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To have made a Sarah’s Law request? **Trigger warning: contains discussion of child abuse and other content that some may find disturbing**

179 replies

nyki · 05/05/2025 18:09

More of an “have I overreacted” more than a “have I been unreasonable”.

Someone has made some strange remarks around my child. I’m not in a relationship with this person before anyone jumps on me, and they don’t have any access to my child anymore.

Remarks have been talking about rape, talking about my child’s “itty bitty cl*torous”, her “boobs” (she doesn’t have any, she’s a toddler). Bouncing her up and down “she likes that, like her mum” with a sexual overtone. There have been others similar, remarking on body/private parts in a sexual way. Family member hence why they were present at times when child being changed etc for context.

This person has already been confronted and would say that I can’t take a joke, my child doesn’t understand and thinks it’s funny basically. Hence why they aren’t around my child anymore.

So I’ve done a Sarah’s law application on advice of NSPCC. I’ve never been in this position before. It’s it an overreaction? With the type of job this person is in, I really doubt they have any offences against children, so I think it will come back with nothing.

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ninjahamster · 05/05/2025 18:13

Ugh no, those comments are awful. Nothing remotely humorous about them.

WhereIsMyJumper · 05/05/2025 18:12

That made me feel sick to even read OP. Not an over reaction

Anon517 · 05/05/2025 18:12

No overreaction I think I have a pretty dark sense of humour but even that for me is too much. Who would joke about those kind of things with a toddler or any child for that matter 🤮 worrying that they are in a job which makes u assume they must have a clean record, hope thy don’t have easy access to vulnerable children or adults.

MinistryOfTragic · 05/05/2025 18:11

Absolutely not an overreaction. Those are hugely disturbing comments.

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