To wish someone had acknowledged our anniversary?

Family by the sounds of it. It seems for the OP, reading her updates, it’s less so about the expectation of people to celebrate and more so the injustice that they are quite strictly expected to mark family members’ anniversaries but they haven’t received the same in return.

Relationships would be much better if people stopped expecting other people to think or do the same as they do and getting upset when they don't.

You might want to think about quietly dropping that or slowly fading it out then - there may be some grumbles at first but it may not be as much as you think.

I wasn't fussed about mother's day but both GM started making it a big deal for them when I had very young kids - and MIL got nasty one year about a gift from shop that wasn't all there with us - so we stepped right back - nothing really happen.

Though by then our DC were making things with groups or schools so I got something which was lovely and sort helped me get over the resentment that had oddly built up in me.

We didn't get any external acknowledgement of our 25th Wedding Anniversary! (Unless you count FB comments on the pictures I posted).

Wedding Anniversaries are about the couple these days. I don't think others really acknowledge them anymore.

Yabu.

Who expects you too?

Jeesus

If I was married my mum would give me an anniversary card as she does for my brother. Beyond that, I doubt friends remember dates of anniversaries. My friend will post on social media some photos and wish her husband happy anniversary so then people will wish them the same. Otherwise i’d have no clue when it was, apart from knowing it was May sometime.

I don't think I remember anyone's anniversaries except for my parents' because I make a smartshow 3d video with their photos every year. Yes, acknowledge the day would be a nice thing to do, but most people don't really care about it and only learn about the anniversary from your posts or stories.
It's nice of you to send out messages, but I'd just let it go tbh. It doesn't reflect the way your relationships with friends and acquaitances.

Awh man, get a grip! No one cares about other people's anniversaries, nor should be expected to remember.

The date is a big deal to you, not others.

Then you just have to not think about their anniversaries and if they say something you look dumbfounded and say "I thought we didn't do those since you didn't say anything on ours'".

I forget ours EVERY year. DH is keen dates so he never forgets. I do remember close family's birthdays but not friends'.

As the old adage goes, "no one is thinking about you half as much as you are thinking about you."

TBH, your parents and siblings should have remembered and perhaps said something, but everyone else? Nah.

Time to take a step back OP from the takers.
Match their energy from now on.
It's extremely freeing.
Happy anniversary.

Anniversaries are for the people involved. And weddings are a strange type of anniversary, as they only involve two people and no one knows if the relationship is happy, rocky, or if the people involved have remembered, so no one wants to show people up.

I was in my 20s and both my parents were dead before I knew the date they got married. Had to find out for the estate. I’ve forgotten again now. I remember their dates of death and sometimes think about those anniversaries.

No one has ever said anything about any anniversary I’ve ever had apart from the anniversary of my birth - so it’s an odd one as where do you stop with all the ‘this time last year’s

It's not about celebrating their anniversary. It's about acknowledgement of a milestone in their life that's important to them. In this case the OP has made it pretty clear to her friends and family that it's something that they see as important and appropriate because they do it for others. Knowing this as their friend or family, is it such a big deal in life to send a message say well done on the first year. This time last year you were giving that lovely speech. Took me 9 seconds yo write that.

Some people actually do care. They like seeing people happy and they do recognise other people's milestones and will acknowledge them. This 'nobody cares about anything or anyone that isn't themselves' just isn't true. Plenty of people genuinely care about other people.

I have one to post today, it was always a tradition growing up, that if you went to the wedding you send a first anniversary card. Lets the couple know you remember their day fondly. Cheers them up after the "honeymoon period" I guess.

To be honest we quite often forget our own, it’s become a thing where we see who remembers first in an “oh crap we’ve forgotten again” kind of way. 40 years in a few weeks! We’ve decided it really doesn’t actually matter after all this time, the rest of the year is equally important!

Some people do send anniversary cards - but most card shops will stock only a small handful of anniversary cards in comparison with dozens of cards for e.g. birthdays, which indicates that the market is a lot smaller and most people aren’t sending anniversary cards on an annual basis to all their friends and family in relationships.

There are also cards congratulating on new jobs - but most people don’t send them every time somebody they know gets a new job.

Probably just spouses...
How do you even have the time and head space to deal with all those anniversaries on top of birthdays/Christmas/weddings/christenings. Does a week go by without you sending a card for something?

You?

For you they’re special.

I send family anniversary cards - parents, siblings, nieces and nephews. They all send to us and each other too.

I know on here posters always say they don't send cards but, if that is true, who exactly is buying all the cards in the shops?

We don't celebrate our own, let alone anybody else's!

I know when my sister's is and have historically always got her a card (it's the day before her birthday so hard to forget, they just go together when I am in card buying mode). She in return always gets me a card, so that's how I know it's mine 🤣.

BIL is currently on his third marriage, he got married abroad this time, then had a party here a few weeks later, but I have no clue what the actual marriage date was.

I have no idea when any friend's anniversaries are, even the ones I went to. Not a clue.