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BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

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Papyrophile · 05/05/2025 20:24

Mannatan · 05/05/2025 16:17

I did think that brexit was stupid. Surely people should see what would happen, if one small country left the EU.

Its made it much harder for British people to study or travel or work in the EU.

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But it wasn't one small country leaving the EU. It was the second largest contributor to EU funding and a major industrial nation. Even now, a decade after the UK exited the EU we remain the 6th nation worldwide in manufacturing.

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 20:23

TopPocketFind · 05/05/2025 20:14

Vote leave did not say 50 year

You mentioned riches, I just went with it. Prosperity was the word used.

About the big boost, claiming back the 4% drop in GDP would be good, don't you think?

I was jesting about the 50 years - it's often quoted on here though.

I said 'richer' not riches.

About the big boost, claiming back the 4% drop in GDP would be good, don't you think?

I'd be happy with that but if it does not materialise within a reasonable timeframe after rejoining then can we have another referendum?

notatinydancer · 05/05/2025 20:20

Swiftie1878 · 05/05/2025 11:12

YABU.
The benefits of Brexit are still to unfold. The whole world has been a shit show since then, due to COVID, Syria, Ukraine and now Trump. None of that is down to Brexit, in fact being outside the EU has helped more than hindered.

What benefits will we see ?

TempestTost · 05/05/2025 20:19

TopPocketFind · 05/05/2025 19:23

One of the factors was that Germany relied heavily on Russian gas

There are 26 other countries you can look at

That's not the only reason Germany is in trouble. But it doesn't really matter if it is - if the German economy crashes the EU is in serious trouble whatever the reason.

Something I think people should ask themselves is - why are they hesitant to rejoin the EU if it means adopting the Euro? If they really believe in the EU economic project, why wouldn't they want the Euro?

OonaStubbs · 05/05/2025 20:18

At the end of the day, there is no price too great to pay for freedom.

TopPocketFind · 05/05/2025 20:18

Skippydoodle · 05/05/2025 19:22

Brexit didn’t deliver because Brexit didn’t really happen. We resigned about 10% of what was originally signed up for. It was only Brexit in name.

Brexit did really happen

Britain left the EU.

Nobody had a vote on what kind of Brexit it would be, it was a simple Yes or No for leaving the EU and that is exactly what happened.

LlynTegid · 05/05/2025 20:17

Brexit is the great mistake probably of over 50 years. Led to the worst Prime Minister in our history, Boris Johnson, whose inaction led to over 20,000 avoidable deaths and net migration increasing not reducing.

Admitting it, and at least start with a customs union, supported by a yes vote in a referendum, should be the minimum to aim for.

TopPocketFind · 05/05/2025 20:14

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 20:06

The benefits were promised to be there as soon as we left the EU

Were they? Many people on here quote Rees-Mogg and 50 years.

Every country had to deal with Covid and the invasion of Ukraine

Not every country was similarly affected by Covid or the energy crisis.

Vote leave promised riches

I don't remember anything about riches.

rejoiners or whatever you want to call them are not making such claims

Surely they are claiming a big boost to GDP or what's the point of rejoining?

Vote leave did not say 50 year

You mentioned riches, I just went with it. Prosperity was the word used.

About the big boost, claiming back the 4% drop in GDP would be good, don't you think?

Perplexed20 · 05/05/2025 20:10

Skippydoodle · 05/05/2025 19:22

Brexit didn’t deliver because Brexit didn’t really happen. We resigned about 10% of what was originally signed up for. It was only Brexit in name.

There's always a reason.

If Brexit was a half way decent idea it would be easy to plan, easy to explain and easy to defend. Especially now, 10 years on.

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 20:06

TopPocketFind · 05/05/2025 19:20

The benefits were promised to be there as soon as we left the EU, having all the cards, the easiest trade deals, no more red tape etc

Every country had to deal with Covid and the invasion of Ukraine.

How are we prospering outside the EU? Vote leave promised riches, rejoiners or whatever you want to call them are not making such claims.

Being outside of the EU has made the UK poorer, there is no denying that fact.

The benefits were promised to be there as soon as we left the EU

Were they? Many people on here quote Rees-Mogg and 50 years.

Every country had to deal with Covid and the invasion of Ukraine

Not every country was similarly affected by Covid or the energy crisis.

Vote leave promised riches

I don't remember anything about riches.

rejoiners or whatever you want to call them are not making such claims

Surely they are claiming a big boost to GDP or what's the point of rejoining?

Rummly · 05/05/2025 19:43

Walkaround · 05/05/2025 16:40

The great benefit of Brexit was enabling the country to become more extremist. Obviously, once you’ve got people to vote a particular way on the basis that it will protect them from uncontrolled immigration, no money for the NHS and straight bananas, you can move onto protecting people from money-wasting diversity, equity and inclusion strategies, a bloated, lazy public sector, benefit scroungers and unhealthy fatties who are ruining the NHS and the economy with their poor health and depravity. Then you can move onto women and their unreliability, weakness and hysteria in the workplace, their ridiculous notions of work-life balance, their harmful feminisation of men, and how they are ruining the next generation and not doing their patriotic duty of having children. Before we know it, they’ll be saying most people shouldn’t be allowed to vote, because they don’t contribute enough to this country to deserve a vote - people should do as they are told.

This is absurd.

The most extreme politics is emerging in EU countries, not here.

Walkaround · 05/05/2025 19:35

Skippydoodle · 05/05/2025 19:22

Brexit didn’t deliver because Brexit didn’t really happen. We resigned about 10% of what was originally signed up for. It was only Brexit in name.

🤣Yes - wtf are we still doing where we are, geographically and economically?! We voted to float physically right out of Europe and stop being an island reliant on the world around us to provide us with all the resources we need. I can’t believe we haven’t done this, yet. I blame the boats. And the Establishment. And teachers. And benefit scroungers. Until we can free ourselves from the yoke of all those countries floating around nearby, and dispose of the people holding us back, we’ll never be accepted as the 53rd state (after Canada and Greenland).

Azdcgbjml · 05/05/2025 19:30

Skippydoodle · 05/05/2025 19:25

We were not given a vote to join first time around, so why expect one now? FFS

No, but the UK did hold a referendum on whether to remain a member of the European Community in 1975. The UK joined the European Economic Community in 1973 but the question of membership was not then put to a popular vote (instead it was decided in Parliament). The Labour Party won the General Election in 1974 after promising in its election manifesto that it would hold a referendum on whether the UK should continue to be a member (on renegotiated terms) or leave the EU entirely. The referendum was held on 5 June 1975. Just over 67% of those who voted cast their vote in support of continued membership, and the UK remained a part of European integration until it left in 2020.

TempestTost · 05/05/2025 19:29

Genevieva · 05/05/2025 12:27

Our government could have delivered Brexit and kept free movement of people. It was their choice not to and it’s so central to the European project that it shut off other opportunities too. I don’t think it was the hill to die on, but it’s the one they chose.

But why would they do that? Free movement of people has been one of the the main issues for Euroskeptics for decades, particularly the ones on the left.

Skippydoodle · 05/05/2025 19:25

KimberleyClark · 05/05/2025 11:07

I think there would have to be another referendum for us to rejoin, and I wouldn’t trust the British electorate not to vote to stay out.

We were not given a vote to join first time around, so why expect one now? FFS

TopPocketFind · 05/05/2025 19:23

TempestTost · 05/05/2025 19:18

Yes, Germany is in serious trouble which should give pause to anyone wanting to reenter the EU.

One of the factors was that Germany relied heavily on Russian gas

There are 26 other countries you can look at

Skippydoodle · 05/05/2025 19:22

BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

Brexit didn’t deliver because Brexit didn’t really happen. We resigned about 10% of what was originally signed up for. It was only Brexit in name.

TopPocketFind · 05/05/2025 19:20

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 18:54

You are quoting the OBR's long term assumption and of course things might have been different if it were not for Covid or the war in Ukraine/energy crisis. Although I am more than happy in the event of another referendum for pro-EU economists to argue how much richer we will be if we rejoin. If the promises don't match up can we have another go at leaving within 10 years of rejoining?

The benefits were promised to be there as soon as we left the EU, having all the cards, the easiest trade deals, no more red tape etc

Every country had to deal with Covid and the invasion of Ukraine.

How are we prospering outside the EU? Vote leave promised riches, rejoiners or whatever you want to call them are not making such claims.

Being outside of the EU has made the UK poorer, there is no denying that fact.

TempestTost · 05/05/2025 19:18

Somethingscintilling · 05/05/2025 11:49

BTW some eu counties are in recession, we are teetering, eu citizens are not happy and the financial thrust of Europe is essential Germany and then France and Germany is really struggling.
So....

Yes, Germany is in serious trouble which should give pause to anyone wanting to reenter the EU.

TooBigForMyBoots · 05/05/2025 19:11

Thephantom · 05/05/2025 17:14

A choice that doesn't accord with your own isn't necessarily a "stupid" choice. What is important to you may not be important for someone else.Children should not be taught to be entitled and to believe that their thinking is the only right way and that everyone else that disagrees with them is stupid.

Consciously voting to damage your own country is a stupid choice. Lets face it, Brexit was a mistake for the UK🤷‍♀️.

WhoDatDen · 05/05/2025 18:56

Plus if we had a free trade agreement with the EU, our nearest trading block, it would mitigate the impact of Trump's tariffs.

We do have a free trade agreement with the EU.

Brexit cannot be reversed as it is a historic event. We can apply to rejoin, but people say we had such a great deal before and we hated it. It will be a hard sell to rejoin with worst terms than before. Germany contributes about £33 billion per year and we were second largest, so our payments will be up there near Germany's - plus take the euro, accept schengen etc - did they put that in the poll? I cannot see many accepting that.

Re: the economy - has anyone looked at Germany's? They are tanking and not in a good place. France is stagnating. If being in the EU is so marvellous why are they not flourishing? Could it be we are all reeling from Covid, Ukraine etc.

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 18:54

TopPocketFind · 05/05/2025 18:19

Not quite the sunlit uplands we were promised.

The UK would prosper outside the EU said Vote Leave, instead it knocked 4 per cent from the size of Britain’s economy.

I guess it could have been worse Confused

You are quoting the OBR's long term assumption and of course things might have been different if it were not for Covid or the war in Ukraine/energy crisis. Although I am more than happy in the event of another referendum for pro-EU economists to argue how much richer we will be if we rejoin. If the promises don't match up can we have another go at leaving within 10 years of rejoining?

FrippEnos · 05/05/2025 18:21

Theunamedcat · 05/05/2025 17:41

Brexit was an advisory vote I've really no clue why they actually went through with it people were disenfranchised with the whole situation instead of listening and working with the people to resolve the issue they threw their toys out the pram and left

Because the whole of parliament is full of gutless wonders.

even those that claimed that they didn't want to leave didn't have the wherewithal to stand up and push for something that they claimed they believed in.

Perplexed20 · 05/05/2025 18:21

NHS budget.

We also have less beds, we also have less diagnostics than comparable countries. I'm happy to discuss as this is an area of expertise...but don't want to derail this thread.

To want Brexit be reversed
TopPocketFind · 05/05/2025 18:19

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 17:34

Didn't the UK economy shrink by about £140 billion due to Brexit?

The UK economy hasn't shrunk, it's grown - you are thinking of studies claiming that the economy would have grown even more than it has if it were not for Brexit.

Not quite the sunlit uplands we were promised.

The UK would prosper outside the EU said Vote Leave, instead it knocked 4 per cent from the size of Britain’s economy.

I guess it could have been worse Confused