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BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

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TooBigForMyBoots · 05/05/2025 15:28

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 05/05/2025 14:23

At this point it would almost be worth having Nigel Farage in power just to prove that Nigel Farage is a snake oil salesman and a charlatan and fucking incapable of delivering anything of any fucking benefit to Joe Public, but I fear that even then the people who voted for him would insist that there was some other very plausible reason why he had fucking failed to deliver on any of his promises which definitely had nothing to do with the fact that he's a fucking fraud.

The next few years will more than demonstrate Farage's complete lack of ability. He can't even run a party nevermind a country.🙄

Reform voters have chosen to learn the hard way. Just as most Leave voters have.

Azdcgbjml · 05/05/2025 15:28

AndImBrit · 05/05/2025 13:57

I’m a member of Mensa, with a masters equivalent qualification. And I speak a European language. So I’m probably more qualified and have a higher IQ than you.

I voted Brexit. Do I now get to call you stupid and inferior for voting remain?

Also there’s not been any significant consequences so far I didn’t foresee (but some surprise upsides, like the COVID vaccine rollout). In my view, the disappointment has been in the implementation and not the leaving itself.

Brexit didn't make any difference to the covid vaccine.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/55163730.amp

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Rummly · 05/05/2025 15:20

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 15:15

At least we know that institutionally racist elite universities such as Oxford and Cambridge supported Brexit.

Really? How did that work?

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 15:15

TheyNotLikeUs · 05/05/2025 15:13

"Not everyone who voted for Brexit is racist, but every racist voted for Brexit."

At least we know that institutionally racist elite universities such as Oxford and Cambridge supported Brexit.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 15:15

Winter2020 · 05/05/2025 15:01

Perhaps in the long run the people will be better off having jobs than charity?

Ironic, given that one of the charities in question has lost funding for what had been a very successful programme for getting long term unemployed people into work.

TheyNotLikeUs · 05/05/2025 15:13

"Not everyone who voted for Brexit is racist, but every racist voted for Brexit."

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 15:12

TheyNotLikeUs · 05/05/2025 15:05

Rise in racist attacks since the referendum, the racists are empowered.

But those that voted for it don't accept any responsibility for this.

Nothing to do with terrorist attacks or grooming gangs then?

LookingForRecommendation · 05/05/2025 15:11

YANBU - it’s been a disaster.

TheKeatingFive · 05/05/2025 15:09

Winter2020 · 05/05/2025 15:01

Perhaps in the long run the people will be better off having jobs than charity?

This is a very good point

TheKeatingFive · 05/05/2025 15:08

TheyNotLikeUs · 05/05/2025 15:05

Rise in racist attacks since the referendum, the racists are empowered.

But those that voted for it don't accept any responsibility for this.

That's not fair at all.

I'm speaking as someone who didnt vote for brexit, just to be clear.

But people were given the choice and made that choice - as was their democratic right. Just because they voted for brexit doesn't make them responsible for racist attacks. That wasn't on the ballot paper.

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 15:07

Perplexed20 · 05/05/2025 14:02

https://www.instituteforgovernment.org.uk/comment/covid-vaccine-decisions-brexit

Covid vaccine bring a Brexit benefit is widely regarded to be a myth.

Wasn't that a Boris Johnsonism?

Clearly a Brexit related decision as the UK's ambassador to the EU explained in his letter to the European Commission;

I welcome the constructive approach to discussions between our respective teams over the last weeks to understand what UK participation in this scheme would look like, in line with both the terms of the agreement reached by participating Member States to shape this initiative, and the relevant provisions in the Withdrawal Agreement.

The Commission has responded positively to our requests for clarifications but has confirmed that it is not possible for the UK to pursue parallel negotiations with potential vaccine suppliers, meaning the UK would be required to stop its negotiations with manufacturers with which the EU launched negotiations. The Commission has also confirmed that it is not possible for the UK to have a role in the governance shaping decisions on which manufacturers to negotiate with, or the price, volume and delivery schedule negotiated.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-53361906

Also, your link says;
If one or more of them had decided to follow the UK’s path and procure its own vaccines, no one would have stopped them.

In fact, Germany, France, the Netherlands and Italy did form an "Inclusive Vaccine Alliance” in 2020. They negotiated some early/provisional agreements with vaccine manufacturers - but then other member states made a fuss and the Vaccine Alliance members were persuaded to disband, drop their negotiations and join the EU scheme, losing their head start in the process.

https://www.politico.eu/article/vaccine-alliance-casts-shadow-over-commissions-new-strategy/
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/feb/04/german-minister-criticises-von-der-leyen-over-covid-vaccines-disgrace

TheyNotLikeUs · 05/05/2025 15:05

Rise in racist attacks since the referendum, the racists are empowered.

But those that voted for it don't accept any responsibility for this.

Winter2020 · 05/05/2025 15:01

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 13:04

I think this kind of belief was part of the problem. Working class people absolutely did benefit from being in the EU but they didn't necessarily see the EU as being the source of those benefits.

I'm involved with a number of charities that have had to cut services for deprived communities as a result of losing their EU funding. The funding from central government that was supposed to replace the EU subsidies has been woefully inadequate. The charities in question get a lot of complaints about the fact that those services are no longer running, but few people will connect the reduction in services with Brexit.

Perhaps in the long run the people will be better off having jobs than charity?

Didimum · 05/05/2025 14:58

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 14:37

I'm saying that people choose to listen to what they want to hear and to disregard what they want to ignore, and that they are ultimately accountable for those choices.

They chose to believe the Brexiteers who were telling them that it was scaremongering and they chose to ignore the advice of most experts. I don't doubt that this is indeed incredibly common, but it doesn't let them off the hook for the choices that they made.

Unless, of course, you are implying that they were too stupid to be able to evaluate the sources of evidence appropriately?

I’m not saying that. The original statement was that they took the predictions on board and decided that they were worth it. I’m saying I don’t think that’s what happened.

TopPocketFind · 05/05/2025 14:46

PollsCantBeTrusted · 05/05/2025 14:39

Overall, I find it curious that anyone would seriously consider joining the EU. Subjecting yourself to the legal framework of a technocratic organisation in a foreign country, run by people you can’t vote out, putting them in charge of your financial, technology, telecoms sectors, environmental policy and many others besides, would be an odd decision to say the least. Unless, that is, that EU membership has such astounding benefits that it makes it all worthwhile. But we were members for 47 years and we know it doesn’t.

How about comparing the cost of rejoining with the cost of not rejoining?

The UK had a huge influence on decisions the EU made, and played a big role shaping in shaping it

Bunny44 · 05/05/2025 14:46

Dangermoo · 05/05/2025 14:22

More irony 😆 🤣 instead, let's teach our future generation to disrespect a legitimate referendum. That will stand them in great stead for their employment.

Shouldn't have been a referendum. Referendums should be reserved for less complex issues and where the outcome isn't so wide reaching
and potentially damaging to the economy and security of the country.

PollsCantBeTrusted · 05/05/2025 14:39

Overall, I find it curious that anyone would seriously consider joining the EU. Subjecting yourself to the legal framework of a technocratic organisation in a foreign country, run by people you can’t vote out, putting them in charge of your financial, technology, telecoms sectors, environmental policy and many others besides, would be an odd decision to say the least. Unless, that is, that EU membership has such astounding benefits that it makes it all worthwhile. But we were members for 47 years and we know it doesn’t.

How about comparing the cost of rejoining with the cost of not rejoining?

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 14:38

Dangermoo · 05/05/2025 14:25

I thought the goalposts would shift and I was right. Now it's not about a lack of education, it's one's reasons for asserting their knowledge. 😂

Eh? What does Mensa have to do with education?

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 14:37

Didimum · 05/05/2025 14:24

Because, again, they regarded it as scaremongering, as described by the groups they were aligning with. Are you saying people who hold beliefs don’t doubt experts in their field? Because that’s … incredibly common.

I'm saying that people choose to listen to what they want to hear and to disregard what they want to ignore, and that they are ultimately accountable for those choices.

They chose to believe the Brexiteers who were telling them that it was scaremongering and they chose to ignore the advice of most experts. I don't doubt that this is indeed incredibly common, but it doesn't let them off the hook for the choices that they made.

Unless, of course, you are implying that they were too stupid to be able to evaluate the sources of evidence appropriately?

Perplexed20 · 05/05/2025 14:37

Dangermoo · 05/05/2025 14:27

😂 need to get back to my yoga. I can't take anymore level of irony. OP, teach your children that you can't always get what you want.

Thats not the correct use of 'irony', btw.

Perplexed20 · 05/05/2025 14:35

Dangermoo · 05/05/2025 14:19

So you want to show this country as weak and appeasing and go cap in hand? Well wouldn't that be a great green light to see what other policies we would topple over.

Cap in hand...

Sigh...are you always this dramatic?
You mean adult, grown up conversations, We negotiate with other countries all the time.

Dangermoo · 05/05/2025 14:27

Perplexed20 · 05/05/2025 14:24

We had a referendum. Then people disrespected it and we had another one, that's how we got Brexit.

You're argument undermines democracy and honestly it's ridiculous.

😂 need to get back to my yoga. I can't take anymore level of irony. OP, teach your children that you can't always get what you want.

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/05/2025 14:25

Dangermoo · 05/05/2025 14:03

Or reasonable to respect democracy and not be a big girl's blouse.

Big girl’s blouse?

🤣🤣🤣

Dangermoo · 05/05/2025 14:25

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 14:20

Lol. I have always been suspicious of supposedly clever people who join Mensa. It smacks of someone that is desperately trying to prove something.

I thought the goalposts would shift and I was right. Now it's not about a lack of education, it's one's reasons for asserting their knowledge. 😂

Didimum · 05/05/2025 14:24

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 13:38

Why would they doubt the opinion of experts in their fields? I would say that they willfully chose to ignore the information that didn't fit with their narrative.

I think it was Michael Gove who famously announced that the nation had had enough of experts.

And now we are all reaping the consequences.

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Because, again, they regarded it as scaremongering, as described by the groups they were aligning with. Are you saying people who hold beliefs don’t doubt experts in their field? Because that’s … incredibly common.

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