah I’m afraid nobody cares when your anniversary is, it’s more for the two of you anyway.

Obviously there’s family stuff going on that highlights unfairness for you, which I totally get, but use this to redress the balance.

I mean this in the nicest possible way - but no one cares.

People are too wrapped up in their own lives, their jobs, their families, their kids to even realise it’s someone else’s wedding anniversary.

You and your H just enjoy the day and don’t think too much about other people. The world keeps turning.

DH & I didn’t even remember our own 1 year anniversary nevermind anyone else’s. To be fair he did have an accident around that time so there was other stuff going on, but we don’t really bother with anniversaries much.
I wouldn’t worry about it, just be glad you are in a happy stable marriage.

Personally if I've attended a wedding I always send an anniversary card each year - if still in touch and they are still together!

I would say 1 or 2 people send DH & I one.

I'd be disappointed on my 1st anniversary but wouldn't bother me so much in the following years. As long as my DH remembers!

Honestly no one cares. I barely acknowledge my own

I would certainly expect both sets of parents and siblings (depending on closeness) to message. I would also have been talking about anniversary plans to my mom, so they would be aware. But other people, friends? No expectation at all.

For your first one only, family should acknowledge it. I always do and its been done for me

I would take this as a reset OP

Now you have your own personal wedding anniversary, that trumps, for you everyone else's.

So you can stop wishing others happy anniversary and if they ask you can tell them. "Where was my happy anniversary?"

It saves you a ton of remembering.

Like most people on this thread, I have no idea when anyone else got married and I definitely don't expect them to know when I did either.

My mother used to expect/force me and my brother to buy them gifts for their anniversary each year (using our pocket money) which was weird as hell. Please don't become that parent!

I forgot my own wedding anniversary this weekend

Don't take it personally, the only people who send us a card/message is my parents and only because they are fastidious about writing dates on their calendar every year. I can barely remember birthdays let alone any other dates.

Happy anniversary from me 🥂

@JustAMum31 See I don't think you're being unreasonable. If people weren't supposed to remember anniversaries, then why would 'Happy Anniversary' cards exist?
Somebody else may have said the same, I haven't read the whole thread.
We've managed 18 anniversaries. Inlaws are terrible, no acknowledgement from them but my parents always send a card, my sister texts and one couple always do a Facebook post. We had about 10 people at our wedding though.
I would feel pretty sad too so have absolutely no messages or references to a wedding only a year ago.
I hope you & the other half had a nice weekend celebrating 🍾 😊

I don’t even remember my own! My mother in law some years has sent a card and I found it super lovely but it wasn’t necessary at all. It’s different for everyone but I think birthdays are the thing you really have to remember 🥰

Gosh, some of the comments here are from… clearly… very happily married people who are just full of sunshine and rainbows aren’t they. 🤦‍♀️😂

I think in general maybe due to social media is the tradition of noticing other people's lives is decreasing. My mum and a lot of her friends send huge networks of cards at Christmas, a fair few at Easter, extended family birthdays , bereavements and wedd8ng anniversary's- at least the big ones. I think in many ways it's a tradition that helps knit connections especially where you don't live near someone anymore. So yes it's a bit sad and it is lovely to do for many people

I hardly remember my wedding anniversary let alone anyone else’s.

I am 55 and I have never once acknowledged anyone's anniversaries. I don't even know when mine is.

An anniversary is a private celebration between you and the person you share that anniversary with, unless you chose to celebrate an "impessive" milestone such as 50 years married. But its not something for other people to be involved in. I find this kind of thing incredibly weird, no one else really cares, even at 50 years no one else cares, its just a party to attend.

I'm the odd one out here.
I have the date of every wedding we've been to in our planner & I do my best to text the bride or groom (whoever I'm most friendly with) each year.

I'm wondering now who thinks I'm a weirdo for texting 🤣

Exactly, years ago when people were on Facebook it may have come up as a reminder but not many people check Facebook regularly these days