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BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

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Boomer55 · 06/05/2025 08:21

There was a vote and Leave won 🤷‍♀️. I didn’t vote for it, but that’s democracy.

Rummly · 06/05/2025 08:19

Notonthestairs · 06/05/2025 08:16

Again with "pro-EU" economists - were they pro our membership because it made financial sense to keep trade barriers with the EU to the minimum?
Economists studying the economic fall out - rather than political columnists.

If an economist said that they thought Brexit was economically a bad idea and argued against it, were they pro- or anti-Brexit?

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 06/05/2025 08:19

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 08:09

It isn't difficult to say no to (non small boat) immigration . Now we have left the EU there is no right to free movement. The governments in power simply haven't had the will. If they don't find some motivation to reduce numbers right down they won't be in power again and we will have a reform government.

Yes tackling the boats is very difficult but they are not even doing the easy stuff. Perrhaps people would be more understanding of the difficulties of stopping the boats (while still expecting progress) if 900,000 other people (net) weren't being allowed in.

Edit to add: when people are actually fleeing danger e.g. the Ukraine war woman and children are well represented if not the majority. Remarkable that for people arriving on small boats the young men are "persecuted" and their women and children left behind. They are economic migrants else they wouldn't leave their families behind would they?

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Out of interest, which categories of legal immigration would you say no to?

Notonthestairs · 06/05/2025 08:16

Again with "pro-EU" economists - were they pro our membership because it made financial sense to keep trade barriers with the EU to the minimum?
Economists studying the economic fall out - rather than political columnists.

Rummly · 06/05/2025 08:12

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 07:50

Another is that if you think that no economist should have been allowed to present a pro-Brexit view, which according to Maitlis is the logic of interviewing any EU-supporting economist, it would be an admission that no argument against EU membership can be tolerated at all.

No, that's not what she says. Her quote states very clearly that they had 60 times more luck finding pro EU economists than pro-Brexit ones. What she means is that it tells you something about the ratio of pro v anti in the economists community. But if you present a 1/60 ratio as 1/2 you are clearly biased. That's her point. It's not about allowing an opinion, it's about reflecting a fact (ie. that only 1 in 60 economists that they talked to was in favour of leave). Journalists should be about reporting facts, not opinion.

Yes, I’ve covered all that.

Let me put it this way. Do you think that pro-EU economists should have been interviewed on TV? If so, should pro-Brexit economists have also been interviewed?

If you think the answers are yes and yes, as you seem to, how would you go about it? Would you have had 61 economists in the Newsnight studio, only one of whom was pro-Brexit? Or maybe just 20 to 1, even though that would be, you say, badly unrepresentative?

Of course your answers might be yes and no. In which case you don’t think pro-Brexit arguments should have been heard.

As to facts and opinions, I really don’t think there’s a better example of opinion than economic predictions. By definition they’re opinion.

Walkaround · 06/05/2025 08:11

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 08:09

It isn't difficult to say no to (non small boat) immigration . Now we have left the EU there is no right to free movement. The governments in power simply haven't had the will. If they don't find some motivation to reduce numbers right down they won't be in power again and we will have a reform government.

Yes tackling the boats is very difficult but they are not even doing the easy stuff. Perrhaps people would be more understanding of the difficulties of stopping the boats (while still expecting progress) if 900,000 other people (net) weren't being allowed in.

Edit to add: when people are actually fleeing danger e.g. the Ukraine war woman and children are well represented if not the majority. Remarkable that for people arriving on small boats the young men are "persecuted" and their women and children left behind. They are economic migrants else they wouldn't leave their families behind would they?

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You think the boat crossings had anything to do with the right to free movement?! And you think pissing off our closest neighbours helped?!

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 08:09

Walkaround · 05/05/2025 21:19

Easy to decline them? Clearly not. Besides, what people are clamouring for the Government to decline are the people arriving illegally and being put up in hotels, not the people coming into the country legally, despite the latter being the vast majority. Asylum seekers may not be a majority of immigrants, but they are the ones being demonised and picked on and accused of not being genuine. It’s incredibly inconvenient that it’s expensive and time consuming working out what to do with people who claim to be fleeing persecution. And their numbers will only grow. The legal migrants, meanwhile, clearly come with benefits, or it wouldn’t be so difficult keeping those numbers down.

It isn't difficult to say no to (non small boat) immigration . Now we have left the EU there is no right to free movement. The governments in power simply haven't had the will. If they don't find some motivation to reduce numbers right down they won't be in power again and we will have a reform government.

Yes tackling the boats is very difficult but they are not even doing the easy stuff. Perrhaps people would be more understanding of the difficulties of stopping the boats (while still expecting progress) if 900,000 other people (net) weren't being allowed in.

Edit to add: when people are actually fleeing danger e.g. the Ukraine war woman and children are well represented if not the majority. Remarkable that for people arriving on small boats the young men are "persecuted" and their women and children left behind. They are economic migrants else they wouldn't leave their families behind would they?

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 08:09

Notonthestairs · 06/05/2025 07:59

I understand that - I'm saying that economists were putting forward arguments about our economy and therefore shouldnt be viewed as making political commentary.
The fact that by far and away the majority of them thought it was a bad idea doesnt make them anti Brexit, just doing their jobs.

I see the distinction you are making. Economists aren't politicians however I suppose their professional background may have swayed them if they couldn't find measurable upsides for Brexit - and in any case, the economy has a huge impact on political outcomes so you can't really separate the two.

Walkaround · 06/05/2025 08:06

Walkaround · 06/05/2025 07:55

Anyone suggesting the UK was going to save £350 million a week as a result of leaving the EU was quite frankly lying.

But of course, it doesn’t look so good on the side of a bus to say, “Let’s pretend we can keep the benefits of being part of the EU without paying the membership fee.”

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 08:03

Walkaround · 05/05/2025 22:46

And what does “single market” mean to most people? It’s just more words, like “European Union,” and means whatever people they want to listen to tell them it means. What people listened and responded to were what they were told the potential benefits of leaving the EU would be. People were told the single market meant straight bananas, and money going to bureaucrats to make unnecessary red tape rather than money being spent on the UK in the UK. They were told we didn’t need the EU because the UK was a country the world was clamouring to do business with and that the EU was just holding us back. They were told we were being ripped off by the EU. They were told that the remain campaign was just sticking with something inadequate due to cowardice and lack of vision. It’s easy to sell a fantasy. Reality is always harder to sell.

Single market means free movement of goods, services and people. No tariffs, no checks, no visas - ie. no red tape.
Brexiteers and MAGA are deluded in the exact same way: putting up barriers is supposedly good for business and ordinary households. It's Orwellian in its level of gaslighting.

Notonthestairs · 06/05/2025 07:59

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 07:57

The economic consequences of leaving the EU absolutely had to be addressed. Even now, they should be seriously (re)assessed. So it was absolutely relevant to ask economists about the pros and cons of leaving the single market and customs unions.

I understand that - I'm saying that economists were putting forward arguments about our economy and therefore shouldnt be viewed as making political commentary.
The fact that by far and away the majority of them thought it was a bad idea doesnt make them anti Brexit, just doing their jobs.

Keepingthingsinteresting · 06/05/2025 07:57

FrippEnos · 06/05/2025 05:08

you may have been a lone sensible voice in the wilderness. But the vast majority of remain voters were not.

And that is why you still occasionally hear the whinging cry of "why won't brexiteers engage with us?"

If that is true the brexiteers have brought it on themselves, they cannot expect to fuck up our country and economy through their stupidity they expect everyone to be nice to them.

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 07:57

Notonthestairs · 06/05/2025 07:53

I'm not sure economists should be necessarily be bracketed as pro or anti EU.
Surely they would be putting forward economic arguments rather political ones.

The economic consequences of leaving the EU absolutely had to be addressed. Even now, they should be seriously (re)assessed. So it was absolutely relevant to ask economists about the pros and cons of leaving the single market and customs unions.

Walkaround · 06/05/2025 07:55

Jumpingthruhoops · 06/05/2025 00:28

Hmm... Now, see, this is something that people keep getting wrong...

The exact statement made on buses during the Brexit campaign was: "We send the EU £350 million a week, let's fund our NHS instead."

What is incorrect about that statement?
Surely it stands to reason that, if we're not sending the EU £350 million a week, then those funds could be available to put towards our NHS?

However, at no point did ANYONE categorically claim that: 'We WILL put the £350 million a week we're not sending the EU directly into the NHS'.

So anyone suggesting they did say this is, frankly, lying.

Anyone suggesting the UK was going to save £350 million a week as a result of leaving the EU was quite frankly lying.

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 07:53

TheKeatingFive · 06/05/2025 07:18

That's politically unsellable though

It isn't. Most people want closer economic and defence ties with the EU.

Notonthestairs · 06/05/2025 07:53

I'm not sure economists should be necessarily be bracketed as pro or anti EU.
Surely they would be putting forward economic arguments rather political ones.

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 07:50

Another is that if you think that no economist should have been allowed to present a pro-Brexit view, which according to Maitlis is the logic of interviewing any EU-supporting economist, it would be an admission that no argument against EU membership can be tolerated at all.

No, that's not what she says. Her quote states very clearly that they had 60 times more luck finding pro EU economists than pro-Brexit ones. What she means is that it tells you something about the ratio of pro v anti in the economists community. But if you present a 1/60 ratio as 1/2 you are clearly biased. That's her point. It's not about allowing an opinion, it's about reflecting a fact (ie. that only 1 in 60 economists that they talked to was in favour of leave). Journalists should be about reporting facts, not opinion.

Rummly · 06/05/2025 07:42

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 07:21

No it isn't. She is right. Some ideas are spectacularly shit and have to be treated as such. Doesn't mean you can't talk about them of course - but you should not over-represent the shit idea for the sake of a misconceived idea of balance.
Don't confuse opinions and facts. All opinions are equal but all facts are not.

There are all sorts of problems with that.

One of them is that the pro-EU economists must have been very poor at making a case against Brexit if they didn’t say - assuming it’s true - that barely any economists took the other view. Even Maitlis herself could have put the difficulty of finding a pro-Brexit economist to an interviewee.

Another is that if you think that no economist should have been allowed to present a pro-Brexit view, which according to Maitlis is the logic of interviewing any EU-supporting economist, it would be an admission that no argument against EU membership can be tolerated at all.

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 07:21

Rummly · 06/05/2025 07:12

I’m surprised Emily Maitlis said that.

It is a remarkably stupid statement.

No it isn't. She is right. Some ideas are spectacularly shit and have to be treated as such. Doesn't mean you can't talk about them of course - but you should not over-represent the shit idea for the sake of a misconceived idea of balance.
Don't confuse opinions and facts. All opinions are equal but all facts are not.

TheKeatingFive · 06/05/2025 07:18

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 07:16

Perhaps, but any deal will be an improvement on the no deal - or barely any deal- we currently have.

That's politically unsellable though

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 07:16

JorgyPorgy · 05/05/2025 22:22

If we rejoined it wouldn’t be on as good a terms as it was before, the deal would not be as good I don’t think

Perhaps, but any deal will be an improvement on the no deal - or barely any deal- we currently have.

Rummly · 06/05/2025 07:12

rockstarshoes · 05/05/2025 23:18

I can’t read a Brexit thread without thinking of the Emily Maitless quote

“It might take our producers five minutes to find 60 economists who feared Brexit and five hours to find a sole voice who espoused it.
“But by the time we went on air we simply had one of each; we presented this unequal effort to our audience as balance. It wasn’t.”
She added: “I’d later learn that the ungainly name for this myopic style of journalism: ‘both-sideism’, which talks to the way it reaches a superficial balance while obscuring a deeper truth.”

We were absolutely screwed over!

I’m surprised Emily Maitlis said that.

It is a remarkably stupid statement.

FridayorSaturdaywhicheversuits · 06/05/2025 06:57

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 18:08

To be fair, the NHS budget in England alone rose by £400 million a week in real terms between the referendum in 2016 and 2019/20, the year before Covid.

Yes but that wasn’t a direct benefit of Brexit as it was peddled to be; it was the consequence of a pandemic.

Neemie · 06/05/2025 06:06

Topsyturvy78 · 06/05/2025 00:03

Ment to say the £350 million a week that would go to the NHS instead. Even printed it on a bus and the Brexit voters fell for it.

A lot more than £350 million extra a week must have been spent on the NHS during covid. I realise that isn’t quite what people had in mind though.

Southwestten · 06/05/2025 05:24

Op you know there is a Brexit topic where you can post on this subject?
It has loads of different of posters and all views - pro and anti - are welcomed.

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