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To want Brexit be reversed

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BeKookySheep · 05/05/2025 10:59

I don’t normally post about politics, but this has been playing on my mind for a while. I wasn’t super political before the referendum — just a mum trying to do her best for her family. But now, years later, I really feel like Brexit hasn’t delivered what we were promised. And I think we should seriously start talking about reversing it.

My eldest is 16, really bright, and had dreams of studying languages and maybe doing a year abroad. We looked into Erasmus a while ago, but that’s gone now. And the cost and hassle of studying or working in Europe is so much higher now. She asked me, “Why is it so much harder for us than it was for you, Mum?” And honestly, I didn’t know what to say. It hit me hard.

Everything’s more expensive — our food shop has gone up loads, and don’t even get me started on getting certain things for school packed lunches! Little things, but they add up. My brother runs a small business and he's drowning in paperwork just to send stuff to Ireland. And a friend of mine left the NHS because she felt so overstretched — they can’t recruit enough staff anymore, especially from Europe.

Brexit hasn’t made anything better. It’s just made life harder in so many small but important ways. And if something clearly isn’t working — and is limiting our children’s futures — why shouldn’t we talk about changing it?

We tell our kids it’s okay to admit when something’s not right and make it better. Maybe it’s time we took our own advice.

Would love to hear if others are feeling the same. Has Brexit made life harder for your family too?

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TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 22:26

EasternStandard · 06/05/2025 22:22

The boat thing comes up a lot but it’s more to do with lorries and suffocation risk which the public reacted to causing a clamp down.

Brexit had an impact on refugees crossing the Channel in boats.

Unless you can provide evidence otherwise?

EasternStandard · 06/05/2025 22:22

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 22:20

Those 4* hotels are basic rooms often shared, not luxury.

Where would you prefer to house them, tents like Jenkyns is proposing?

Befote 2018, boat crossings weren't recorded as they were so rare

And immigrants don't get benefits

The boat thing comes up a lot but it’s more to do with lorries and suffocation risk which the public reacted to causing a clamp down.

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 22:20

caringcarer · 06/05/2025 22:16

We don't need to stop immigration. We need to stop unskilled immigration by raising the earnings a person has to earn to live in UK. Atm people are coming in waiting in restaurants and their employers are stating they are skilled yet pay them minimal wage. Anyone earning less than £40k shouldn't be allowed in. We need to focus on illegal immigration and stop putting illegal immigrants I to 4* hotels costing £145 per night. 11k illegal immigrants come over on boats since KS has been in power. That's up 40 percent on previous year. There should be a ban on immigrants claiming benefits until they have paid into our tax system for 5 years.

Those 4* hotels are basic rooms often shared, not luxury.

Where would you prefer to house them, tents like Jenkyns is proposing?

Befote 2018, boat crossings weren't recorded as they were so rare

And immigrants don't get benefits

caringcarer · 06/05/2025 22:16

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 11:51

Whatever our housing, public services, labour market, benefits system etc. are designed to absorb.

I don't know how you would quantify the above but we don't have enough young people to support the ageing population. So if it's no immigration, then we need to raise taxes & means test/move out the state pension. What other options are there?

We don't need to stop immigration. We need to stop unskilled immigration by raising the earnings a person has to earn to live in UK. Atm people are coming in waiting in restaurants and their employers are stating they are skilled yet pay them minimal wage. Anyone earning less than £40k shouldn't be allowed in. We need to focus on illegal immigration and stop putting illegal immigrants I to 4* hotels costing £145 per night. 11k illegal immigrants come over on boats since KS has been in power. That's up 40 percent on previous year. There should be a ban on immigrants claiming benefits until they have paid into our tax system for 5 years.

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 22:15

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 22:07

Sir Keir Starmer has struck Britain’s biggest post-Brexit trade deal, hailing a “landmark” agreement with India that will boost trade with the country by £25.5bn.
In what the prime minister is billing as a major coup, he said the agreement, which focuses on whisky, gin, cars and cosmetics, will boost the economy and cut prices for consumers.

It's a step in the right direction undoing the damage Brexit has caused.

Rummly · 06/05/2025 22:13

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 22:07

Sir Keir Starmer has struck Britain’s biggest post-Brexit trade deal, hailing a “landmark” agreement with India that will boost trade with the country by £25.5bn.
In what the prime minister is billing as a major coup, he said the agreement, which focuses on whisky, gin, cars and cosmetics, will boost the economy and cut prices for consumers.

TBH, a well thought-out deal with Mumsnet users would raise £25bn in gin and cosmetics sales.

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 22:07

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 21:59

I take that as a No

Sir Keir Starmer has struck Britain’s biggest post-Brexit trade deal, hailing a “landmark” agreement with India that will boost trade with the country by £25.5bn.
In what the prime minister is billing as a major coup, he said the agreement, which focuses on whisky, gin, cars and cosmetics, will boost the economy and cut prices for consumers.

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 21:59

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 21:56

If you pay me £55,000.

I take that as a No

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 21:56

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 21:37

Can you provide a report on how Brexit has benefitted the UK's economy?

If you pay me £55,000.

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 21:54

@Rummly
pro-EU economists must have been very poor at making a case against Brexit

I've found this pro-remain economist being interviewed by Andrew Neil - the economist didn't do very well - quite amusing to watch;

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p03wftdw

TopPocketFind · 06/05/2025 21:37

Can you provide a report on how Brexit has benefitted the UK's economy?

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 21:30

EasternStandard · 06/05/2025 21:24

You’d need a few takes and a cross section. It’s good if people respond to a report.

Critique of another recent report here - in fact the BBC is criticised in how they presented it;

https://thecritic.co.uk/the-effects-of-brexit-are-still-being-misreported/

EasternStandard · 06/05/2025 21:24

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 20:53

That particular report has been strongly criticised here;

https://capx.co/sadiq-khans-brexit-figures-are-straight-out-of-fantasyland

Not to mention that Sadiq Khan paid £55,000 for the report.

You’d need a few takes and a cross section. It’s good if people respond to a report.

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 21:21

rockstarshoes · 05/05/2025 23:18

I can’t read a Brexit thread without thinking of the Emily Maitless quote

“It might take our producers five minutes to find 60 economists who feared Brexit and five hours to find a sole voice who espoused it.
“But by the time we went on air we simply had one of each; we presented this unequal effort to our audience as balance. It wasn’t.”
She added: “I’d later learn that the ungainly name for this myopic style of journalism: ‘both-sideism’, which talks to the way it reaches a superficial balance while obscuring a deeper truth.”

We were absolutely screwed over!

Even if her anecdote is correct (although probably exaggerated) it's frankly unbelievable that Maitlis and her colleagues did not robustly challenge everyone who appeared on the programme. Of course they did. Sour grapes.

You can't hold a referendum and then only present one side. Presumably most economists thought there would be varying degrees of negative economic effects in the event of Scottish Independence as well - does Emily Maitlis think the pro-independence team should have been hidden away?

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 20:53

Winelondon · 06/05/2025 10:12

That particular report has been strongly criticised here;

https://capx.co/sadiq-khans-brexit-figures-are-straight-out-of-fantasyland

Not to mention that Sadiq Khan paid £55,000 for the report.

Clavinova · 06/05/2025 20:44

FridayorSaturdaywhicheversuits · 06/05/2025 06:57

Yes but that wasn’t a direct benefit of Brexit as it was peddled to be; it was the consequence of a pandemic.

The article I took the figures from specified they were pre-Covid figures - so tax year 2019/20 ending March 2020. Not a direct benefit from Brexit but delivered all the same.

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 20:32

GasPanic · 06/05/2025 17:21

I see big trade deal with India in the news today.

All of these deals mean Brexit is further and further away from being reversed, which is good news.

Closer and friendly ties with Europe, certainly. Rejoin the EU ? No way.

A trade deal with India could be good but dear God why do we have to subsidise Indian workers who have been seconded to the UK - and their employers- as they are going to be exempt from NI contributions for up to three years? That's so tone deaf when we've just had a hike on NI.
And well... of course it will mean more immigration. Not a problem with me but will be for some.

FrippEnos · 06/05/2025 19:17

Keepingthingsinteresting · 06/05/2025 07:57

If that is true the brexiteers have brought it on themselves, they cannot expect to fuck up our country and economy through their stupidity they expect everyone to be nice to them.

But they should be able to have a discussion without the name calling and general BS that was and still is around now.
And lets be honest the remain campaign was shite and most remainers arguments on here stopped at immigration and name calling.

There were very few that even tried to get passed that.

OonaStubbs · 06/05/2025 18:16

Theunamedcat · 06/05/2025 08:24

It was advisory they gave the impression it wouldn't happen either way they were simply gauging the will of the people I don't think they would have voted that way had the government nor put it in those terms

That isn't true at all. The leaflet that the government sent out to every household in the UK said "This is your decision. The Government will implement what you decide.".
I don't know what would have happened if leave and won the vote but the government and then said "sorry, we aren't leaving". It would have destroyed all faith in democracy.

Walkaround · 06/05/2025 18:06

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 08:09

It isn't difficult to say no to (non small boat) immigration . Now we have left the EU there is no right to free movement. The governments in power simply haven't had the will. If they don't find some motivation to reduce numbers right down they won't be in power again and we will have a reform government.

Yes tackling the boats is very difficult but they are not even doing the easy stuff. Perrhaps people would be more understanding of the difficulties of stopping the boats (while still expecting progress) if 900,000 other people (net) weren't being allowed in.

Edit to add: when people are actually fleeing danger e.g. the Ukraine war woman and children are well represented if not the majority. Remarkable that for people arriving on small boats the young men are "persecuted" and their women and children left behind. They are economic migrants else they wouldn't leave their families behind would they?

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Regarding your last paragraph, @Winter2020 , which you added with your edit, are you saying that it is an acceptable catch-all for all illegal migrants, that if they are young, lone men we send them home on the basis they can’t be fleeing danger, because they are men, so we can reject their claims for asylum or humanitarian protection without further investigation? And if they are women and children, we should be inclined to welcome them in and give their children school places, because they must be in danger to have taken the risk of travelling here? Do you think it’s that simple to tell between genuine claims and bogus claims? Or would the next argument be that those with children are just looking for a free education for their kids and are therefore clearly economic migrants?

GasPanic · 06/05/2025 17:21

I see big trade deal with India in the news today.

All of these deals mean Brexit is further and further away from being reversed, which is good news.

Closer and friendly ties with Europe, certainly. Rejoin the EU ? No way.

HopingForTheBest25 · 06/05/2025 17:18

@StMarie4methe point I was making is that it's maybe easier to swim against the tide and resist pressure on our own court judgements, if we aren't part of an EU which has powerful members whose laws are different and whose judgements contrast with our own. This might tirn out yo he a long term benefit of Brexit - idk, which is why I asked the question. The trans situation is an example but you have been deliberately obtuse and reduced it to fear of TW peeing in a loo with women, when you know full well that SC judgement was about safety, sport, women's refuges, access to money and services set aside for us!

Walkaround · 06/05/2025 16:21

Winter2020 · 06/05/2025 12:25

The issue is that we have no spare housing and are increasing our population 900,000 in one year.

It’s not entirely true that we have no spare housing. There are plenty of empty investment properties, second homes, holiday lets, houses with minimal occupancy. Everything is a political choice, not just immigration.

As for paying care workers more to look after the elderly - with a rapidly ageing population and capitalism as a model, that’s not going to work, as there is too much demand and we have not quite yet resorted to telling people they will only get any care if they can afford to pay for it themselves. Making people spend their every last penny on care until they are destitute rather than protecting their houses for inheritance might help for a while, until that source of wealth dries up, too, but there comes a point when even the wealth of the wealthy retiree runs out. Of course, we could go back to telling women their role is in the home, caring for their children and elderly relatives without bothering the state and without expecting pay for it, because a good woman does it for love and duty? Would that appeal?

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 06/05/2025 15:48

Charlize43 · 05/05/2025 12:53

I voted remain, but have witnessed from European friends a kind of glee that we are up shit's creek. Call it schadenfreude, if you like. I'm not sure they'd have us back.

I do think those responsible for the Brexit bus and misinformation should be in prison. But there seems to be no accountability in politics.

That’s individual people though. Not necessarily leaders who understand the pros and cons.

It’s not surprising of course!

FridayorSaturdaywhicheversuits · 06/05/2025 15:11

StandFirm · 06/05/2025 07:50

Another is that if you think that no economist should have been allowed to present a pro-Brexit view, which according to Maitlis is the logic of interviewing any EU-supporting economist, it would be an admission that no argument against EU membership can be tolerated at all.

No, that's not what she says. Her quote states very clearly that they had 60 times more luck finding pro EU economists than pro-Brexit ones. What she means is that it tells you something about the ratio of pro v anti in the economists community. But if you present a 1/60 ratio as 1/2 you are clearly biased. That's her point. It's not about allowing an opinion, it's about reflecting a fact (ie. that only 1 in 60 economists that they talked to was in favour of leave). Journalists should be about reporting facts, not opinion.

Absolutely this!

As the old newspaper quote goes,

If One Person Says It’s Raining and Another Says It’s Not Raining Then the Journalist Should Look Out the Window and Report the Truth

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