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To hate women who make a big martyry song and dance about the housework

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Fragmentedbrain · 05/05/2025 11:44

Just read an article in the daily mail on this theme

One quoted woman says she'd rather live on a commune of women than with a man because there would be more sharing of "the domestic load"

Personally I would rather die than live with Neat Women in some dedicated to cleaning hellscape

If you want things to be tidy, tidy

Otherwise dont and shaddup about it

(I know this is possible because neither my husband nor I gaf about tidying and we have fun instead)

OP posts:
Lorlorlorikeet · 05/05/2025 13:13

“Fragmentedbrain” seems to be about right.

greengrapesofwrath · 05/05/2025 13:08

Oooh you’re so cool and quirky and not like other women, OP! You get a framed (gathers the dust quicker!)! ‘Cool Wife’ certificate.

Ratisshortforratthew · 05/05/2025 13:03

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 05/05/2025 11:50

But when it's the DH who makes 90% of the mess and refuses to clean it up or tidy it (or even see it) and you end up doing it all - what are you meant to do? Live in squalour, nag and yell to try to make him do something he's not going to?

I now live alone and I do housework when I want to, because any mess is made by me and therefore I don't resent clearing it up.

Sensible people, when it becomes apparent their male partner is a slovenly pig, don’t then go on to marry and have kids with them. I was once dating someone and it had only been about 4 months so obviously we were nowhere near living together. When he came round, though, he’d leave half-drunk coffee mugs all over my flat, wouldn’t put his plates in the sink, and when he walked muddy boots over my rug that was the last straw. I dumped him. Yes, men need to do better but women also have a choice whether to date/cohabit with/marry useless slobs. If you see the signs and shack up with them anyway, more fool you.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 05/05/2025 13:01

I can smell your house from here

Mistyglade · 05/05/2025 12:59

Personally I take pride in my home, that’s because it’s my home and I live in it. Bizarre post op.

UpsideDownChairs · 05/05/2025 12:58

I'd prefer to live with women too TBH, and my house-keeping standards are very low.

If I have visitors, the women take their mug to the sink (some even rinse it) - the men leave it where they last used it. They're just more thoughtful, I presume because they take responsibility for it at home too.

I'm trying to raise my sons to not be selfish jerks TBH - because living with their dad, I ended up picking up the brunt of it - even mess that he created all on his own. I don't think he ever cleaned a bathroom in his life (an issue when you also don't put the lid on the toothpaste and smear it around the sink along with the hair from shaving)

stealthninjamum · 05/05/2025 12:55

Op either doesn’t have kids or they’re sitting under a bridge with hairy hands.

latetothefisting · 05/05/2025 12:52

You're not like other girls, are you, OP?

MoominMai · 05/05/2025 12:46

@Fragmentedbrain how old are you? I can only hope you were drunk or some such when you typed your post.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 05/05/2025 12:28

Ah, here we have one of those magic families who need no clean clothes or food or toiletries. Fun feeds this family.

user65342 · 05/05/2025 12:24

Which is all well and good if both parties don’t care. However, my ex, and lots of men I believe, do care and will happily moan when things are not to their standards yet do fuck all to make those standards a reality. That is what women ‘moan’ about.

HarperStern · 05/05/2025 12:22

I have seen stupider posts tbf.

One of the saddest things I ever saw was an episode of Wife Swap where one of the women was utterly consumed with housework. I felt terribly sorry for her, until it became clear that she was taking her daughter (not her son) out of school to help her. At that point I became furious with the patriarchy instead. And that's what you should hate, rather than individual women struggling with the burden of millennia.

CeciliaMars · 05/05/2025 12:20

Domestic load is about way more than cleaning and tidying. It’s also all the washing, shopping, meal planning, cooking, helping with homework, organising events, buying presents, managing appointments, finances, tax, sometimes helping with elderly parents… I could go on. All of this has to be done else family life grinds to a halt. Women bear the brunt of this in most households, plus many work as much if not more than their husbands. Is it really unreasonable to want to evenly share that load more?

arethereanyleftatall · 05/05/2025 12:19

You ‘hate’ people who like being tidy?!?

that is seriously weird.

GCAcademic · 05/05/2025 12:17

Oh, a Cool Girl. I bet your whole identity revolves around Not Being Like The Other Girls.

Yawn.

YonderTweek · 05/05/2025 12:17

FastFood · 05/05/2025 11:54

Waooow you're so special and unique and not like other women OP!

Yes, I got the "I'm not like the other girls" and a hint of "cool wife" vibe from the OP.

Butchyrestingface · 05/05/2025 12:15

Do you think your fragmented brain may be playing a role in the formation of those misogynistic, dumb-as-a-rock views, @Fragmentedbrain? Grin

lostinthesunshine · 05/05/2025 12:12

You’re so special 🙄

WithOnlyTheMemories · 05/05/2025 12:10

Fucking hell.

Mumofteenandtween · 05/05/2025 12:04

Syuni · 05/05/2025 11:47

It’s perfectly possible to enjoy a clean and tidy house AND also have fun. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.

Especially if everyone does their share of the work. Which is kind of the point!

B1anche · 05/05/2025 12:01

Just read an article in the daily mail

This tells me everything I need to know about you.

Newmeagain · 05/05/2025 11:57

The problem is that humans need to do a certain minimum to keep ourselves healthy and alive. And doing those bare basics requires time unless you have someone else doing it all for you - cooking and the cleaning that goes with it, washing and putting away clothes, etc. There is even more of that if you have children.

if you don’t do those basics, then you are not the “cool, fun loving” person you think you are - you are probably living somewhere really grubby, eating ready meals.

dairydebris · 05/05/2025 11:55

Fragmentedbrain · 05/05/2025 11:44

Just read an article in the daily mail on this theme

One quoted woman says she'd rather live on a commune of women than with a man because there would be more sharing of "the domestic load"

Personally I would rather die than live with Neat Women in some dedicated to cleaning hellscape

If you want things to be tidy, tidy

Otherwise dont and shaddup about it

(I know this is possible because neither my husband nor I gaf about tidying and we have fun instead)

Username checks out

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 05/05/2025 11:55

Name checks out

Overtheatlantic · 05/05/2025 11:54

Is it time for Misogynistic Monday already?

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