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BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

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TooBigForMyBoots · 10/05/2025 21:58

ARealitycheck · 10/05/2025 21:02

As I have suggested many times before to those who claim it is a disaster, come back and revisit the subject five or ten years from now. The economy of many Countries was ruined due to Covid. I can't tell the future any more than anybody else. But I do suspect the UK will be in a better place than our European neighbours over time because of brexit.

You mean another 5 or ten years to recover from it? It's been 9 years already. Or will it take 50 years as per arch Brexiteer Jacob Rees Mogg?

TooBigForMyBoots · 10/05/2025 21:55

Perplexed20 · 10/05/2025 21:10

Sigh.
Brexit feels like a painting by an unmentionable Australian- 'can you tell what it is yet'.

It's been and wil continue to be a distraction. Historically, it will probably be labelled ' the lost decades'.

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Yep.

Feelingmuchbetter · 10/05/2025 21:26

Perplexed20 · 10/05/2025 21:10

Sigh.
Brexit feels like a painting by an unmentionable Australian- 'can you tell what it is yet'.

It's been and wil continue to be a distraction. Historically, it will probably be labelled ' the lost decades'.

Edited

What an incredibly lazy, ill informed assumption.

Perplexed20 · 10/05/2025 21:10

Sigh.
Brexit feels like a painting by an unmentionable Australian- 'can you tell what it is yet'.

It's been and wil continue to be a distraction. Historically, it will probably be labelled ' the lost decades'.

ARealitycheck · 10/05/2025 21:02

RoadtoVima · 10/05/2025 20:33

Many years later, we are all living the results of the referendum. Surely that makes your toes curl?

My take away from this thread, isn't remainers insulting anyone. It is the belligerent who couldn't care less about their country. It is willfully ignorant folk doubling down on a fuck you that has no real destination.

As I have suggested many times before to those who claim it is a disaster, come back and revisit the subject five or ten years from now. The economy of many Countries was ruined due to Covid. I can't tell the future any more than anybody else. But I do suspect the UK will be in a better place than our European neighbours over time because of brexit.

RoadtoVima · 10/05/2025 20:33

Rummly · 10/05/2025 19:38

It was the economic risks that mostly made me vote remain, together with a sense of ‘Europeanness’: I have family connections to France.

But I can understand why others didn’t feel that way. And I do respect the sovereignty argument. The German courts have made clear that acts of the EU that breach the German constitution are unlawful there. If the UK had set out constitutional red lines - via Acts, since we don’t have a fully written constitution - I think we’d still be in.

It does also make my toes curl when the remain opinion is expressed as being clever and educated and leavers as the great, thick unwashed. That view has broken out on this thread.

Many years later, we are all living the results of the referendum. Surely that makes your toes curl?

My take away from this thread, isn't remainers insulting anyone. It is the belligerent who couldn't care less about their country. It is willfully ignorant folk doubling down on a fuck you that has no real destination.

ARealitycheck · 10/05/2025 20:29

RoadtoVima · 10/05/2025 19:21

It was an act of national self harm that can't be referenced elsewhere. No other nation in history actively chose to impose economic sanctions on itself.

To deny it at this point is just depressing.

The facts and stats prove what a mistake it was.

I say this as an EU resident with children who have EU citizenship. I am sad about what has happened to my country and the mindset of too many of her citizens.

Imposing economic sanctions on member states is done by the EU itself. While members the UK could not go off and set up a more favourable trade deal with non member states.

If the EU had remained the trading bloc it was intended to be, I believe we would have remained members. It was a parliament not elected by us and making laws that were not beneficial to the UK that was the very issue in the first place.

RoadtoVima · 10/05/2025 20:20

BatchCookBabe · 10/05/2025 19:32

History will write about the criminality of this referendum

No it won't.

I am sure that in my lifetime, we will go back.

No we won't.

But, as a nation, we fucked up.

No we didn't.

HTH. Smile

Sweet cheeks, you bounce around with your opinion - on everything.

Doesn't make you right, on anything particularly given you just shout and bake yourself on so many posts, embarrassingly so

HTH

ARealitycheck · 10/05/2025 19:55

FridayorSaturdaywhicheversuits · 10/05/2025 17:55

Surely that depends on various factors. Where you live in either country for example, the job someone has.

Actually it depends on all of the state provisions that makes life civilised and provides greater equality, such as; subsidised public transport, maintenance of public spaces, libraries, proper social care, good health care provided through non-profit obligatory health insurance including services like at home palliative care, subsidised post-natal physio sessions, and of course, free education, including free university provision where tuition is paid for.

France is a large country so obviously there will be greater provision of these services in towns rather than rural areas but I think most people would agree that farming is fairly lucrative in France, they have a strong lobbying dialogue with the French government, and that they are obsessive about their food products.

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As a previous poster pointed out. the standard of living in France will very much depend on your own location. Nice rural village in Bordeaux is significantly different to less affluent Parisienne suburbs, where poverty is rife and access to state provision is oversubscribed.

Moving on to French agriculture. You are correct they are relatively profitable at present. But only down to the high level of taxation French workers pay to be handed out in CAP subsidies.

Again this was one of the sticking blocks with EU membership. Compared to our farms, French ones are incredibly ineffective and poor producers per acre. It was only every the subsidy system that kept them afloat. Now the net contributors to the EU and it's CAP system are reduced. That level of subsidy is unsustainable.

TooBigForMyBoots · 10/05/2025 19:55

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 10/05/2025 12:21

Democracy includes the right to change your mind.
Unfortunately leave voters have denied the rest of us that right because we'll never be allowed back in now.

this is correct

however I would point out that a lack of higher education does not equal a lack in intelligence

Agree with this. My mum and dad left school at 14 and 15. They were smart enough and invested enough in their grandchildren's future enough to vote Remain.

Walkaround · 10/05/2025 19:48

BatchCookBabe · 10/05/2025 19:35

@Walkaround · Today 18:58

Brexit was an act of violence towards the EU.

Just when I thought I'd seen it all on here! Shock

Seriously, give your head a wobble!

I'm out. I can't continue to 'debate' with some remainers. I'm speechless at that remark, ^ and shaking my head at some of the other comments.

Enjoy your evening! I'm off out for an evening walk!

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@BatchCookBabe - have wobbled my head as requested and still find myself to think that the vitriole expressed towards the EU in the build up to the referendum and during negotiations made it an act of violence where constructive negotiation was seriously unlikely to be possible. The whole Brexit party turning their backs on the Parliament when its Anthem was played, the histrionic posters about migration, the focus on fish and anything else aimed at getting a rise out of other EU countries rather than taking the process seriously…. A toxic farce at a time the country could not afford to act in such a facile manner.

Rummly · 10/05/2025 19:38

RoadtoVima · 10/05/2025 19:21

It was an act of national self harm that can't be referenced elsewhere. No other nation in history actively chose to impose economic sanctions on itself.

To deny it at this point is just depressing.

The facts and stats prove what a mistake it was.

I say this as an EU resident with children who have EU citizenship. I am sad about what has happened to my country and the mindset of too many of her citizens.

It was the economic risks that mostly made me vote remain, together with a sense of ‘Europeanness’: I have family connections to France.

But I can understand why others didn’t feel that way. And I do respect the sovereignty argument. The German courts have made clear that acts of the EU that breach the German constitution are unlawful there. If the UK had set out constitutional red lines - via Acts, since we don’t have a fully written constitution - I think we’d still be in.

It does also make my toes curl when the remain opinion is expressed as being clever and educated and leavers as the great, thick unwashed. That view has broken out on this thread.

BatchCookBabe · 10/05/2025 19:35

@Walkaround · Today 18:58

Brexit was an act of violence towards the EU.

Just when I thought I'd seen it all on here! Shock

Seriously, give your head a wobble!

I'm out. I can't continue to 'debate' with some remainers. I'm speechless at that remark, ^ and shaking my head at some of the other comments.

Enjoy your evening! I'm off out for an evening walk!

BatchCookBabe · 10/05/2025 19:32

RoadtoVima · 10/05/2025 18:59

Love your certainty, harping on and complaining... 🙄

But, as a nation, we fucked up.

I am sure that in my lifetime, we will go back.

History will write about the criminality of this referendum.

History will write about the criminality of this referendum

No it won't.

I am sure that in my lifetime, we will go back.

No we won't.

But, as a nation, we fucked up.

No we didn't.

HTH. Smile

Mannatan · 10/05/2025 19:24

RoadtoVima · 10/05/2025 19:21

It was an act of national self harm that can't be referenced elsewhere. No other nation in history actively chose to impose economic sanctions on itself.

To deny it at this point is just depressing.

The facts and stats prove what a mistake it was.

I say this as an EU resident with children who have EU citizenship. I am sad about what has happened to my country and the mindset of too many of her citizens.

Its definitely limited peoples freedom of movement for sure.

Ive irish and english friends working as Tefl teachers in Italy. The irish can just go.

My English friend was telling me that he is having to jump through all manner of visa hoops to be able to work there

RoadtoVima · 10/05/2025 19:21

Walkaround · 10/05/2025 19:12

Well chosen and carefully considered, imvho, because of the way it was done. It didn’t have to be, but it very much was an act of violence.

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It was an act of national self harm that can't be referenced elsewhere. No other nation in history actively chose to impose economic sanctions on itself.

To deny it at this point is just depressing.

The facts and stats prove what a mistake it was.

I say this as an EU resident with children who have EU citizenship. I am sad about what has happened to my country and the mindset of too many of her citizens.

Walkaround · 10/05/2025 19:12

Rummly · 10/05/2025 19:10

I was against leaving.

I just take a more moderate path about the whole thing. “Act of Violence” are not thoughtful or well-chosen words.

Well chosen and carefully considered, imvho, because of the way it was done. It didn’t have to be, but it very much was an act of violence.

Rummly · 10/05/2025 19:10

Walkaround · 10/05/2025 18:58

Brexit was an act of violence towards the EU. It weakened both the EU and the UK at an economically and politically bad time. It wasted huge amounts of time in its negotiation and took attention away from more important concerns (eg Russia). Collective eyes were taken off the ball and it damaged the UK’s global reputation. UK negotiators were particularly crap and came across as playing for an audience, not even trying to get any kind of a sensible deal and instead favouring spouting on about blue passports, fish, and non-existent oven-ready deals. The UK never showed any signs of even trying to be civilised in the negotiation process, any more than the Government behaved in a civilised fashion at home. The entire era was characterised by boorish behaviour, childish jibes, and corrosive, corrupt politicians.

I was against leaving.

I just take a more moderate path about the whole thing. “Act of Violence” are not thoughtful or well-chosen words.

RoadtoVima · 10/05/2025 18:59

BatchCookBabe · 10/05/2025 18:28

You're joking aren't you? The EU would welcome back our £350 million a week in a heartbeat. We won't go back though, ever. So it's time to stop daydreaming about that.... Wink

It's been 9 years since the referendum and 5 and a half years since we left the EU. The 'remainers' really need to get over themselves, and stop dwelling on something that is NEVER going to happen. We are not going back into the EU.

We've left ages ago now. Time to stop complaining, accept it, get over it, and move on. People still carping on about it are sounding ridiculous now, and frankly, it's boring. Also, whether the UK 'moving to the right a lot more now' is a bad thing is a matter of opinion.

Love your certainty, harping on and complaining... 🙄

But, as a nation, we fucked up.

I am sure that in my lifetime, we will go back.

History will write about the criminality of this referendum.

Walkaround · 10/05/2025 18:58

Rummly · 10/05/2025 17:52

There’s nothing in it to approach this as goodies and baddies. That letter, though, seems pretty clear that leaving the EU was considered a ‘wrong’, not a choice but a mischief. It may be couched in diplomatic euphemism but it’s pretty obvious that Macron wanted the UK to have as little EU cooperation as could be managed, and to make a point. Compromise was obviously not a priority. “Proportionate” is a terrible weasel word.

But, as I said, this isn’t a villain v hero story. It’s the real world. We shouldn’t damn the Commission or EU members either, for looking out for themselves. I just wish the EU had been more sorrow and less anger.

Brexit was an act of violence towards the EU. It weakened both the EU and the UK at an economically and politically bad time. It wasted huge amounts of time in its negotiation and took attention away from more important concerns (eg Russia). Collective eyes were taken off the ball and it damaged the UK’s global reputation. UK negotiators were particularly crap and came across as playing for an audience, not even trying to get any kind of a sensible deal and instead favouring spouting on about blue passports, fish, and non-existent oven-ready deals. The UK never showed any signs of even trying to be civilised in the negotiation process, any more than the Government behaved in a civilised fashion at home. The entire era was characterised by boorish behaviour, childish jibes, and corrosive, corrupt politicians.

RoadtoVima · 10/05/2025 18:53

Did you not hear Macron saying the UK must be punished for leaving?

I would love to read where he said this @Grammarnut

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 10/05/2025 18:52

BatchCookBabe · 10/05/2025 18:28

You're joking aren't you? The EU would welcome back our £350 million a week in a heartbeat. We won't go back though, ever. So it's time to stop daydreaming about that.... Wink

It's been 9 years since the referendum and 5 and a half years since we left the EU. The 'remainers' really need to get over themselves, and stop dwelling on something that is NEVER going to happen. We are not going back into the EU.

We've left ages ago now. Time to stop complaining, accept it, get over it, and move on. People still carping on about it are sounding ridiculous now, and frankly, it's boring. Also, whether the UK 'moving to the right a lot more now' is a bad thing is a matter of opinion.

God forbid you should be bored…how awful

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 10/05/2025 18:50

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 10/05/2025 14:55

But saying "project fear" when people point out the obvious and predictable downsides to Brexit and voting for it anyway does. And then claiming that the only reason it didn't turn out swimmingly was because remoaners tried to sabotage it.

Abso-fucking-lutely

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 10/05/2025 18:48

BatchCookBabe · 10/05/2025 18:28

You're joking aren't you? The EU would welcome back our £350 million a week in a heartbeat. We won't go back though, ever. So it's time to stop daydreaming about that.... Wink

It's been 9 years since the referendum and 5 and a half years since we left the EU. The 'remainers' really need to get over themselves, and stop dwelling on something that is NEVER going to happen. We are not going back into the EU.

We've left ages ago now. Time to stop complaining, accept it, get over it, and move on. People still carping on about it are sounding ridiculous now, and frankly, it's boring. Also, whether the UK 'moving to the right a lot more now' is a bad thing is a matter of opinion.

The thread asks whether or not you would undo brexit if you could, which is what I've answered. So are opinions only valid to you if they are the same as yours?

BatchCookBabe · 10/05/2025 18:28

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 10/05/2025 18:18

I voted to remain, so i would absolutely love it if Brexit could be reversed. The UK has burned a lot of bridges and I would be surprised if Britain was welcomed back. The UK seems to be leaning quite a lot more to the right than I've seen in my adult years, it's depressing.

You're joking aren't you? The EU would welcome back our £350 million a week in a heartbeat. We won't go back though, ever. So it's time to stop daydreaming about that.... Wink

It's been 9 years since the referendum and 5 and a half years since we left the EU. The 'remainers' really need to get over themselves, and stop dwelling on something that is NEVER going to happen. We are not going back into the EU.

We've left ages ago now. Time to stop complaining, accept it, get over it, and move on. People still carping on about it are sounding ridiculous now, and frankly, it's boring. Also, whether the UK 'moving to the right a lot more now' is a bad thing is a matter of opinion.

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