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To not want to 'celebrate' VE

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Ramblethroughthebrambles · 05/05/2025 17:33

I've been asked to take part in VE celebrations this week. I've politely declined. It feels OK to me to join in a solemn commemoration, with a focus on how to make sure this never happens again, but not a celebration of victory which all the UK events seem to be. I'm grateful for the sacrifices so many soldiers and others made and that we didn't become part of the Nazi empire. I completely get why people originally celebrated the end of such an awful war and its hardships. But celebrating military victory 80 years on doesn't sit right with me, especially given the conflicts in the world today. It seems to normalise military intervention and sends the message that military victory is a 'good thing' when often it's a result of failures in international diplomacy/ strategy / long term thinking. I'm not a complete pacifist and recognise there are times when military intervention is a necessary evil. But that doesn't make me want to celebrate it.

I never hear anyone else expressing this view in public. There seems to be an expectation that we'll all want to get the bunting out and have a tea party. So AIBU?

OP posts:
Feelingmuchbetter · 05/05/2025 19:28

Kirova · 05/05/2025 19:24

I'd prefer it to be called Peace in Europe Day or something - since that's what is after all being celebrated. "Victory" sounds a bit jingoistic, like "ya sucks we beat the Hun".

Peace didn’t happen by accident and most of ‘Europe’ was under Nazi control for fucks sake!

JustCrackingThanks · 05/05/2025 19:27

BassesAreBest · 05/05/2025 17:44

VE Day doesn’t commemorate the end of WW2. Fighting was still going on for months after VE Day.

In Europe it ended but unfortunately Japan didn't surrender until August hence VJ day.

Toootss · 05/05/2025 19:26

6 million Jews were killed in the gas chambers by nazis and their workers.
I can’t believe that posters feel this was such a yawning boring event we should kick it into touch - British people deserve to be recognised for contributing to ending this horror

Kirova · 05/05/2025 19:24

I'd prefer it to be called Peace in Europe Day or something - since that's what is after all being celebrated. "Victory" sounds a bit jingoistic, like "ya sucks we beat the Hun".

Echobelly · 05/05/2025 19:22

TBF I'd forgotten it was happening today until I happened to arrive in central London just as the flyover was going on. So I don't feel under any pressure to celebrate it.

Feelingmuchbetter · 05/05/2025 19:21

If I worked with you op I would think a lot less of you as a person.

A person that is either too poorly educated to understand the war, or one that is so privileged and ignorant that they feel they can be disrespectful around such an important life changing time for our nation, remembering millions of fallen heroes and the blessing of peace.

MissyGirlie · 05/05/2025 19:20

Ponoka7 · 05/05/2025 19:18

What's so evil about Russians? It always puzzles me a bit. I know the west was terrified of Socialism and not having royalty, so the propaganda was intense.

This was a world wide event. The end of it was worth celebrating.

I think you should acquaint yourself with what Stalin got up to - the show trials of the 1930s, the Siberian labour camps and all of that.

It wasn't the Russians as such that were the issue, it was the Russian system.

MissyGirlie · 05/05/2025 19:19

Celebrating VE Day is fine - it marks the fall of the Nazis, and that is well worth marking well into the future.

But VJ Day was the end of the war, which a lot of people and organisations (the BBC included) often seem to forget. On VE Day this week I will be very aware that 80 years ago my grandmother and several other family members were still interned, cut off from the news, starving and sick. Many others were living under a really brutal occupation which had seen other family members killed or tortured. For them, liberation didn't come until several weeks after the surrender of Japan, when Allied troops finally arrived.

So like @BassesAreBest, VJ Day has much more resonance for me.

Ponoka7 · 05/05/2025 19:18

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/05/2025 17:55

I think commemoration is a better word to describe it.

Yes, they were extremely evil forces that were defeated and that is worthy of celebration. But many people died to bring that about.

We also live in a world where evil is on the rise again, and in many places never went away.

We understand now that in order to defeat the evil of the Nazis, we had to ally with an equal evil in the USSR. And their successors in russia today are as evil as ever the Nazis were, and are celebrating VE Day too. Personally I have no desire to give any impression of celebrating with those monsters in the Kremlin so personally I’ll stick to commemorating.

What's so evil about Russians? It always puzzles me a bit. I know the west was terrified of Socialism and not having royalty, so the propaganda was intense.

This was a world wide event. The end of it was worth celebrating.

IndigoViolent · 05/05/2025 19:18

You don’t need permission. Just don’t do it.

BadSkiingMum · 05/05/2025 19:17

I do feel increasingly conflicted around it all as I age.

I am beyond thankful that the Nazis and Japan were defeated.

But a lot of the talk about heroism (which there certainly was) elides the fact that men were compelled to serve. I believe the only alternative was prison?

I once saw my grandfather’s call-up papers and the box where it specifies the length of service just says: ‘For the duration’.

No discussion, no options, that was it.

In his final dementia he actually re-enacted that process of being called up, trying to make it up to London to visit the War Office. In the early 2000s. Thankfully the police brought him back home. But perhaps it shows how traumatic and powerful that memory was?

Dangermoo · 05/05/2025 19:17

Aizen · 05/05/2025 19:15

Sorry to say it, but it's one of the few things that the UK can "celebrate" these days, and that may be why there is so much jingoistic focus on it as a Victory.

Britain didn't win the war on its own though did it? I wonder how other Allied countries mark VE day. It appears to be quite low key, respectful and reverential elsewhere.

A visit to the Menin Gate in Ypres for the last post is just so fitting and reverential. Every night it's done.

And another to Dachau and Auschwitz together with the martyred village of Oradour sur Glane show the horrors, which are sometimes overshadowed by "celebrations" in Britain.

I say thanks to all who fought for our freedom. At the going down of the sun and in the morning, we will remember them.

Love this

Feelingmuchbetter · 05/05/2025 19:16

hairbearbunches · 05/05/2025 19:11

It's nothing but propaganda. We might have won the war, but we definitely lost the peace. Britain has been on a very long downward trajectory since then. But it doesn't matter because we still get to put our bunting up and pretend that things are fine and dandy.

War should be a last resort. We should commemorate the immense sacrifice, but celebrate? No! We've learned nothing from it though, so perhaps celebrations are only to be expected.

Sheila Hancock's piece in the Saturday Guardian is well worth reading.

That is a truly disgusting post. Do you know how many millions of people died to give you the freedom you have today??? You would be living under a dictatorship speaking German and most of your Jewish/mixed race/ other minorities friends and ancestors would be dead.

You have totally lost it on the woke cool aid, or have become so despicably complacent you can not fathom the great debt we owe to those that paid such a heavy price for us.

LookingForRecommendation · 05/05/2025 19:16

Just a long dressed up virtue signalling post about how forward thinking and anti-Colonialism etc you are

What even is there to discuss, you refused as is your right, end of

Aizen · 05/05/2025 19:15

Sorry to say it, but it's one of the few things that the UK can "celebrate" these days, and that may be why there is so much jingoistic focus on it as a Victory.

Britain didn't win the war on its own though did it? I wonder how other Allied countries mark VE day. It appears to be quite low key, respectful and reverential elsewhere.

A visit to the Menin Gate in Ypres for the last post is just so fitting and reverential. Every night it's done.

And another to Dachau and Auschwitz together with the martyred village of Oradour sur Glane show the horrors, which are sometimes overshadowed by "celebrations" in Britain.

I say thanks to all who fought for our freedom. At the going down of the sun and in the morning, we will remember them.

BassesAreBest · 05/05/2025 19:13

DrMonjo · 05/05/2025 19:04

I was heavily involved with VE50 in 1995! It was a very different tone. Many people in the their 70s & 80s talking for the first time about their war experiences. It balanced the joyful photos of Trafalgar Square. Lots of just went to work like normal at the canteen/hospital/war office/Bletchley Park type places.
Lots of remembrance that VJ was a long way off and that most people didn't necessarily know where or when people would return from overseas.
Lots of acknowledgement and fear about how Europe would be rebuilt and how to stop another world war happening again, rather than repeating the mistakes of WW1.
Each decade further away from any conflict just seems to simplify it and we get the rhetoric of the decade. I personally dislike 'hero' talk for conscripted men. They used to talk more humble, of duty, of doing the right thing, being traumatised or even youthful adventure and excitement. The hero word was never used and I don't think accurate to those I spoke to.

It’s all turned a lot more jingoistic since most of the people who had adult experience of it have died.

I commemorate VJ Day in preference to VE Day for personal reasons, which hasn’t become such a 1940s cosplay opportunity mainly because most people seem to forget VE Day wasn’t the end of WW2 so don’t bother remembering it.

PicaK · 05/05/2025 19:12

It celebrates that the war in Europe was over and victory was in sight. It celebrates the people who gave up their lives so that we didn't get overtaken by a fascist dictator.
As history seems to be about to repeat itself I think it's a good thing that they're teaching kids in school and we take pride.

hairbearbunches · 05/05/2025 19:11

It's nothing but propaganda. We might have won the war, but we definitely lost the peace. Britain has been on a very long downward trajectory since then. But it doesn't matter because we still get to put our bunting up and pretend that things are fine and dandy.

War should be a last resort. We should commemorate the immense sacrifice, but celebrate? No! We've learned nothing from it though, so perhaps celebrations are only to be expected.

Sheila Hancock's piece in the Saturday Guardian is well worth reading.

hobbledyhoy · 05/05/2025 19:11

It feels a bit mawkish, and to me it cheapens the sacrifices that those men and women made when you dress it up as some kind of festival.

I think commemorating is how it should be done but I think we need to spend our time looking forward as a country rather than looking backwards to relive the past.

Dangermoo · 05/05/2025 19:10

ThePunnyPeachDuck · 05/05/2025 19:06

Yes and majority of the country struggled with Covid lockdowns !

I couldn’t imagine what being bombed would be like

We don't know we are born TBF.

SabbatWheel · 05/05/2025 19:09

I agree OP.
I think after this commemoration it should be laid to rest. It was 80 years ago.
It’s like the Victorians celebrating Trafalgar Day which continued until after the First World War (and they had yet another grim conflict and massive loss of life to commemorate). Too much celebrating and not enough reflecting on why we keep ending up in huge messes like this every bloody century (and doing more to prevent it).

thepariscrimefiles · 05/05/2025 19:08

GetMeOutOfHere20 · 05/05/2025 19:05

It’d be a whole whole lot worse if the Nazis won

Exactly. A lot of us with Jewish parents and grandparents who lived through the war definitely wouldn't be here if the Nazis had won.

CurlewKate · 05/05/2025 19:07

I always found it telling that the veterans don’t want to celebrate-one on the news just now said as the camera moved away from him “And don’t start another one!

maggiesleapp · 05/05/2025 19:07

I have never heard of Remembrance Day being referred to as poppy day.

Where i live i am involved with local community groups as well as the RBL. We have came together (6 groups) to commemorate and celebrate VE day. On Thursday there will be wreath laying ceremony at the War memorial then on Saturday an event. At the event there will WWII memorabilia and information boards on local men who served during the war, some not returning home. We are priviliged to have veterans still alive and are looking forward to attending. Also at the event there will be some childrens entertainment relative to the 40s and a local singer with a swing time set. There will be tables set up street party style and we will feed everyone.
We often get together to organise events such as this and our older residents in particular are looking forward to attending especially those who were children during the war.
I understand for some they feel unconfortable with a celebration, we are trying our best to do both.

ThePunnyPeachDuck · 05/05/2025 19:06

BadAmbassador · 05/05/2025 19:04

I don’t see it at glorification of war, very far from it. More like remembering to remember the horror - and the huge sacrifices made by all kinds of people, not just those who fought but those who endured the hardships and privations. I think it matters to keep it in people’s minds, especially for each new generation. Looking at footage of the time, it’s just unthinkable, unimaginable stuff that people just dealt with every day for six years!

Yes and majority of the country struggled with Covid lockdowns !

I couldn’t imagine what being bombed would be like

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