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BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

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Clavinova · 05/05/2025 18:08

FridayorSaturdaywhicheversuits · 05/05/2025 17:31

But you can only give the people a voice when they are fully conversant with the truth and not bombarded with factually incorrect propoganda eg Boris’s £350 million for the NHS.

https://www.healthjobs.co.uk/health-care-uk/blog/what-happened-to-brexit-s-350m-nhs-pledge/

To be fair, the NHS budget in England alone rose by £400 million a week in real terms between the referendum in 2016 and 2019/20, the year before Covid.

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 17:54

zoemum2006 · 05/05/2025 17:35

My fury has always been directed at the 'bait and switch' of leaving the European Union suddenly meaning leaving the Single Market too.

We were reassured that was not going to happen and then suddenly it was what it always mean.

It enrages me because that was NOT what the vote was on.

I think we should rejoin the Single Market because that is what is causing so many financial difficulties!

David Cameron confirmed that he will pull Britain out of the single market if there is a vote to leave the European Union at the upcoming referendum.
https://www.politico.eu/article/david-cameron-bbc-andrew-marr-ill-pull-uk-out-of-the-single-market-after-brexit-eu-referendum-vote-june-23-consequences-news/
April 2016
Thanks to Michael Gove we know that Britain's future outside the EU would also be outside the single market.
https://www.itv.com/news/2016-04-19/michael-gove-says-britains-future-outside-the-eu-would-also-be-outside-the-single-market-but-what-does-that-mean

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 17:47

lifeonmars100 · 05/05/2025 16:17

On the day of the referendum I was waiting for the bus when I overheard a young woman talking on her phone. She was telling whoever she was speaking to that although she had never voted in her life before she was going to vote leave to "stop all the Turks coming over here". Propaganda certainly works

Similarly there are plenty of people who think we had a veto on every EU law or that EU citizens could easily be deported if they had not found work within 3 months.

QuaintShaker · 05/05/2025 17:46

HopingForTheBest25 · 05/05/2025 11:21

If we rejoined the EU where would that leave the SC ruling? Bearing in mind that may EU nations are completely captured by gender ideology. Would we be able to resist any potential challenge in the European courts - would it outrank our own court?

You're thinking of the European Court of Human Rights, which we are still subject to (as signatories to the Euopean Convention on Human Rights).

Though Reform want to pull as out of that, too.

Theunamedcat · 05/05/2025 17:41

Brexit was an advisory vote I've really no clue why they actually went through with it people were disenfranchised with the whole situation instead of listening and working with the people to resolve the issue they threw their toys out the pram and left

OonaStubbs · 05/05/2025 17:38

You can't reverse Brexit any more than you can reverse World War 2. It's something that happened, and is in the past. We could rejoin the EU but that would be a completely new process. I would prefer us to remain as a proud independent country which has good relations with all countries in Europe but is not subservient to any of them.

zoemum2006 · 05/05/2025 17:35

My fury has always been directed at the 'bait and switch' of leaving the European Union suddenly meaning leaving the Single Market too.

We were reassured that was not going to happen and then suddenly it was what it always mean.

It enrages me because that was NOT what the vote was on.

I think we should rejoin the Single Market because that is what is causing so many financial difficulties!

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 17:34

thepariscrimefiles · 05/05/2025 16:26

Didn't the UK economy shrink by about £140 billion due to Brexit? Plus if we had a free trade agreement with the EU, our nearest trading block, it would mitigate the impact of Trump's tariffs.

Didn't the UK economy shrink by about £140 billion due to Brexit?

The UK economy hasn't shrunk, it's grown - you are thinking of studies claiming that the economy would have grown even more than it has if it were not for Brexit.

FridayorSaturdaywhicheversuits · 05/05/2025 17:31

But you can only give the people a voice when they are fully conversant with the truth and not bombarded with factually incorrect propoganda eg Boris’s £350 million for the NHS.

https://www.healthjobs.co.uk/health-care-uk/blog/what-happened-to-brexit-s-350m-nhs-pledge/

What Happened To Brexit S 350M Nhs Pledge - Healthjobs.co.uk

What Happened To Brexit S 350M Nhs Pledge at Healthjobs.co.uk A full directory listing all the entries and submissions.

https://www.healthjobs.co.uk/blog/what-happened-to-brexit-s-350m-nhs-pledge

dizzydizzydizzy · 05/05/2025 17:30

I'd like nothing better than to reverse that idiotic decision. I think it will happen eventually but not in the next decade.

Perplexed20 · 05/05/2025 17:28

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 17:15

However the most recent poll in the link says that 45% of respondents want to rejoin, 38% stay out and 17% neither/don't know. Hardly the basis to run a new referendum.

The likely outcome (if I was generous and split the don't knows 52-48 to stay out) would be 53% for rejoin. The argument that it's not resounding is also true for the outcome of the 2016 referendum. We shouldn't have left without a super majority and given the result it shouldn't be a 'hard brexit'.

The likelihood is this is going to rumble on for decades my expectation is that we will probably eventually rejoin. I'll probably be dead by then but I entirely expect that this will be viewed as a blip in terms of the long term.

DiggyDoodad · 05/05/2025 17:27

Thephantom · 05/05/2025 17:20

Just explain the reality that our former Prime Minister chose to gamble away the future of the country in a failed attempt at settling some in-fighting within his own party, and that an ill-informed electorate

Personal attacks on peoples intelect/comprehension is not a trait of a wise person. Whilst you are not saying the PM unilaterally exited EU you are blaming the PM for giving people a voice. A voice, clearly, that doesn't accord with your own.

Edited

What nonsense! The people weren't "given a voice", they were merely fed a narrative and told what to think by clever manipulators, who all the while were sniggering behind their backs at the people's gullibility.

Thephantom · 05/05/2025 17:27

Perplexed20 · 05/05/2025 16:43

Which poll are you quoting Clavinova?

Didn't most polls predict stay ..aren't these polls not necessarily accurate as the pre-brexit polls were?

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 17:26

Thephantom · 05/05/2025 17:20

Just explain the reality that our former Prime Minister chose to gamble away the future of the country in a failed attempt at settling some in-fighting within his own party, and that an ill-informed electorate

Personal attacks on peoples intelect/comprehension is not a trait of a wise person. Whilst you are not saying the PM unilaterally exited EU you are blaming the PM for giving people a voice. A voice, clearly, that doesn't accord with your own.

Edited

I'm blaming the former PM for putting a very complex issue to the public vote in the form of a very simplistic question, not because he thought it was the right thing to do but because he wanted to silence critics in his own party.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 17:23

Thephantom · 05/05/2025 17:14

A choice that doesn't accord with your own isn't necessarily a "stupid" choice. What is important to you may not be important for someone else.Children should not be taught to be entitled and to believe that their thinking is the only right way and that everyone else that disagrees with them is stupid.

Of course, there is nothing inherently stupid about people making choices that I wouldn't make. But there are some choices which are just stupid.

So, for example, I don't like beetroot and I choose not to eat it. However, I won't think you're stupid if you do want to eat it, I will simply think that you are making a different choice to mine and I will respect your right to do so. If, however, you were making the choice to take heroin, I would think that was stupid because I would see it as an act of self harm.

In the same way, I have no issue with people making different political choices to my own. As you say, people will indeed have different priorities. However, I regard Brexit as having been a monumentally stupid act of national self harm, so unless the priority was to fuck up the country indefinitely, I can't see what people think they have achieved.

But I'm open to hearing your views. Please tell me why you think Brexit was an intelligent decision to make, and what benefits you think it has delivered.

Thephantom · 05/05/2025 17:20

Just explain the reality that our former Prime Minister chose to gamble away the future of the country in a failed attempt at settling some in-fighting within his own party, and that an ill-informed electorate

Personal attacks on peoples intelect/comprehension is not a trait of a wise person. Whilst you are not saying the PM unilaterally exited EU you are blaming the PM for giving people a voice. A voice, clearly, that doesn't accord with your own.

FridayorSaturdaywhicheversuits · 05/05/2025 17:19

Walkaround · 05/05/2025 16:40

The great benefit of Brexit was enabling the country to become more extremist. Obviously, once you’ve got people to vote a particular way on the basis that it will protect them from uncontrolled immigration, no money for the NHS and straight bananas, you can move onto protecting people from money-wasting diversity, equity and inclusion strategies, a bloated, lazy public sector, benefit scroungers and unhealthy fatties who are ruining the NHS and the economy with their poor health and depravity. Then you can move onto women and their unreliability, weakness and hysteria in the workplace, their ridiculous notions of work-life balance, their harmful feminisation of men, and how they are ruining the next generation and not doing their patriotic duty of having children. Before we know it, they’ll be saying most people shouldn’t be allowed to vote, because they don’t contribute enough to this country to deserve a vote - people should do as they are told.

Great post 👏

All too true very sadly. And really alarming.

It’s all about division, “othering” and sowing distrust. Foisting blame on others; never accepting responsibility for failure.

At the same time, under-mining and under-resourcing the judiciary,

Suddenly there is no more civic society; just business deals. And the ordinary man in the street suffers the consequences.

If you deliberately cut yourself off and move away from the roughly centre left Christian democrat position of the EU; where do you expect to end up? The only way to go is right!

I am so sick of hearing that the EU is over-inflated and bureaucratic. Sorry but it takes a lot of meetings and paperwork to reach consensus between 27 countries speaking 24 languages! Yes; consensus! A bringing together of separate nations to pursue similar aims. Isn’t that refreshing in today’s political climate?

Or do we want to go the way of the USA and have power concentrated in the hands of a few billionaires who can make extremely dubious decisions in an instant?

PermanentTemporary · 05/05/2025 17:19

I think almost certainly if the vote had gone to Remain, a majority would say that was the wrong decision a few years later. The great benefit of Brexit that I do believe is that it's given every UK politician the yips at the idea of suggesting referendums for anything.

Jabberwok · 05/05/2025 17:17

Without commenting on the subject. I'd like to say this is probably the most mature and excellent discussion on brexit I have seen. There actually appears to be people listening to each other, not necessarily changing their minds but at least respecting that someone else has a different view even if , in their opinion, it is wrong. Thank You.

JHound · 05/05/2025 17:17

It could only be reversed with another referendum and given the support for RefUK I doubt many would vote to rejoin.

Plus we would have a much weaker bargaining position than we did previously.

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 17:15

Perplexed20 · 05/05/2025 17:09

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Potential_re-accession_of_the_United_Kingdom_to_the_European_Union

So reading that more want to rejoin than stay out.

And there are some don't knows.

However the most recent poll in the link says that 45% of respondents want to rejoin, 38% stay out and 17% neither/don't know. Hardly the basis to run a new referendum.

Thephantom · 05/05/2025 17:14

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/05/2025 16:13

You seem to have a comprehension problem. Where did I say that the PM unilaterally decided to leave the EU? Clue: I didn't.

But yes, you're right, our kids will allhave to learn the reality that democracy generally produces the results that the electorate deserves. And if we fail to educate our population properly, the electorate will carry on making stupid choices to the detriment of all.

A choice that doesn't accord with your own isn't necessarily a "stupid" choice. What is important to you may not be important for someone else.Children should not be taught to be entitled and to believe that their thinking is the only right way and that everyone else that disagrees with them is stupid.

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 17:04

Perplexed20 · 05/05/2025 16:41

clavinova

This poll says otherwise re rejoin. Also polls consistently say people think it was a bad decision.

natcen.ac.uk/public-attitudes-new-eu-referendum

Your link says they have excluded the don't knows.

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