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BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

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FridayorSaturdaywhicheversuits · 06/05/2025 14:17

babyproblems · 06/05/2025 12:32

I think you’re far from alone @BeKookySheep !!!

I would love it to be reversed in future.
Honestly people in the UK don’t know they’re born. Once COL rises and they can’t cope perhaps they’ll come back down with a bang. People wonder why we joined Europe in the first place - it was about avoiding death and war. I hope we don’t have to sink to those lows again before we can get over our arrogance.

Yes! Speaking of avoiding war … the question of political allegiances looms large atm given Trump’s current actions.

It’s increasingly alarming reading about Trump putting tax obstacles in place to stop the top US universities from receiving funding; and overseeing the arrests of judges, his stated intentions towards Gaza, Canada and Greenland, and so much more.

It’s all hideously reminiscent of the 1930s.

The UK is going to have to decide soon whether the USA is an ally or not?

When is Keir going to speak up?

It makes it harder for him to do so when the UK is a small group of countries isolated on its own; no longer part of the EU with the joint power and influence of 27 countries.

JHound · 06/05/2025 14:12

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 12:11

Have we tried offering carers high salaries then? That gem must have passed me by.

And as a country we can stipulate the jobs/people we will give a visa for. If we only have 300,000 visas to dish out after allowing for boat/lorry arrivals and other humanitarian visas then we would have to get as selective as that required.

Edit to answer "carers thst WANT" to do it. People do not move internationally because they "WANT to work in care" they do it because they "WANT" to live in the UK. A lot of these people will be out of care the minute they are allowed to get a different job.

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No I do think we should offer higher salaries (but then that needs money - where does that come from?)

But then point is the industry has an issue not just for the money but because it is incredibly undesirable work. If people can make the same money elsewhere, they will. You could double my income and I still would not look after the elderly for a profession and many feel likewise. So how much more would you have to pay to get the right people who are there not just because of cash, but because they are passionate about caring for the elderly / children?

I did not say we cannot be selective, we already are in our skilled migrant pathway. I just keep seeing people cite Austria without knowing what types of professions they have on their skills shortage list. It’s not just high earners.

JHound · 06/05/2025 14:07

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 12:25

The issue is that we have no spare housing and are increasing our population 900,000 in one year.

But that’s a separate point. The poster seemed to be critical of a migrant being strategic in their life choices to allow them to move country.

babyproblems · 06/05/2025 12:32

I think you’re far from alone @BeKookySheep !!!

I would love it to be reversed in future.
Honestly people in the UK don’t know they’re born. Once COL rises and they can’t cope perhaps they’ll come back down with a bang. People wonder why we joined Europe in the first place - it was about avoiding death and war. I hope we don’t have to sink to those lows again before we can get over our arrogance.

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 12:25

JHound · 06/05/2025 12:02

I am not sure why that is an issue? Would be migrant chooses a specific route that increases their likelihood of being able to move to the UK.

I did the same when I moved to Australia.

The issue is that we have no spare housing and are increasing our population 900,000 in one year.

EasternStandard · 06/05/2025 12:24

What happens if you have a care visa currently, can you work in other jobs?

ETA I see in @winter2020 pp you can get citizenship then switch.

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 12:23

I am sure that British people emigrating for work to Australia also do this because they WANT to live in Australia Confused

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 12:19

Perplexed20 · 06/05/2025 12:12

What examples can you give?

Over 900,000 people (net) migrating to the UK in 2023?

StMarie4me · 06/05/2025 12:19

HopingForTheBest25 · 05/05/2025 11:21

If we rejoined the EU where would that leave the SC ruling? Bearing in mind that may EU nations are completely captured by gender ideology. Would we be able to resist any potential challenge in the European courts - would it outrank our own court?

So you would continue to wreck the country because you think that one day a trans woman might want a pee in the next cubicle to you if you don’t?!
Read it all now.

Perplexed20 · 06/05/2025 12:12

Dogpatter · 06/05/2025 11:57

It hasn’t delivered what was promised because the civil service and government don’t actually want to deliver it, so have intentionally implemented it poorly because they don’t want it to work.

Its weaponised incompetence on an international level and an appalling example of politicians who would rather be proved right than do what is best for their country

What examples can you give?

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 12:11

JHound · 06/05/2025 12:07

You know the Australia skills shortage route also takes in people like carers, hairdressers and florists right? It’s not just highly paid professions. A lot of people like to cite Australia without realising what their system is actually like (they also have exceptionally high rates of immigrationn- higher than ours.

As for carers - it’s not merely the money. It’s that it is tedious, unpleasant and dirty and most people just have zero interest in that kind of work. No matter what the salaries. And we need carers who WANT to do it otherwise the quality of care is abysmal.

Have we tried offering carers high salaries then? That gem must have passed me by.

And as a country we can stipulate the jobs/people we will give a visa for. If we only have 300,000 visas to dish out after allowing for boat/lorry arrivals and other humanitarian visas then we would have to get as selective as that required.

Edit to answer "carers thst WANT" to do it. People do not move internationally because they "WANT to work in care" they do it because they "WANT" to live in the UK. A lot of these people will be out of care the minute they are allowed to get a different job.

Notonthestairs · 06/05/2025 12:09

JHound · 06/05/2025 12:03

What was promised and how are the civil service and government blocking it?

Yes, I’d be interested in the answer to this.

JHound · 06/05/2025 12:09

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 11:27

If I had the authority I would copy the Australian model and prioritise people where we had a genuine skills shortage and they had a genuine skill.

Not care work or similar (I work in care) and while it is important to be compassionate etc it's not a skill that we need to hunt around the world for.

To fill care/healthcare assistant vacancies we just need to offer people pay that is fair and motivating versus being on benefits/working in retail etc. At the moment people with kids can work a couple of days and be topped up to a higher salary than they could hope to earn working full time in these jobs.

I think it is important to distinguish that people do not come to Britain to work in care. They work in care to come to Britain. These are very different things and for most as soon as they have citizenship/don't need a sponsor they will be out of care as quick as they can for better paid and more prestigious work. They do not aspire for their children to work in care. Trying to fill social care vacancies with international labour is like trying to fill a bucket full of holes.

I also do not think we can afford to bring people's older generation relatives over. We all know that a dementia diagnosis for example can result in several years stay in a care home at over 1k each week. We can't afford to nurse the world's elderly - it is difficult enough to nurse our own. People from another country that want to take care of their elderly parents can choose to go to their original country to care for them if they choose.

Care workers are included in Australia’s Skills Shortage list FTR.

I absolutely take your point on people doing care work to come to Britain but we need to think about how we get the number of carers we need each year given how few people want to do it.

JHound · 06/05/2025 12:07

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 11:42

Perhaps - I'm not familiar with the rules of that. If they are actually highly skilled and it's not possible to train or employ British people then yes - up to the limit of net zero immigration - entries = leavers.

If the "skilled worker visa scheme" includes all the care workers and general health care assistant /other jobs that you can learn to do in a few weeks or months then no. I work in care and it is not a skill we need to hunt the world for. The people coming from abroad to work in care are not "highly skilled" (though they might be very nice). No "skilled visas" should be neccessary for any job that someone can train up for in a few weeks or months.

You know the Australia skills shortage route also takes in people like carers, hairdressers and florists right? It’s not just highly paid professions. A lot of people like to cite Australia without realising what their system is actually like (they also have exceptionally high rates of immigrationn- higher than ours.

As for carers - it’s not merely the money. It’s that it is tedious, unpleasant and dirty and most people just have zero interest in that kind of work. No matter what the salaries. And we need carers who WANT to do it otherwise the quality of care is abysmal.

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 12:06

I never said I want to stop all immigration. I said we should aim for net zero immigration. People leaving the country should roughly equal people arriving - we have no spare housing!

So (as pic attached) in 2023 the number that left the UK to emigrate was around 480,000. You could use the number of people emigrating one year to set limits for immigration the following year. You would also want to keep track of Brits returning and factor them into your numbers, as well as people arriving by small boats/in lorries etc .

Unplanned humanitarian help such as helping x many people fleeing war in Ukraine or x many leaving Hong Kong you might need to go into an "overdraft" and allow more people in reducing ordinary visas the following year to compensate if we had gone over target.

This would ensure that when a government pledges to build a million extra homes for example that eases pressure on housing rather than not even keeping up with new arrivals and housing being ever more squeezed- and expensive!

Edit to add @TopPocketFind
Also to say whether other countries want to allow Brits to go and live there and the rules for that is up to them.

1SillySossij · 06/05/2025 12:04

Winelondon · 06/05/2025 10:10

yes agreed but.... Brexit has just aggravated these issues.

The main thing is Boris closing the economy down for a year and a half and paying millions of people's wages, have you forgotten that little thing called the pandemic?

JHound · 06/05/2025 12:03

Dogpatter · 06/05/2025 11:57

It hasn’t delivered what was promised because the civil service and government don’t actually want to deliver it, so have intentionally implemented it poorly because they don’t want it to work.

Its weaponised incompetence on an international level and an appalling example of politicians who would rather be proved right than do what is best for their country

What was promised and how are the civil service and government blocking it?

JHound · 06/05/2025 12:02

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 11:07

All immigration that takes us over a net balance of zero (numbers of people leaving versus numbers arriving roughly) as we have zero excess of housing.

I am reading today about the government looking at visas for people who are most likely to overstay e.g. come as students and later claim asylum. I've chatted to someone myself whose family has come on a student visa from Nigeria. They were totally open that the person "studying" in no way needed the degree and was highly educated in Nigeria but it was a route into Britain for the whole family.

I am not sure why that is an issue? Would be migrant chooses a specific route that increases their likelihood of being able to move to the UK.

I did the same when I moved to Australia.

rockstarshoes · 06/05/2025 12:00

Dogpatter · 06/05/2025 11:57

It hasn’t delivered what was promised because the civil service and government don’t actually want to deliver it, so have intentionally implemented it poorly because they don’t want it to work.

Its weaponised incompetence on an international level and an appalling example of politicians who would rather be proved right than do what is best for their country

bloody Boris Johnson got it done with his oven ready deal!
He won the 2019 General Election on that promise!

How did you want it delivered?

Dogpatter · 06/05/2025 11:57

It hasn’t delivered what was promised because the civil service and government don’t actually want to deliver it, so have intentionally implemented it poorly because they don’t want it to work.

Its weaponised incompetence on an international level and an appalling example of politicians who would rather be proved right than do what is best for their country

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 11:54

EasternStandard · 06/05/2025 11:35

Care visas are a large part of what we grant. I think @Winter2020 makes some good points. Whether we want to replace that care ourselves by doing it or paying more for it is another question.

What about both, better wages and working conditions would attract more UK workers.

Southwestten · 06/05/2025 11:53

Referenda are not a one time thing.

@MrsSkylerWhite how long should we wait for the next EU referendum? Also, if there is such enthusiasm to rejoin, do you think the government will organise another one before the next election?

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 11:42

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 11:32

If I had the authority I would copy the Australian model and prioritise people where we had a genuine skills shortage and they had a genuine skill.

Like the UK's skilled workers visa scheme?

Perhaps - I'm not familiar with the rules of that. If they are actually highly skilled and it's not possible to train or employ British people then yes - up to the limit of net zero immigration - entries = leavers.

If the "skilled worker visa scheme" includes all the care workers and general health care assistant /other jobs that you can learn to do in a few weeks or months then no. I work in care and it is not a skill we need to hunt the world for. The people coming from abroad to work in care are not "highly skilled" (though they might be very nice). No "skilled visas" should be neccessary for any job that someone can train up for in a few weeks or months.

EasternStandard · 06/05/2025 11:35

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 11:32

If I had the authority I would copy the Australian model and prioritise people where we had a genuine skills shortage and they had a genuine skill.

Like the UK's skilled workers visa scheme?

Care visas are a large part of what we grant. I think @Winter2020 makes some good points. Whether we want to replace that care ourselves by doing it or paying more for it is another question.

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 11:32

If I had the authority I would copy the Australian model and prioritise people where we had a genuine skills shortage and they had a genuine skill.

Like the UK's skilled workers visa scheme?