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To want Brexit be reversed

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BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

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Aizen · 05/05/2025 11:52

People, you must be patient and wait for the full benefits of Brexit to manifest themselves.

50 years was it that Jacob Rees Mogg said? That's not too long really 😊

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 11:51

Whatever our housing, public services, labour market, benefits system etc. are designed to absorb.

I don't know how you would quantify the above but we don't have enough young people to support the ageing population. So if it's no immigration, then we need to raise taxes & means test/move out the state pension. What other options are there?

Sunbeam01 · 05/05/2025 11:50

People voted for Brexit due to the drop in living standards and quality of life.

pinkdelight · 05/05/2025 11:50

Can't just reverse it because we've changed our mind. I voted remain and never believed any shit about what we were promised and I don't think those promising it did either, it just suited their political ends. But we've left now and who says the EU would ever want us back? Nor that the great British public would vote that way, given how much more myopic its got since. So YANBU to want it and recognise the problems its brought, but YABU to imagine it's viable.

caringcarer · 05/05/2025 11:50

Swiftie1878 · 05/05/2025 11:43

I said they are to unfold. They have started to unfold, but we aren’t anywhere near full benefits yet.
We’ve stopped paying money to the EU - given the state of the public purse at the moment, that’s a huge gain.
We can now control our own taxes - VAT on private school fees, and removing VAT on sanitary products would not have been allowed had we been in the EU.
We have stopped free movement of people - the immigration crisis across Europe would be far worse for us without this door closed.
We are deep in trade agreement negotiations with a number of countries, including the U.S., (which will protect us from the tumult of Trump’s tariff whims). Our non-EU membership has already kept our tariffs lower than those being put on EU goods and services.

There are more to come, and we won’t fully know what Brexit Britain looks like for some time due to other world events.
And Brexit was democratically decided upon.
It is unreasonable to revisit such a major decision so soon.

Well said. Changes are not always apparent overnight. We will only get our fishing rights back overtime unless KS is stupid enough to sign them away again.

Somethingscintilling · 05/05/2025 11:49

BTW some eu counties are in recession, we are teetering, eu citizens are not happy and the financial thrust of Europe is essential Germany and then France and Germany is really struggling.
So....

Azdcgbjml · 05/05/2025 11:48

Swiftie1878 · 05/05/2025 11:12

YABU.
The benefits of Brexit are still to unfold. The whole world has been a shit show since then, due to COVID, Syria, Ukraine and now Trump. None of that is down to Brexit, in fact being outside the EU has helped more than hindered.

How has it helped?

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 11:48

@Whippetlovely but Reform isn't going to make the average person better off. Do people who vote Reform care about that?

Ooral · 05/05/2025 11:46

BREXIT has been a disaster, and anyone with any sense would have known this.

It will never be reversed, as UK would then have an even worse deal this time around. We would also have the same chaos and instability that we are having now.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 05/05/2025 11:46

But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised

Shock horror. People were stupid to believe their nonsense in the first place. And now you want it reversed because of your children? I voted to remain for the sake of my children. Anyone who didn't think that far ahead was really very foolish

caringcarer · 05/05/2025 11:46

OP you need to look at The Turing scheme. It replaced Erasmus but Tiring scheme is worldwid not just Europe. This is broadening opportunities for young people in education to travel not limiting it. The referendum was a democratic process where everyone entitled to vote could do so. More people voted to leave than to remain. You need to accept your view was not the most popular view and move on. Only another referendum would move us back in and we'd have to accept the Euro instead of the pound.

Ablondiebutagoody · 05/05/2025 11:46

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 05/05/2025 11:37

The thing is, 50% of "the people" have below average intelligence.

Ten years ago Nigel Farage was telling everyone that Brexit would mean no more immigration, £350m a week for the NHS and sunlit uplands.

None of the benefits he promised have materialised and instead we have rampant inflation whilst wages have more or less continued to stagnate.

If you look back over the last decade and you think that continuing to put your faith in Nigel Farage is the sensible thing to do, there really is no hope for you.

Well yes. Voted for Brexit but then followed that up by electing the Tories and Labour. That was never going to give them what they wanted. Based on the local elections they seem to have understood that now.

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 11:46

Calling people stupid only bites you in the backside, sorry but reform are making huge gains and it's your own fault.

🤦🏻‍♀️

Azdcgbjml · 05/05/2025 11:45

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 11:04

I don't disagree with you, but all of the issues that you've mentioned were predicted prior to Brexit, so I'm assuming that people felt that these negatives were "worth it" for whatever reason.

This.

People voted for it knowing that this would be the outcome. The biggest issue in my life has been occasional difficulties getting medication for my children. It has affected ADHD meds, insulin and epipens. And of course the impact on the economy affects us all.

I'm still waiting for any benefit.

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 05/05/2025 11:45

Whippetlovely · 05/05/2025 11:37

Wage increases, a pretty big one

For whom?

HmmNot · 05/05/2025 11:43

Brexit can’t be reversed- if we go back into the EU it will be on worse terms. I wish people had made the effort to inform themselves before voting. It was always going to cost us to leave the EU and it was never going to decrease immigration- we just have more non-EU immigrants, which I’m not sure people knew they were voting for.

Arlanymor · 05/05/2025 11:43

Brexit has been a massive shitshow. The fucking irony of Cameron calling a referendum to try and unite the Conservative Party and put an end to Nigel Farage’s ambitions just shows how ridiculous the whole endeavour was. Plus it wasn’t legally binding, the government of the time didn’t actually have to enact it, but they did because they were populist arseholes. We are undeniably and provably worse off as a result of leaving Europe and although Boris and co. later tried to use Covid as a cover for our economic downfall, the fact is that the law of unintended consequences has come back to bite us on the bum. Also there is no mechanism for getting back into Europe because no one else has been stupid enough to leave before. Extra dumbo points for losing a veto we enjoyed despite our size and being outside of a system that was set up initially with a peace keeping imperative at a time when a third world war looms…

Swiftie1878 · 05/05/2025 11:43

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 05/05/2025 11:24

Like what?

First you said that the benefits of Brexit are yet to come.

Now you're saying there already are benefits.

Name some.

I said they are to unfold. They have started to unfold, but we aren’t anywhere near full benefits yet.
We’ve stopped paying money to the EU - given the state of the public purse at the moment, that’s a huge gain.
We can now control our own taxes - VAT on private school fees, and removing VAT on sanitary products would not have been allowed had we been in the EU.
We have stopped free movement of people - the immigration crisis across Europe would be far worse for us without this door closed.
We are deep in trade agreement negotiations with a number of countries, including the U.S., (which will protect us from the tumult of Trump’s tariff whims). Our non-EU membership has already kept our tariffs lower than those being put on EU goods and services.

There are more to come, and we won’t fully know what Brexit Britain looks like for some time due to other world events.
And Brexit was democratically decided upon.
It is unreasonable to revisit such a major decision so soon.

EasternStandard · 05/05/2025 11:42

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 05/05/2025 11:37

The thing is, 50% of "the people" have below average intelligence.

Ten years ago Nigel Farage was telling everyone that Brexit would mean no more immigration, £350m a week for the NHS and sunlit uplands.

None of the benefits he promised have materialised and instead we have rampant inflation whilst wages have more or less continued to stagnate.

If you look back over the last decade and you think that continuing to put your faith in Nigel Farage is the sensible thing to do, there really is no hope for you.

Inflation over last few years was more Ukraine war, and you can see it’s back down. Although Labour’s policies might see it go up.

if people want results on immigration it’ll take further ties being cut, whether people vote for that I guess we’ll see.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 05/05/2025 11:42

It was a terrible idea to start with.

It focused on Immigration concerns, as far I can see, numbers have increased not decreased, it made life difficult for EU workers to continue working in care roles, hospital settings, retail.

I don't buy anything from the UK anymore unfortunately, the delays in parcels, tax charges. I learnt a lesson buying an antique ring from Ebay.

The company I work for, buys all of our stock from suppliers in France and Denmark, it was always from the UK.

Whippetlovely · 05/05/2025 11:42

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 11:37

Wow your the exact reason people are voting reform so take a look in the mirror.

So people are voting for a party that don't care for or support simply because others are calling them stupid? 🤔

Your sentence doesn't make sense but I think I understand what you were meant to say. Being ignored turns people to more extreme parties, always has. If people's concerns of mass migration were taken more seriously I don't think brexit would have ever happened. Calling people stupid only bites you in the backside, sorry but reform are making huge gains and it's your own fault.

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 11:41

@Ablondiebutagoody but why do you think those at the bottom of the income scale has lost out mainly due to immigration?

Syuni · 05/05/2025 11:40

Did you vote for Brexit OP?

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 11:40

And what’s going to happen as the last of the boomers, born in 1964, are approaching retirement and the population figures fall off a cliff?

I'm not sure why so many don't want to acknowledge the changing demographics & the economic implications of that. Is it because they would rather pretend low taxes & better services are possible?

Ablondiebutagoody · 05/05/2025 11:39

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 11:33

@Ablondiebutagoody so what do you think immigration numbers should look like?

Whatever our housing, public services, labour market, benefits system etc. are designed to absorb. I would say that currently there is no such calculation happening, no control and that net immigration of a million people per year is causing problems. Particularly for the kind of people at the bottom of the income scale who voted for Brexit and will vote Reform.

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