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Stepdaughter and partner moving in with us

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Charalf · 05/05/2025 22:19

My 23 year old step daughter has lived with us for the last 9 years

Her partner currently lives the other end of the country, and they are expecting there first child. We have said he can move in with us for the next year or 2. Rent free as long as they save for a house deposit.

We will need to give up our room for them and relocate to the living room as her box room won't be large enough.

I want to put some ground rules in places but unsure what. They will be doing there own shopping each week.

Am I being unreasonable to ask they show us statements regulary they are saving?

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MadeleineAllbright · 05/05/2025 22:22

Yes, YABU. That’s overly controlling, and an invasion of their privacy. They are adults, and regardless of their living situation, deserve to be treated as adults.

It’s absolutely fine to give them a hard deadline of two years to move out together, but you cannot monitor their finances. You either trust them and want them there or you don’t.

Mollypolly2610 · 05/05/2025 22:21

Good luck you will need it!!

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