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BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

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Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 11:27

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 06/05/2025 11:10

So what are you saying in response to my question? That you would stop all immigration? In all categories?

Or would you prioritise between different groups? I'm interested in which groups you would prioritise over others.

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If I had the authority I would copy the Australian model and prioritise people where we had a genuine skills shortage and they had a genuine skill.

Not care work or similar (I work in care) and while it is important to be compassionate etc it's not a skill that we need to hunt around the world for.

To fill care/healthcare assistant vacancies we just need to offer people pay that is fair and motivating versus being on benefits/working in retail etc. At the moment people with kids can work a couple of days and be topped up to a higher salary than they could hope to earn working full time in these jobs.

I think it is important to distinguish that people do not come to Britain to work in care. They work in care to come to Britain. These are very different things and for most as soon as they have citizenship/don't need a sponsor they will be out of care as quick as they can for better paid and more prestigious work. They do not aspire for their children to work in care. Trying to fill social care vacancies with international labour is like trying to fill a bucket full of holes.

I also do not think we can afford to bring people's older generation relatives over. We all know that a dementia diagnosis for example can result in several years stay in a care home at over 1k each week. We can't afford to nurse the world's elderly - it is difficult enough to nurse our own. People from another country that want to take care of their elderly parents can choose to go to their original country to care for them if they choose.

EasternStandard · 06/05/2025 11:25

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 11:07

All immigration that takes us over a net balance of zero (numbers of people leaving versus numbers arriving roughly) as we have zero excess of housing.

I am reading today about the government looking at visas for people who are most likely to overstay e.g. come as students and later claim asylum. I've chatted to someone myself whose family has come on a student visa from Nigeria. They were totally open that the person "studying" in no way needed the degree and was highly educated in Nigeria but it was a route into Britain for the whole family.

Immigration becomes such an loaded issue but the difference between 200k or 700k or net migration at 0 isn't a moral thing it's an economic issue.

Other countries do seem more pragmatic over how they benefit.

I get the housing and space argument plus I don't think we can just keep going up indefinitely, where are we in a few decades then, with a bigger problem? But I get the economic hit especially for universities and the impact on care or health.

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 11:21

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 10:20

I don't think anyone feels they have a right to "mind" that say Australia is difficult to emigrate to do they?

People know if they want to be able to live/work/stay in Australia - they have no right do it. Australia has to be convinced that you will be a benefit to their country and meet the barriers to entry that they set - otherwise it is a no. Seems perfectly sensible to me.

The UK already does this, you need to apply for a visa to come and live, work, study here.

If you want to stop all immigration, will you also stop all emigration?

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 06/05/2025 11:10

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 11:07

All immigration that takes us over a net balance of zero (numbers of people leaving versus numbers arriving roughly) as we have zero excess of housing.

I am reading today about the government looking at visas for people who are most likely to overstay e.g. come as students and later claim asylum. I've chatted to someone myself whose family has come on a student visa from Nigeria. They were totally open that the person "studying" in no way needed the degree and was highly educated in Nigeria but it was a route into Britain for the whole family.

So what are you saying in response to my question? That you would stop all immigration? In all categories?

Or would you prioritise between different groups? I'm interested in which groups you would prioritise over others.

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 11:07

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 06/05/2025 08:19

Out of interest, which categories of legal immigration would you say no to?

All immigration that takes us over a net balance of zero (numbers of people leaving versus numbers arriving roughly) as we have zero excess of housing.

I am reading today about the government looking at visas for people who are most likely to overstay e.g. come as students and later claim asylum. I've chatted to someone myself whose family has come on a student visa from Nigeria. They were totally open that the person "studying" in no way needed the degree and was highly educated in Nigeria but it was a route into Britain for the whole family.

MrsSkylerWhite · 06/05/2025 10:28

Thephantom · 05/05/2025 15:44

What I meant was the referendum has been done, people have spoken via their votes and it is what it is. Not sure why people have to keep going on and on about what they wish. This is what living in a democracy is like. We all can't have everything we want the way we it. Uk is not going to keep having referendums each time a poll indicates something. Polls aren't always correct either. People just need to stop whinging and get on with it.

Referenda are not a one time thing.

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 10:22

Or like Brexiters blamed everything on the EU when we were still in?...

Wishing14 · 06/05/2025 10:21

It’s nice to have something to blame everything on though. Makes things simple. Late for work? Brexit. Reversed into someone’s car? Sorry, Brexit. Contraception failed? Yeah, that was Brexit.

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 10:20

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 08:23

You won't mind then if other countries also say no to immigration and close their borders to British people?

I don't think anyone feels they have a right to "mind" that say Australia is difficult to emigrate to do they?

People know if they want to be able to live/work/stay in Australia - they have no right do it. Australia has to be convinced that you will be a benefit to their country and meet the barriers to entry that they set - otherwise it is a no. Seems perfectly sensible to me.

Winelondon · 06/05/2025 10:12

Clavinova · 05/05/2025 17:34

Didn't the UK economy shrink by about £140 billion due to Brexit?

The UK economy hasn't shrunk, it's grown - you are thinking of studies claiming that the economy would have grown even more than it has if it were not for Brexit.

Brexit has cost the economy billions -

https://www.london.gov.uk/new-report-reveals-uk-economy-almost-ps140billion-smaller-because-brexit

New report reveals UK economy is almost £140billion smaller because of Brexit

Mayor reveals London’s economy alone has shrunk by more than £30billion

https://www.london.gov.uk/new-report-reveals-uk-economy-almost-ps140billion-smaller-because-brexit

Winelondon · 06/05/2025 10:10

Chester23 · 05/05/2025 11:26

Not everything is because of brexit. As someone else has said, we've had covid, Ukraine war, trumps policies. Take a look at the wider work instead of just blaming brexit

yes agreed but.... Brexit has just aggravated these issues.

Winelondon · 06/05/2025 10:08

BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

I couldnt agree with you more. The problem is how we reverse Brexit?

People like Farage completely misled the country with their total fiction that was Brexit. Never made sense and never will. Now the reality is biting as remainers predicted it would.

DoRayMeMeMe · 06/05/2025 09:55

Viviennemary · 06/05/2025 08:27

I feel the absolute opposite to you. I am glad we are out of Europe. They stitched us up at every turn. Good riddance I say.

“stitched us up” strikes me as being a very silly response.
You need to read Sir Ivan Roger’s 9 Lessons of Brexit, or if you can’t be bothered just the first two (a) Brexit means Brexit, or, you don’t get the benefits of membership unless you’re a member and (b) other people have sovereignty too, meaning the EU owed the UK absolutely nothing. The UK wasn’t stitched up, it was delusional and got pissy when reality came calling.

1SillySossij · 06/05/2025 09:33

We still have the 2nd largest economy and gdp in Europe, the same as we did in 2019.

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 09:03

Rummly · 06/05/2025 08:48

I said that any decent interviewee or the presenter themselves should have made the point about the balance of opinion. That’s the point of interviews, questions and arguments.

The flat earth comparison is silly - unless you genuinely think that being in the EU is scientifically provable to be better than not. This was a political issue, not something demonstrably true or false using measuring instruments.

I doubt that the Brexit debate could be shown to be any more dishonest than any political campaign.

Even so, as I said upthread, I opted for remain, all considered, including what I will admit is an emotional belief that we should be aligned with other European nations.

But I’d like to think that I can see things ‘in colour’ and that this subject is not as one-sided or obvious as some EU supporters on here maintain. Certainly, saying that Brexit supporters are all very thick and easily led is an unhelpful position (I’m not suggesting you think or say that, but it’s all over these threads).

Generally, I do think there’s a rather disagreeable middle class ‘I’m educated and well-travelled, you’re not, so do as I say’ whiff about these threads.

I get that the Flat Earth comparison was rather derogatory but I meant that as an example of an outlier theory. Economically-speaking, I do think that the business case for leaving the EU was unsound. If you take other factors into consideration, I could understand the sovereignty argument, but then I'm a realist who doesn't believe that true sovereignty (in the way that leavers want to achieve) is realistic in this day and age. Nations are interdependent and if you leave one bloc as a middle power, you will fall into the orbit of another superpower. In that respect, I thought that being a senior member of the only bloc that is based on partnerships of equals, flawed as it may be, was preferable to becoming the vassal of another superpower. I frankly don't know right now what the partnership with the EU will look like if we get closer to them, but I would not want an alignment with Trump.

Rummly · 06/05/2025 08:48

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 08:26

Well... I think they should have emphasised the actual ratio. I didn't even know it was that dramatically negative (and I was pretty plugged in during the lead up to the referendum). The pro-Leave case was given a platform which conferred it a veneer of rationality that it did not deserve. By giving a systematic 50-50 representation, voters were led to believe that it was not the outlier option it should have been - at least on the economy. That is why I am in fact much more pissed off with Cameron than I am with Farage. Farage was being Farage, but without Cameron's arrogant complacency we wouldn't be in this shit.
To go back to your initial question, no, in a case like this, it's a bit like asking if a Flat-Earther should have a platform at a planetary convention.
In terms of the economy, voting Brexit was on the level of Flat Earth belief and it should have been presented as such. But ultimately, it was a vote about identity and emotions. Do you FEEL more European? Do you want Britain (England, really, after all the bus was red) to remain British. There's no arguing with feelings, which is why I don't judge leave voters. I just think the Brexit referendum by nature was misleading and manipulative.

I said that any decent interviewee or the presenter themselves should have made the point about the balance of opinion. That’s the point of interviews, questions and arguments.

The flat earth comparison is silly - unless you genuinely think that being in the EU is scientifically provable to be better than not. This was a political issue, not something demonstrably true or false using measuring instruments.

I doubt that the Brexit debate could be shown to be any more dishonest than any political campaign.

Even so, as I said upthread, I opted for remain, all considered, including what I will admit is an emotional belief that we should be aligned with other European nations.

But I’d like to think that I can see things ‘in colour’ and that this subject is not as one-sided or obvious as some EU supporters on here maintain. Certainly, saying that Brexit supporters are all very thick and easily led is an unhelpful position (I’m not suggesting you think or say that, but it’s all over these threads).

Generally, I do think there’s a rather disagreeable middle class ‘I’m educated and well-travelled, you’re not, so do as I say’ whiff about these threads.

EasternStandard · 06/05/2025 08:30

Theunamedcat · 06/05/2025 08:24

It was advisory they gave the impression it wouldn't happen either way they were simply gauging the will of the people I don't think they would have voted that way had the government nor put it in those terms

Did they give that impression?

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 08:28

@Viviennemary - I know you do. I remember the old Brexit threads.

SocialEvent · 06/05/2025 08:28

I agree with you OP. Brexit has been a complete failure based on lies and exaggerations of its benefits from the outset of its campaigns. At the time it felt like a protest vote at the lack of concern economically for people living outside richer areas of the UK.

Now, hanging on to Brexit is madness. it’s made the UK much more vulnerable to global politics and its knocked billions off our economy compared to if we’d stayed in the EU.

Viviennemary · 06/05/2025 08:27

I feel the absolute opposite to you. I am glad we are out of Europe. They stitched us up at every turn. Good riddance I say.

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 08:26

Rummly · 06/05/2025 08:12

Yes, I’ve covered all that.

Let me put it this way. Do you think that pro-EU economists should have been interviewed on TV? If so, should pro-Brexit economists have also been interviewed?

If you think the answers are yes and yes, as you seem to, how would you go about it? Would you have had 61 economists in the Newsnight studio, only one of whom was pro-Brexit? Or maybe just 20 to 1, even though that would be, you say, badly unrepresentative?

Of course your answers might be yes and no. In which case you don’t think pro-Brexit arguments should have been heard.

As to facts and opinions, I really don’t think there’s a better example of opinion than economic predictions. By definition they’re opinion.

Well... I think they should have emphasised the actual ratio. I didn't even know it was that dramatically negative (and I was pretty plugged in during the lead up to the referendum). The pro-Leave case was given a platform which conferred it a veneer of rationality that it did not deserve. By giving a systematic 50-50 representation, voters were led to believe that it was not the outlier option it should have been - at least on the economy. That is why I am in fact much more pissed off with Cameron than I am with Farage. Farage was being Farage, but without Cameron's arrogant complacency we wouldn't be in this shit.
To go back to your initial question, no, in a case like this, it's a bit like asking if a Flat-Earther should have a platform at a planetary convention.
In terms of the economy, voting Brexit was on the level of Flat Earth belief and it should have been presented as such. But ultimately, it was a vote about identity and emotions. Do you FEEL more European? Do you want Britain (England, really, after all the bus was red) to remain British. There's no arguing with feelings, which is why I don't judge leave voters. I just think the Brexit referendum by nature was misleading and manipulative.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 06/05/2025 08:25

Boomer55 · 06/05/2025 08:21

There was a vote and Leave won 🤷‍♀️. I didn’t vote for it, but that’s democracy.

Wow, thanks for enlightening us all. We'd never have known.

Theunamedcat · 06/05/2025 08:24

Boomer55 · 06/05/2025 08:21

There was a vote and Leave won 🤷‍♀️. I didn’t vote for it, but that’s democracy.

It was advisory they gave the impression it wouldn't happen either way they were simply gauging the will of the people I don't think they would have voted that way had the government nor put it in those terms

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 08:23

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 08:09

It isn't difficult to say no to (non small boat) immigration . Now we have left the EU there is no right to free movement. The governments in power simply haven't had the will. If they don't find some motivation to reduce numbers right down they won't be in power again and we will have a reform government.

Yes tackling the boats is very difficult but they are not even doing the easy stuff. Perrhaps people would be more understanding of the difficulties of stopping the boats (while still expecting progress) if 900,000 other people (net) weren't being allowed in.

Edit to add: when people are actually fleeing danger e.g. the Ukraine war woman and children are well represented if not the majority. Remarkable that for people arriving on small boats the young men are "persecuted" and their women and children left behind. They are economic migrants else they wouldn't leave their families behind would they?

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You won't mind then if other countries also say no to immigration and close their borders to British people?